and she believes that he will never cheat on her.What she doesn't know is that when she's not home he brings girls to their house to have sex and he tells them that his not married.
So i dicided not to tell myfriend as it's not my bisiness,a my doing the right thing.She trust him too much and they have 2 children together and they've been married for almost 10 yrs.
How do i know this -My friend who is a friend of one of his girl friend told me.
She saw them coming from my house and she ask me weather i know that guy and i said yes his my friend's husband and she told me everything about him she even knows his name.
2007-11-20 19:18:42 · 17 answers · asked by zoleka k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think the person who told me this is telling the thruth becouse my friend is been complaining to me that her husband is coming home @3H00 in the morning every weekend and still believes that he will never cheat on her.
that's her problem but one the thruth will come out.
And my husband told me to stay away from this maybe she knows she's in denial she needs to wake up and stop
acting like a fool and by not telling her it's not like i'm not a true friend.
2007-11-20 20:02:14 · update #1
How do you know they are having sex?
Maybe they are praying.
2007-11-20 19:28:29 · answer #1 · answered by Ripose 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You definitely have to tell your friend. Like the other person said, if you don't tell her you're not a true friend. Just put yourself in her position, wouldn't you want to know, wouldn't you expect that to be your friend's duty to tell you? Of course it isn't going to be easy to tell her, and no she will not believe you at first, but find ways to prove it to her...maybe set up a time when you two are supposed to be out and he thinks there is no way she would come home, then just stop on in the house and catch him in the act. But make sure you are positive about this whole thing, if you don't have your facts straight you could ruin everything, between the two of you and the trust that she thought she had for her husband.
Good luck...and pray for your friend!
2007-11-20 19:37:46 · answer #2 · answered by Dani 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This sounds a little too 3rd hand info to go an make an accusation. If I saw with my own eyes a friends spouse holding hands/kissing somebody else at their residence, then I might tell them.
This just sounds like it could be hurtful gossip.
2007-11-20 19:30:50 · answer #3 · answered by bob 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
tell her what you heard. even if it is idle gossip it is something your friend will need to investigate for herself. maybe she could install a hidden video camera in a main area of the house, or if she can afford it hire a private detective. or you could have another friend that he doesn't know flirt w/ him and see how he reacts. or you could connect her with your other friend who knows everything and let them sort it out themselves. what you do NOT want to do is be silent, if her hubby is having sex with various girls there's a risk to her health. because what happens if one of these girls has an STD like AIDS and their protection does not work (assuming they are even using protection) then your friend could contract the STD even though she was a faithful and trusting wife. so if you are a good friend you need to tell her now!!!
2007-11-20 19:46:36 · answer #4 · answered by kallista 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her. She might not believe you but tell her anyway. I would also get the evidence. The grapevine is not a good source. Get to the bottom of what is going on and tell her soon. Can you get the girlfriend to talk? Take pictures? It is for her own good and he is risking her health and safety. Be a friend!
2007-11-20 19:28:57 · answer #5 · answered by kim h 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would be her real friend and let her know the truth, she deserves the truth. She may get mad at you thinking that you are telling lies. But be there for her when she realizes what he has done ... admitting that your husband has cheated is hard and she will need you. You may need to tell her about your friend's friend.
2007-11-20 19:33:17 · answer #6 · answered by browneyes 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
oh wow she knows his name, so what you have not witness any of this and no married man is going to have girls over and tell them he is not married because they would want to stop and visit at anytime so how would he have ALL these different girls under that type of circumstance. You should continue to MYOB.
2007-11-20 19:37:12 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You need to stay completely out of the situation. Believe me. If he's cheating chances are she already knows or suspects. Stay out of it. It's not your business.
2007-11-21 01:21:58 · answer #8 · answered by oh_my_its_linda 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would tell her what you heard, not tell her that it is something you personally believe or saw with your own eyes, just simply indicate that you heard form other women this story and she should do her investigation.
2007-11-20 19:32:52 · answer #9 · answered by FunkyMonkey 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree with the person above. Just imagine if that was you, wouldn't you want to know if your husband was cheating on you?
2007-11-20 19:25:58 · answer #10 · answered by Angelica 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I don't think you have any proof of anything. This could have all started because of a jealous woman who wanted to ruin his marriage.
And, so what if she knows his name? Lots of people who I don't have sex with know my name, that proves nothing.
2007-11-20 19:30:36 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋