i am a mother of 2 and i think i might be pregnant, i dont want to abort but i cant handle a third i have no money an i cant afford to buy my kids anything.im in very bad conditions, i was using birth control but something happen to it so the 99% chance became a 1%. i love god and i need to abort would i burn in hell would the lor hate me....most man would say yes because they ont know the struggle of a woman.
n i would not give away beacause i dont have the heart 4 it.
someone help me???
2007-11-20 15:46:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Women's Health
adoption i prefer to abort i could not live knowing my child is not with me.
2007-11-20 15:51:37 · update #1
adoption is good if u can handle knowing someone else will have your baby
if u opt for abortion check out
http://abortionsupportsite.blogspot.com
2007-11-21 12:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by girlwithoutaname 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its a very personal choice and ultimately you're the only one who can make that decision. If you don't think that you can handle a third child and could not bear to put it up for adoption, I would say that abortion is your last choice but as I said it is something that only you can decide after seriously considering it. Don't let religious crap cloud your judgement. If you can't afford to give the kid a good life it may be better for both of you to either put it up for adoption or abort it. There are enough kids out there waiting for a good home, why add one more? Would these right-wing twats whether have a baby end up in a crowded foster home spending the next 20 years trying to find a good home and parents he/she can call their own? Do what you think is best for you and the baby. I could give you 100 medical reasons in favor of an abortion, but of course science and religion are two polar opposites.
2007-11-21 00:08:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Some people wanna say put the kid up for adoption. Isn;t there enough children without homes now, and the pain of knowing you were thrown away? A womans body is a womans choice. I once read in a jewish book that if a woman feels in her heart that having the child would put her or her children in danger than it is more important to protect the living. Some beliefs believe that every baby who is supposed to be born will be and that a woman who aborts has spirit guides directing her to that decision.What ever you do make sure it's not done selfishly and truly for the well being of your family and God will forgive you. If you believe in the bible alls you have to do is ask for forgiveness. please think it through and don't rely on my opinion or anyone elses
2007-11-21 00:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
No one can tell you what to do. We are not the ones who have to live with whatever decision you make. I don't understand how you can say that you don't have the heart to adopt it out, but you'd consider getting an abortion. If you know you can't keep it because of financial reasons, then you have 2 options....adopt or abort. Think of it this way....it sounds like you really do have a heart and have compassion for the baby. Don't you think that to get an abortion because it would be too hard to give it up for adoption would be the selfish route to go? In that case, you'd be thinking only of yourself. But, to give this baby up for adoption would be the most loving thing you could do outside of raising it yourself. You'd be giving it life and you'd be giving it a life that you could not financially give it by allowing someone the privilege of being parents. You could even have an open adoption where you could be a part of the baby's life....or you could have it closed if that would be too painful. What does your husband or the father think about it? I'm not saying to let him decide for you of course, but I'm just wondering if he'd want to keep it or whatever. Sometimes, if you talk about it, you can come up with a plan or a solution. But, at the end of the day, it's your life and your decision will affect you for the rest of your life so make it wisely.
2007-11-21 00:24:48 · answer #4 · answered by First Lady 7 · 1⤊ 2⤋
100 million kids are in need of adoption and will not be adopted. If you put your fetus up for adoption, will your child displace another child that needs adoption? 10 million kids will die this year from lack of medical care. If you bring an unwanted child into the world, you will contribute to the death of one of these kids. Only if a child is loved and wanted should it be brought into the world.
The resources used to force birth could better be used to give your living and wanted children a better life.
2007-11-24 19:20:44 · answer #5 · answered by Give me Liberty 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety, don't worry. Most of the time, the 'accident' or unplanned babies are the best delights in life and the best joy brought to a parents' life! There is a verse in the Quran that says... when you have more children, God will bless you with more of everything else because they are a blessing. As long as your children and you are healthy... don't have an abortion. I don't think ur kids need NIke shoes or whatever... In this day and age... there are lots of benefits and help you can get especially in the USA! I agree with you about adoption. You have a wonderful heart, but you made a mistake... but the baby is not a mistake and its not its fault. Don't worry, you will make a wonderful mom! Who knows... maybe this is the baby that will grow up and take care of you more than the other 2 kids you have! Children do become their parents' best friends!! Take care and Good Luck!
2007-11-20 23:59:00 · answer #6 · answered by ~~Peace~ ~ 2 · 0⤊ 3⤋
I think you need to do is what is right for you. And I also think adoption is good. And there are places where you can go and get help with this. And if you want an open adoption they can probably help you with that all so. But you all so need to think about your two other kids. And with adoption there are some that will help with you financially until you have the baby. But it is up to you and what is best for you and for your family. And you also need to ask the father of this unborn child if he does or does not what this child,
2007-11-21 00:19:53 · answer #7 · answered by vicky t 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This is the saddest thing I have ever read. You would kill your child before you gave him to other parents. You need to meet my best friend. She has spent almost $100,000.00 trying to get pregnant. And still no baby. You need to seriously think about adoption. I think what the problem is, if you have an abortion no one will know but you the doctor and God. If you give the baby away, everyone will know. And you think they will judge you. That is a sad way to think. You need a reality check sweety. God Bless and Good Luck
2007-11-23 00:15:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I had an abortion years ago, it was a tough decision, I was just 18, the father didnt want any ting to do with the baby, and I knew I couldn't give my baby the life he/she deserved. I had thought about adoption, but I couldn't carry the baby and then give it up to some stranger. I sometimes think about it, mostly when my baby was supposes ed to be due, but I know Idid the right thing!
2007-11-21 02:14:54 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
considering your financial status you should abort it. If you feel that you are not able to have a child you simply shouldn't have it. And I am a firm believer in abortions, I am pro choice. Please don't have your baby and give it up to adoption, just think how horrible your child's life will most likely be like. It would be your best choice for an abortion.
2007-11-21 00:14:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, abortion would be the selfish thing to do. You may suffer more if you put it up for adoption, but at least give the child a chance to have a life. Hopefully you aren't pregnant and then it won't be a question, but maybe rethink your reasons for not bearing the child and putting it for adoption. I thank the lord every day that my own mother was put up for adoption and was given such great opportunities rather than being aborted.
2007-11-20 23:59:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 3⤋