If a boy got his girlfriend pregnant, then the boy wanted to keep the baby but she wanted to get an abortion??? Thats totally unfair right?? And he even said told the girl all she had to do is deliver the baby, then he would take it and get full custody, and be a single dad, and everything. Like she never ever had to see the baby again? What do you think...what would you do?
2007-11-20 15:57:08 · 55 answers · asked by ipod 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
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2007-11-20 16:42:54 · update #1
by law she doesn't need your consent to have the abortion. But that doesn't mean that it's fair. It took both of you to make the baby and it should take both of you to make the decision. The best advice I have for you is to just keep trying to convince her to not get the abortion and then turn it over to you. I hope you can convince her so the baby has a chance to live a life with someone who will hopefully love and care for it. I hope that someday this law is changed and it takes consent from both parents. Good luck
2007-11-20 16:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by tIgErFaCe2002 5 · 1⤊ 4⤋
can you afforord to keep and raise a kid? will he marry you?i mean if he is willing to be part of your life even though he does not have to proves that he really wants this really bad.i do not agree with Roe vs. Wade yet i think that it is up to the woman to choose to make up the decision.raise the kid together,keep it and i know that it will change both your lives yet a kid is a wonderful thing that many wish to have yet cannot.i for one would have to have an abbortion if i were 2 months pregnant because i am epileptic and take 3 medications,1 which causes birth defects.i would want a kid yet i would have to get off my meds for 9 months and be under supervision,not be able to drive,none the less be at a high risk of having a seizure and losing the baby when i am 6 months pregnant in case of having a seizure.please keep the baby because it is already a human being and once you do an abortion you have to live with that guilt for the rest of your life none the less become depressed at some point.if he is willing to sacrifice so much so should you!
2007-11-20 16:28:58 · answer #2 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How do you feel about having a child out there that is yours? What will you do when the child questions you abandonment?
What will you do if you become attached to the child while you are pregnant?
What will happen to your relationship?
Personally, I could never have an abortion. I believe children come first. However, I respect a woman's choice. In the end it is yours, not his. But You are right, I don't think its fair to abort a child the father wants. I think you really need to think about the reproductions various situations may have in the future and the effects on a possible child.
2007-11-20 16:40:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think this is really interesting!
im a a legal studies student and actually presented a case on this. - well issues realting to this.
I initially read a media article in Vogue Dec 2006 and went from there.
It is a really really difficult situation when one person wants the child and the other doesnt. Needless to say woman do have the final choice and whilst both parents took part in conception it is her body. i think you would have to sit down and talk about how a child would change your life- together, what is your situation are you young? older? are you studying , do you want to? travel? are you financially stable etc. in the end though the woman has the choice.
Google "male abortion" for more info on the issue. there is a really famous case from the uk i cant remember the name that is listed on many fathers rights websites and also an australian case that is too related.
Tricky situation! but you would defiantely have to look at all of the outcomes.
2007-11-20 16:04:58 · answer #4 · answered by justjade 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, the guy has just as much of an opinion as the girl. After all, he helped conceive the baby too.
There aren't too many guys out there that would actually step up like that and take full custody of the child...props to the MAN who is being the responsible one in this situation.
If both parties aren't in agreement over whether or not to abort or deliver the child, then the child should be given the chance to live & the guy be given the chance to be a responsible father to the child.
2007-11-20 16:02:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
Why the hell should she go through a full-term pregnancy if she doesn't want to? She has every right, both legally and ethically to terminate the pregnancy. A being is infringing on her body without her consent. The father's only rights in this issue are to lobby her to change her mind. If he can convince her to go through the pregnancy, it will still have been her choice. Until then, it's not his body that would be ravaged by the pregnancy so it is her call and not unfair that she has more say in the issue.
2007-11-20 17:52:27 · answer #6 · answered by Eiliat 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
That IS unfair, to a certain extent. The hard physical labor and burden would be with the girl, but if the boy is willing, once the baby is born, to take on the rest of the responsibility, in my mind, her desire not to keep the baby would be fulfilled.
If I was the boy, I would probably get an attorney and spread the story all over the news to gain support (emotional and possibly even financial, as I know lawyers are incredibly expensive). The father of a child - born or unborn - does have rights.
2007-11-20 16:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by Love My Hubby - Hate His Mom 6 · 6⤊ 3⤋
That's a really tough situation and good on him for being so responsible but unfortunately he cannot make her have the baby. It's her body her choice etc etc, yet by the same token if the tables were reversed and she wanted bub but he didn't he still has to pay maintenance, how unfair is that!! Feel sorry for the baby though, it is completely innocent and doesn't deserve to be aborted when there is a person ready to love it.
2007-11-20 16:17:02 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
Let the father look after the baby cause by the sounds of things the mother doesnt give a crap!
That baby needs someone to love and care for it and if it's own mother wont do it why not let the father be the responsible parent. It's very sad that a mother could do that to her own baby!
But good on the father for standing up and taking responsibility for his child, not many guys these days would do that let alone be a single father to the baby! I wish him all the best for him and his little baby!
2007-11-20 16:04:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
It's a hard decision. I would have went through with the abortion because what if she did go through with the pregnancy and had the baby then all of a sudden the guy chickens out. Caring and raising a child is hard.
Abortion is a hard thing to deal with especially at a young ago but it's reality for some woman that they never thought they would have to face until they had no choice but to face it.
2007-11-20 16:02:59 · answer #10 · answered by shhhh_j 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
oh my god! obviously you are not ready to be a mom. This is a complicated question. You make it seem so trivial. This is a human life you are talking about. "all you have to do is deliver it" is a rediculous statement for him to make. The more your belly grows, the more you will love this baby. To never see your baby after delivery would be the single hardest thing any woman would ever do. I know, its hard for you to understand now. But, you dont even know what love is, or means until you become a mom. Do what is in your heart. If you cant love a baby, then dont have one. good luck.
2007-11-20 16:30:32 · answer #11 · answered by redsoxra 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋