Ok, My husband and I have been ttc for two months now. I ovulate sometime this week, and yet again, we have been trying... My sister-in-law called today and said she is pregnant. I do not know if I want to get pregnant now(might be too late for that, haha). I don't want her to think I am stealing her spot light so to speak. This is her first, and she is the only girl, so this pregnancy will be special for a lot of people. I hate to break our plans, but if I am planning on getting pg, we would be due within weeks of each other, possibly. I was pg for the first time at the same time as my sister, so I never knew how it felt to be the center of the pg lime light so to speak. How would any of you feel if someone came swooping in and stole the spotlight from you? Would you be mad, or irratated? I am curious to know your thoughts. :) I am nervous about getting pregnant and getting her upset... Anyone else had this problem or would feel upset in this situation?
2007-11-20 17:19:00 · 8 answers · asked by singingbamagal 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
I would not be upset. I had been trying to get pregnant for months then my sister told me she was pregnant and i was happy for her but then a couple weeks later she miscarried.
But within months both of us were pregnant at the same time. Our kids are 2 months apart and we both had them at 35 weeks. My sister and i are only 17 months apart ourselves.
Then in 2005 we were pregnant again at the same time which i miscarried and she had a little girl.
I was not mad. I have not tried to get pregnant though since then.
I would not change my plans though if that is what you want but i would not be upset because someone else got pregnant before i did.
2007-11-20 17:40:12 · answer #1 · answered by ஐ♥Julian'sMommy♥ஐ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I guess my question is do you and your sister in law have a good relationship?
Your SIL is obviously excited, and everyone else is too, and that is good. But TWO new babies in the family would be a double blessing!
I think it would be fun to be pregnant at the same time as someone you are close to. You'd have the chance to 'compare notes' so to speak, to go shopping together for baby items, someone to complain to about the nausea, sore boobs, backache, bloating, etc etc who would understand because she's in the same boat. Then, when the babies come along, they would be so close in age, it would be a special bond for them as cousins growing up together, particularly if they wind up being the same gender.
I get your feeling about not wanting to step on anyone's toes. I guess a huge part of this is whether you and your SIL have a good relationship or not. Maybe, if you don't, this could bring you closer together.
I don't think I would stop trying if I were you. You never know how long it may take you to actually conceive. If you do so right away, then it was meant to be. If not, well, it could take awhile, meaning you might get the chance to be all alone in the limelight anyway....
Whatever you decide to do - good luck. And Lots of Baby Dust, too!
2007-11-21 06:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Zigs 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, this has happened to me... twice. I set out to get pregnant and two friends announced their pregnancies before me. And I'm still not pregnant yet. So my advice is to KEEP going. You can't put your plans on hold because of someone else. I know what you're saying about being pregnant at the same time as someone else, but you don't even know how long it will take you. You may get pregnant this month, or it may be sometime next year. Do you really want to waste time waiting for someone else to "finish" her pregnancy?
The way I see it, someone is ALWAYS going to be announcing she's pregnant. That's how it works. But it shouldn't interfere with what you're trying to do. If you just happen to be pregnant at the same time, oh well...it happens. Just count your blessings and move on.
Good luck.
2007-11-21 01:43:23 · answer #3 · answered by ღ†Rocker Wife†ღ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I thought I was the only one that felt that way. Haha. When I got pregnant with my second child, two weeks later my cousin got pregnant. I felt like she was stealing my thunder in a way. But, don't worry. Just focus on your soon to be bun in the oven. Don't let anyone else make you feel like what you want or need is wrong.
2007-11-21 03:28:30 · answer #4 · answered by Sofia is here!!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i wood not care im 17 and i had my new baby boy 2 days ago and i was only 6mouths and i had my lil girl all most 2 years ago my 13 year old sister is pg now and she 3 mouths pre she got rape..
2007-11-21 01:47:50 · answer #5 · answered by $ I LOVE S.O.S $ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are way over thinking this. Be happy for her and yourself. When to have a baby is a choice a couple makes. And honestly, you'll find its great to have someone you can confide in thats going thru the same thing - besides those of us on yahoo answers. Having a baby, is too big of a deal, to be worried about this kind of stuff.
2007-11-21 01:25:31 · answer #6 · answered by lillilou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
When I found out I was pregnant in 2004, I also found out that my sister was also pregnant... But I didn't care... It was nice to have our kids be born a couple of weeks apart... I had a boy and she had a girl... It was nice sharing it with you... I never once thought about getting mad at her because of it you know... It just happened so I wouldn't take it at that... Wish you the best of luck... God Bless and HAPPY THANKSGIVING!
2007-11-21 15:27:31 · answer #7 · answered by ericachristyne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its not ur fault she got pregnant if u wanna baby then have one. if u are still confused talk to her about it she'll give ya the best answer!!!
goodluck
2007-11-21 01:25:16 · answer #8 · answered by ttc #1 4 years 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋