My whole life has been very deprived and unhappy. I've always been in the wrong place, at the wrong time with the wrong people, and a majority of my life has been lived in my imagination to try and ease my anger and sadness. I've been treated like **** from my family and by people in school my entire life, so of course school always sucked for me. I've also never had any friends, and I've had almost no fun. Im dull now from lack of fun.
-People who have tried to give me advice don't understand how bad off I've been and give me very shallow advice from their incredible lack of understanding. I'm also lied to on a daily basis by a family member, and ignored like I'm nothing by them all of the time. I have felt trapped, isolated, and in despair for most of my life, to the point where I'm actually addicted to pain.
I don't need any advice, but I wanna ask you all, do you understand how angry and sad that would make someone be, if they had to live that kind of life for almost 20 years?
2007-11-20 15:51:28 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Of course I've improved somewhat, and some ppl on this site have been good to talk to, but i want to see how you would feel in my situation.
2007-11-20 15:55:05 · update #1
lala im glad im not that way anymore because your ignorant answer might make me mad, but im alot better, so... ill ignore your shallow minded answer
2007-11-20 16:12:37 · update #2
funtreerodent, u are all wrong about me being a loner, i don't think you should project yourself onto me like that.
2007-11-20 19:58:44 · update #3
I do understand. I have experienced very similar, and I can't let the hell of it go sometimes. I've gotten older and a little more stable now that I'm the one mostly in control of my life, but those memories still haunt. I know you know. I'm 34 and stable most of the time, with the exception of tonight. I do understand that anger and sadness very, very, very much.
2007-11-20 16:11:35 · answer #1 · answered by l m 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to lower your standard and accept people for who they are. When I thought I was better than everyone else, that others were shallow or hostile, the result is, I was alone. Maybe you are smarter, deeper, more professional. Yet with all your gifts--alone. Cast a wider net, bring some of the really different fish into your catch.
Your sensitivity to pain may be greater than other men.
I invite you to tolerate what seems like a major offense--dismiss it, don't write it down in your record books. If you hold anything against someone, you know who's locked up in a prison cell? HINT. It's not them.
You may be a loner by default (introverted personality) but at your age, it's important to be with others some times. "As iron sharpens iron, so one man sharpens another." (Proverbs 27:17) God wants you sharp, so find some men to hang out with. Only you can do this. Don't disqualify the whole human race from being potential friends. We all need friends to see past our bull**** and tell us the truth. And we need friends who see when we need a bone-shattering hug.
2007-11-20 17:47:44 · answer #2 · answered by shaken & stirred 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You know I get where you're coming from.
P S is right, though, the further you get from the situation, the more perspective you have and the better things get. And it does leave you slowly, but it does go away bit by bit. I'm still processing mine out, and I'll be 34 next week. Maybe it's a life long thing...but I don't think so. It's a good sign that you're starting to find good people, though. Means you're ready to start letting go of the crap:)
2007-11-20 16:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by since you asked 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In life we choose to be happy or sad and miserable You choose the latter and I do respect your choice If it had been me its a long time I would have consult a therapist and also a doctor Maybe you are a chronic depressive person But I agree with D R PHIL You use what it work for you
2007-11-20 16:07:26 · answer #4 · answered by lala 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow.
Why are they so mean and evil to you?
My family basically sucks too, but i moved away from them when i was 19 and slowly got a lot better. It's like you have to de-toxify from them slowly.
Just like lead and mercury takes years to slowly work out of your bloodstream, so does the bad blood from toxic relationships with old friends and family who are dysfunctional and shiitty.
2007-11-20 16:01:39 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
hell yeah , if i were in ur place i would have murdered few people by now cause of anger
..remember one thing
Life is a lesson you learn it when your through.
2007-11-20 15:56:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋