My mother wants to chose the name, Should I let her?

Question

I've had the names for my baby picked out since I was 15 (I'm 20 now). I'm very big on making the names meaningful. Such as my top boy's name is Jason Kane. How I got that name has a story of its own (I'm a big horror fan!) But the name itself mean Healing Warrior. However my mother is set on the boy's name being Reagen Kane. But I dont like that name at all! The girl's name I picked out is Carla Tracey, which is my grandmothers name and my mothers name. But my mother thinks its hould be Carlie Dawn. Which is a short for Carla and my middle name. I like to take my mom's advice but should I listen to her on this subject? I am so unsure. I dont even know the sex of the baby yet. I love the names I picked, But my mom thinks they sound too formal or old.... Please Help

Please Give me some more Ideas.... Or how I should tell my mom I am going to name them.

WOW! such a response! thanks, I think with this advice I can stand up and tell my mom that I will keep the names that I chose! Thanks so much!!

I have tried to included the father in this and he just shrugs and then hugs me and says its my choice to name it. He'll be happy with what I choose. He's been very supportive of MOST of the names we've (mostly me!) come up this.

Answer 1

What about your husband, surely you and he should choose the name together? I will not let my mother name my baby, she allready had the chance to name me and her other children. It is your baby and remember a name is very important. I like Jason kane, nice strong name. Reagan sounds too much like that old fool Ronnie Reagan. Put your foot down. Carla Tracey is also cool. Good luck

Answer 2

She is thinking she has more control over this baby than she really does. Be prepared for her to try to control raising this baby as well.

Unfortunately, it wont be real easy to tell your mom to back off, but thats what you have to do. When she keeps insisting on a name that she wants, tell her right out, "Mom, I appreciate your ideas for the baby's name, but I am going to choose Jason Kane or Carla Tracey." Then end the conversation. You do not need to argue about it with your mother. You certainly wouldn't want to name your child something you don't like, just because of an overbearing mother. She needs to learn her role as a grand mother this time around.

Answer 3

Though we should always respect our parents. The naming of the baby is your right. You can have a talk with your mom and tell her your feelings, but ultimately the choice is yours. What is with Reagen, where does this name come from? Does mom have some reason for this name it is more formal then Jason, what is wrong with old school names? I have no opinion on new names, but mom has to understand this is your choice. I would hope she doesn't get upset with you for not choosing her choices.

Answer 4

No way! She already had her time with naming kids, now it's your turn! Don't let her take that away from you! My mom wasn't fond of the name I picked either, but it was my choice. It was a popular name, but I had liked it long before it became so popular, so I used it anyway cuz there was nothing I liked better. Once the baby is born, the name becomes natural, and everyone gets used to it anyway. Do what you want to do, and ignore your mother's advice. This is your opportunity to do what pleases you!

Answer 5

Don't feel pressured, it's your decision at the end of the day and by all means listen to what her or others have to suggest... you never know you may pick completely different names by the time your baby is born. It should be a fun thing and your mum is just making her suggestions. She should understand that the end desicion is yours, and if she's got her head screwed on properly she should respect that.

For me I love the girls names - Amelie, Ava, Erin and Lily
and boys - Jack, Joey, Jude, Finn, Oli

Good luck!

Answer 6

NO! You don't let anyone name your kids. That's your first official duty as a mommy! Don't let anyone take that away. Besides your mom already had her turn naming kids. Now it's your turn. I went through this same thing with my in-laws. They all had their suggestions and comments and telling me what I should name my kid. I told them all flat. NO! Me and my husband will pick a name WE both like. And of course the name we chose nobody likes. But oh well. My sister-in-law tried to "talk me out of it". I told her. If you want to name a kid so bad. Make one and you can name it Butt Monkey if you want to. But my baby's name is set. But thank you for your input.

Answer 7

My mom tried to do the same thing.I just looked at her one day and said you know what you had children and you named us what you wanted and now it's time for me to be a mother to my child and it's going to start with the name of my baby.Just let her know that you love her and that you want her around but also let her know that your the mother.Trust me!!
My mom wanted to do everything it was like she was having another baby but with out the labor.

Answer 8

NO... This is your body and your baby she had her chance to name you and any of her other children... If you have a name picked... stick with it!! This is your turn and your child!!I like the names you picked, but even my opinion doesn't matter!! all that matters is you and the baby's father! It's nice that you consider what your parents think but in the end it's your child and your decision!

Answer 9

Your mom has the right to suggest names. She does not get the privilege of naming your child. Did you catch the last part of the sentence YOUR CHILD. Good luck to you and the names you picked are very nice.

Answer 10

This is your baby and your job to name him/her. Sure you can take your mother's suggestions into consideration but it's ultimately your decision. She may not be happy if you don't allow her to name him/her but she can't stay mad forever. I involved my mother in the selection process. But I ultimately made the decision to name my daughter. As stated before, it's your decision. You are the baby's mother and she shouldn't make you feel bad for not letting her name the child.