everyone says I'm not facially disfigured and i look fine and to hold my head up high so what is wrong with me

Question

evevn my dr said yesterday i was an attractive person so why have other people called me ugly i sometimes dont gooout of the house is it possible that i can look worsethan the elepahnt man or is that in my mind why can i only take on what nasty people have called me and not the good i cant get the put downs out of my head dont know what to do thanks

also when i go out now it si head up or down

Answer 1

One time someone I thought loved and cared for me was laughing during a party.. so I walked up behind him only to find out he was making fun of my nose. He and his friend were standing there actually doing "oneliners" about my nose. I could not believe my ears. I stood there and looked at the beer bellies.. the ruddy necks predicting high blood pressure, the knowledge that both of them had cheated on their spouses and laughed about that as well ...and thought.. hmmmm...things that make ya go hmmmmm.

Consider the source and let it go. You may be overly sensitive and who ever called you ugly is probably in trouble emotionally. Ok? Do not let people who are that insensitive rule your life.

Oh..and by the way ... I rather like my nose. It is the portal for precious air... It is there when I need to cry and blow it ... It is all in all.. a very nice nose. And my parents love it too and so do my siblings and friends.

Answer 2

Although no doubt what people have said to you has had a big influence on the way you view yourself, have you considered that you may suffer from body dysmorphic disorder? This is a condition characterised by the person with it feeling that they are hideously unattractive when in fact this is not the case.

People put others down all the time for various reasons and it is easy to listen to what they have said and consider it to be the truth. However, when people have said this to you think about their motives. They may actually be jealous of your looks or something else, be criticising you to make themselves feel better or just be plain nasty! Do not let these people ruin your life, you deserve better than that.

No one is perfect and we all have things that we dislike about ourselves but when it begins to ruin our confidence and affect our daily life then we need to take action on it. You may need some sort of counselling or therapy to help you. Perhaps while you are considering whether this would be a good idea you could work on enhancing the features about you that you know are good. Ask a friend if you are unsure of what are your best ones. For example, I always thought I had horribly thin lips until a make-up artist told me they were actually quite full and now I accentuate them with some lipgloss.

Please remember, you called them 'nasty people' and that is what they are. Someone who criticises the looks of another is an idiot, there is more in life than looks and beauty and they are a shallow person if they judge people on their face alone.

Answer 3

The exterior beauty thing will be the ruin of us all. Some people that aren't plastic can see the real you, whats underneath. Then theres some that never will. So when you do go out from the security of you home and into the confusion of the outside world, just be happy inside. Don't consume yourself with what others think. In life, most people only have a few people that they can really call a friend. So just leave your home knowing that. Go enjoy your day, .....Tis the season......

Answer 4

Look, people call other people all kinds of nasty things just to be nasty. That's their game. It's horrible!

The best thing to do is not let them get to you. If someone says you're attractive, then you're attractive. If you take care of your appearance and your personal hygiene and space, that's attractive too. It's making the most of yourself. That's what counts.

Sometimes other people are threatened by this and do the name-calling thing. However, the fact that they are threatened is THEIR problem, NOT yours. It's unfortunate if they catch you on a day when you're feeling a little under the weather ... but again, you shouldn't and you needn't let other people's issues get to you.

Develop a thicker skin, my dear. And learn to tell those jerks to feck off back under the stones where they were hatched.

Answer 5

You shouldn't give a **** about what other people think. If you have someone putting you down for no apparent reason, then he must have his own problems - don't let these type of people affect your life.

I could think one person is attractive, then I'd have a friend that would think the opposite. Everyone is different.

Answer 6

head up every time hunni
the people who are putting you down are the ones who are struggling to deal with their own insecurities tell um to stick it