He has a problem with poker. He plays 3 or 4 times a week. He treated me like **** my entire pregnancy, and would leave me all the time on the weekends to play. So I was pretty much alone all the time. Well when I had the baby by emergency -section..the same day later that night he never came back from taking my mom home home. I called and called, and he never answered. He finally showed up at five in the morning the next day and said he had been arrested for driving without a license. Well he never had a ticket to show me, and when I asked him a couple days later when court was he said "they said they would send me something in the mail". I knew something was fishy so I looked at the arrest records on the online court system, and there was no record of him being arrested. So I confronted him about it...and he said he really did get arrested. What do I do?? I dont want to believe he would leave me in the state I was in...but if I find out he did I dont know if I want to stay with him.
2007-11-20 21:03:48 · 19 answers · asked by Paralegal1982 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
sounds like he either has a huge problem with gambling or he is just a jerk. it's one thing to break a date for poker but the day you daughter is born. that is a problem. i think you need to set him down and talk.
2007-11-20 21:09:02 · answer #1 · answered by ? 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It All Depends If You Trust Him But I Have The Impression You Don't So I Think You Should Just Wait Until He Confuses When The Paper From Court Doesn't Come Because if You Blame Him & It Ends Up Being True That He Did Get Arrested Then You'll Feel Stupid & Bad!
2007-11-20 21:10:17 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I am guessing that his behavior has been going on for longer then you have been pregnant. Why did you decide to have a baby when he treats you like that? Most people will either say "because I love him", or "I don't know". If he has an addiction to gambling suggest he seek some sort of help or else you pack your things, take the baby, and leave. You don't want to be with a man who holds you and your daughter second to poker. You are worth more than that. He doesn't sound like a real man to me.
I think you should leave, and don't think to yourself that you don't want your daughter growing up without a dad. Because if she grows up watching you being treated like that she will end up with a man who will treat her badly as well. You guys deserve better.
2007-11-20 21:09:14 · answer #3 · answered by Konjo Nashi Pirate™ 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You need to look at this from his point of veiw some what. Now during your pregnacy you probably did not make love near as much, you were moody, upset, haveing craveings, ect , ect. Now he put up with all that as best he could. Now he goes and plays poker after the baby is born. Why??? Because he needs to have a break and he knows everything is ok now and he is just trying to DE- Stress!! Things will be just fine now, give him a break, I went fishing after all mine were born and my wife acted just like you until I clued her in. then she realized what a pain in the butt she had been and that I was under just as much stress!
2007-11-21 01:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thing is, you don't know if it's just poker, there could be ladies there and they are playing strip poker... =(... which is cheatin' of course... basically, he treated you like crap during the pregnancy because he knows a child would "mess up his poker life"... yes, you should be angry... he should have went home to be sure everything was ready for the new little baby!!! =) ugh!!! I would give him an ultimatum, you and the baby or his poker life... and next time he went, I'd leave... or kick him out... good luck, don't put up w/ it... !!!
2007-11-20 22:48:24 · answer #5 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My partner wasn't even there for the birth, and no-one could find him. I had an emergency caeser on my own. He was a liar, a gambler, lazy and selfish. I've been a single mum for nearly 7 years now. It's hard but better then being with someone you can't trust, and who offers no support. You need to decide if he's worth it it, because it won't be only you who will suffer, but your baby too.
2007-11-20 21:09:08 · answer #6 · answered by sharkgirl 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The ticket story is just the final straw isn't it?
You know you don't want to stay with him and now you need the guts to do it.
He hasn't shown you the respect you deserve and now you have a daughter to look out for too. Do you want her to grow up in that environment?
Follow you heart, get support from your family and go.
Maybe it'll shock him into better behaviour and he'll wake up, if not it'll still be the best thing you ever do.
2007-11-20 21:14:01 · answer #7 · answered by grrrl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a good idea to think if you want to stay or not. He always leave you whenever he like just for the sake of playing poker.
2007-11-20 21:52:56 · answer #8 · answered by angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a wife,i salute your patience for such a husband. But i can feel your heartache's.
Have you tried to help him with his poker habit?
He should know that your family is bigger by 1child added.Give him a chance to proof his is tell you the truth and the rest you know what best for your child/children and yourself. Stand tall friend.
2007-11-20 22:24:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly he is not worth your time love he doesn't deserve you or your baby, pack your bags or kick him out.
If he lies about this god knows what else he has lied about.
Youv'e just had a baby this should be the happiest time of your life instead your left high and dry, the man does not care about you.
What do you need him to do to prove that.
2007-11-20 21:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by happy to 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋