I am a british born, american raised man of pakistani decent. I just came back here in UK (place of birth) and

Question

dont understand why older asian men, and some younger and women wearing asian clothes.

In America (specifically Florida where I live) most asians wear western clothes
I hardly see a black man wearing a african clothes.

Why are asians so intent on wearing this all the time?

Once in a while is okay but whats wrong with English clothes.Especially men who wear shalwar. they look very very lazy and look unemployed.

Second question- Why are asians' friends predomanantly asian?

In america, probably 70% of my friends are white 20% are black and latino and the other 10% are mainly asian. I feel like a white man in America, ive lived there for 20 years and not a sinngle racist comment. Quite the contrary in the neighborhood I moved into I had people coming to my door with gift baskets and people inviting me to dinner

Here within six months i heard the word paki and all the time I see anti-immigration rhetoric. I dont completely blame white people but non-integration of asians

Answer 1

I live in Wigan, which has very few non-white residents, and work in Bolton, which has a high number of Asians, and Blackburn, which also has a large Asian community.

Blackburn is essentially 2 towns. A white enclave and an Asian enclave with virtually no interaction between the two. Bolton is not quite so bad. A good friend there (white) is married to an Indian muslim, and the street is mixed, and lots of people get into mixed relaitonships.

The word "paki" is one of my pet hates. There is a lot of ignorance in Britain. Worryingly too many people look upon skin colour as a mark of being an immigrant, which of course is not true. They also seem to think ALL people who have come into the country have done so illegally, which is also not true.

Answer 2

You're living in a completely different country with VERY different cultural ideas. Here in the US it has become acceptable, sometimes even better, to be different.

You also have to consider historical events, which include migrations. Here's an example:

Before the Civil War here in the US, there where the rich/middle class whites, the poor whites, and then the slaves, in that order regarding social status. After the war, the poor whites were on the same economic level as the freed slaves. Because they didn't want to feel inferior, those freed slaves were debased through insults and outrageous laws.

This is probably what is happening to you. When people migrate from one country to another, they are usually looking for jobs. In such cases, the natives will often react because they feel fear. Also, those immigrants will tend to work for cheaper wages, which can lead to poverty for everyone, including those natives who had been at the bottom of the social structure.

Answer 3

I've noticed this too. Perhaps it's because the Pakistani (and South Asian in general) population in the UK is much bigger than in the U.S., so they might feel more 'at home' and not pressured to integrate as much as in the U.S. where they stick out more if they don't. Of course there are exceptions everywhere, but from what I've seen, majority of the Pakistani Americans I've come across are assimilated. When I went to England, I noticed there was some...tension in some places, and have heard a bit about gang problems. (Which is unheard of in the U.S. among South Asians.) And no, not marrying outside your race ≠ not assimilating. That's a stupid criteria for testing how 'assimilated' someone is.

Answer 4

I guess Asians find it easier to make friends with other Asians because they are from the same culture have similar beliefs etc. I used to work for a Pizza delivery company and I was the only English female driver there, the rest were Asian blokes. Most of them were very nice but had the odd few who were a bit strange. I dated 3 Pakistani blokes and they didn't wanna be seen in public with me. One after a month told me he was married, the other was worried about his reputation in the Asian community and I found out he was lieing and just after sex and the other also worried about his reputation. I met a few at work who were a bit backward thinking and have weird ideas about Western women. I found it hard when I have dated Asian men because some of their families don't approve and some aren't interested in any long term relationships. I have also met some very nice Asian people though. I have a friend in Pakistan who is one of the nicest blokes I've met. There was a bloke at work who was very nice to and I have a very good friend and his family who are lovely people. I went to my friends wedding party and everyone including British people that were there wore Asian dress. It was a lot of fun.

Answer 5

I f you want my opinion the problem is that the Asian people in UK try to keep the same life stile that they have in the country of origin. This prevents the full integration.
I am not British but my wife is. We went to London to the theatre and we staid in an hotel suite in the eastern end of London. We fancied an ham sandwich and it has been impossible to find one within walking distance. I know that is not a vital issue but contributes to the finger pointing of some people.FROM BOTH SIDES.
You had (and still have) this type of problem with China Towns

Answer 6

I am English born and bred.

My nephew and neice are part Indian. Due to certain violent actions of Asian youths who recruited thugs from various parts of this country, they have various insults thrown at them.

I cannot walk unmolested in the area of my birth nor in another area in which I lived as a child.

I have been spat on by muslim youths, had my car spat on, been called white *****, and asked why I was in this area as i was the wrong colour!

I have been called racist for thinking this behaviour is disgusting and alarming.

Answer 7

what you say is true...........

i wonder why the mode of dress appropriate in the climate of an asian country is worn in england.........it doesn't look well with a coat over the top

i have just been for a short trip and saw two men wearing white tunics and trousers (NOVEMBER)

i don't get it

it seems to be it is about being and looking different and not wanting to integrate...........why come here then? well i know the answer to that........

with the number of asian immigrants we now have in UK ghetto type situations have developed............

what a sad and sorry state of affairs

Answer 8

Well from the place where we live, the area has become somewhat ghettoised, most of the Asian community do not integrate, simple as that, their own culture, dress, and shops, and if you go into them you are looked on with suspicion for some reason. I find it terribly uncomfortable and have tried my best to be friendly but to almost no avail.

Answer 9

There is a huge racism here in UK and I am not racis also when I do back up your point, I don't like people in the west dressing in Burka or Nihab, is weird and this is London, no Pakistan in the 6th century.

The same I would think about a person who goes to Iran and pretend to dress like the west, if you are not able to integrate and respect the people of the place you are going, just simply, don't go. If I don't like Saudi Arabia or Iran, I simply don't go, I never will try to impose my culture there, because that is silly, stupid and disrespectful

Answer 10

I have read through most of the answers here and there is one thing I really would like to say and it is this. There are different classes in India and Pakistan and it is the lower classes that cling on to old ideals. If you go to Pakistan or India and mix with the higher society the people there do not try to force their ideologies on to you. I have NEVER seen girls wear the hijab or burkha in Bombay though I lived there for many years. The girls heretrying to show that they are "diffrent" to everyone else. the girls in Bombay are extremely fashionable even if they are Muslim. I dont think for one minute they would wear all these old fashioned clothes (hijab and burkha) unless they come from far remote villages.When I heard some girls on tv saying they washed their clothes in a river in Pakistan. I collapsed with laughter.The only people I have seen do that are the poorest of the poor and if they belong to that class then how on earth did they get the money to come to England? If the girls say it is in their religion to cover their hair and bodies in that way then surely the same thing would apply to the Muslim girls in India and Pakistan too. Have any of you been to Karachi Holiday Inn and seen the "Muslim" girls there? They are one of the most fashionable girls I have ever seen. I would love to know who these girls are really trying to fool in the UK>. As for the men....the men of the upper class wear suits. My husbands father died at the age of 98 and he wore a SUIT in India all his life NOT selwar chemise or a dhoti...a Suit...!!!! I am sorry to tell you it is a matter of class not religion. You will never get a hill billy wearing an expensive town suit, shave and look decent any more that you would get a country yokel trying to suit himself to go to London so I think that is where your answer lies. We are not Muslims in our family but we have friends from every walk of life and from every creed and race and none of them insist on wearing their traditional clothes even when they have holidays , when they have their own parties or wedding when everyone would love to wear pretty sparkling clothes and Indian traditional clothing. The male in selwar chemise in England certainly looks odd and out of place. Label me as racist if you like but I am not!!!! Just look at the Hindi films that the majority of Asian filmgoers go to see.....do the filmstars wear hijab? I know lot of filmstars in India and they wear jeans and T shirt or chemise so let these backward people wake up to the fact that they are in a Modern country and not out in the pastures of their own land!!!
I expect the friends being predominantly Asian is because l. Birds of feather flock together.....2....They cant be bothered to adjust and to think in a different way....they are like sheep following each other and should learn to be leaders and not followers.