Oh, Men......?

Question

I was watching news and most of the stories were about sexually perverted men's accusations.
I have rarely seen women ever involved this kind of sexually distracted behavior comparing to men.

Why is it so hard for men to control their sexual arousal and desire?

May I say, being unable to handle the animal-like instinct particularly the sexual instinct by humans' advanced level of logicality and rationality seems very close to animal and relatively less evolved than those who can restrain the instinctive emotion.

I am not saying being sexually active is wrong, but that they cannot manage and suppress the unreasonable instinct with their rationality and morals is hard to understand.

shark somethin': just like you cannot understand why the roaches are so rapid.

Answer 1

The limbic system in our brain which regulates sexual arousal and other pleasures is evolutionarily the oldest part of our brain's development. It's the most primitive. Connecting with the prefontal lobe of our brain, the limbic system also gives us our feelings of pleasure that we derive from problem-solving. It's a powerful part of us. The rise of humans has been largely the story of how well we have learned to consciously marshal the powerful reactions and drives that hail from our limbic system into more meaningful behaviors. Suppressing tears as in "big boys don't cry" is not meaningful. Learning not to eat our young simply because they taste good or refraining from biting ourselves in frenzies of fear or trusting each other enough to form social groups as we did as early primates is meaningful. Predatorial and exploitative behaviors in modern society are not meaningful and indicate lack of adequate cognitive self-determination. There are still baboons among us, comparatively speaking.

Answer 2

Men are sexual aggressors. We're stuck with it. Comes with the chromosones. It ain't as much fun as you might think.

Males and females don't have the same amount of sex drive. Ever seen what male dogs will do to each other to get at a b*itch in heat holed up under the barn? I have. Tear each other apart is what they'll do. Females won't. Canine, human or any other species.

If you want to go assigning culpability for our difficulty controlling ourselves sexually, blame - depending on which camp you come from - God or evolution. But please don't imply that the behavior you are tsk-tsking over is nothing more than a sex-specific character flaw and/or weakness that we merely choose not to have what appears to you to be adequate control over.

It's not that simple.

Answer 3

Wow...it staggers the mind how animal-like instinct, without logical thought or rationality, can accuse a whole segment of the population of being animal-like and without "logicality and rationality".

As a male growing up in an extreme-feminist man-hating household, I used to think that all women were naturally predisposed to hating men. As an adult I learned that both men and women can be good, logical, and loving partners and parents. I also learned that both men and women can behave with mindless instinct.

Both men and women enjoy sexual encounters, and both men and women enjoy the love and comfort of family.

To claim that all men act one such way and all women act another is to be completely ignorant of the men and women who walk by you on the street. Many of those men are good and decent people and many of those women are sexually deviant criminals (and vice-versa). For your own safety I suggest recognizing the difference by behaviour and not by sexist stereotypes.

Answer 4

The question is kinda ugly.

Consider the other side of that bent coin: "Why is it so hard for women to control their bestial urge to reproduce, when logic and rationality must dictate that another child will only make things worse here?" Would you think that a fair estimation of women?

The better question asks something like "How are we different from other animals?" or "Does the need of the herd trump the want of the gnu?" or "How do you reconcile conflicting wants within you?"

Answer 5

saying that sexually preverted men have a hard time controling their desire is very different from saying men have a problem controlling their desire. what news were you watching. and what were some of the specific stories about. the news I watch is about current events ( the war, local politics, etc) what sort of secret newscast are you watching that is mostly about perverted men's accusation. were these men making accusations or where people making accusations against the men.

Answer 6

Unfortunately, media is not interested in reporting positive news nowadays. So, we end up listening about all of the troubles in our society over and over... It also has very little to do with a real picture of the world and people who occupy it. In reality mentally challenged people of both genders have very little control over their basic urges. However, with a proper medical help, they can be productive members of society. If their condition is left unattended, they will be causing a lot of troubles to themselves and society at large.

Now, your question was not about mental patients, you simply stereotyped the entire gender. I can see why guys took offense: stereotypes are very hurtful, because they seldom represent the reality of any situation. In real world mentally healthy men make great friends, lovers and family members. They are intelligent, funny and very well mannered people. I can assure you, I prefer having them as friends for all those reasons. Their sexual desire is ruled by testosterone. It is a much more powerful need for males of the world, because of physiological reasons ( it is hormonal ). So, when a man is old enough to learn how to handle himself and his desires, he deserves respect. I would compare that to acquiring self knowledge for a female. I would describe it as one of the fundamental steps in personal growth.

Answer 7

The difficoult thing is not controlling sexual insticts as a man, but controlling them at all. Society encourages men into having no boundaries, and knowing no rejection. It may seem a going off topic, but it's not. Men and women are both part of the same species, both animals at heart, but lots of cultures, like ours, nurture their males into viewing the world in terms of "winning" and "failing".
When a young girl gets bullied at school, her father and brothers are encouraged to do something. When a young boy gets bullied, he's encouraged to beat the holy everythig out the bully and "be a man". When a girl cries, her friends talk with her, when a boy cry, his friends call him a crybaby, then hand him a beer.
Until recent times, society discouraged women into getting into a successfully career-oriented life. They had simply to stay home, and a housewife was called a "fullfilled woman". A man staying home was called a "unemployed drop-out". Someone who was a failure, unable to get the best car, the best work, to afford the... most pampered wife to show off.
So, when a sane woman gets dumped from her significant one, she's simply... sad, like everyone. And she rethinks the whole life with him.
When a man is dumped, if he's sane he does the same thing. If it's not he sees the whole thing like losing. Like he's cheated of something he just feels to have "conquered". He reverts to the neanderthal who stalked women at night with sticks and stones, banged them on their heads and claimed them for his harem.
In his twisted mind the women he "takes" become his own properties, so, he does what he wants.

Answer 8

Nature honey; NATURE!!! It is the way men are. It is a fact of life so please stop demonizing us and just accept us for what we are. We cannot help it. It's our nature! If you ask a man to tie a knot in it, you might as well ask him to walk outside, hold out his hands, and stop a tornado! It's just not possible. Of course, just like with you ladies, men also have varying degrees of desire and arousal depending on the individual man. Ever wonder why the dictionary applies the word; "Nymphomania" specifically to women? It is because ALL men are nymphomaniacs to an extent. Some more than others. Ever wonder why it is so easy for women to seduce men but so hard for men to seduce women? Think about it! Research it! If you want, let me know what you come up with. This is regarding women only. Men doing anything sexual with children is simply unacceptable!!!

Answer 9

Media isn't a source to be trusted as it is too biased.
Men are able to contain their urges, can't tar them all with the same brush and call them rampid sex-driven animals. As far as morals go, most men live by good morals and decency. You're just not giving them enough credit, you're seeing all men with short-sightedness.

Answer 10

If we could control our urges, the medicated women of the world would have no boyfriends. When it comes down to brass tacks, sheer desire is the ONLY reason some women (The REALLY gripy ones) even have mates.