mothers verbal abuse.?

Question

how can i stop my mom from calling me harsh words.every night i go to bed crying and wake up with puffy eyes all because my feelings are crashed.

i do everything i suppose to do cook clean pass my classes with straight a's and i still get treated like the step child.i've been going threw this 18 years of my life and im tired.My boyfriend told me to hang in there until graduation and come stay with him OR he'll help save up for me an apartment if i dont feel comfortable staying with him.

Answer 1

The truth is as much as your mom screms and tunts.... seh cant hate you... after all you came from her womb right?
listen to that song my rihanna "I hate that i love you"

Answer 2

Verbal abuse IS abuse, just as bad as physical abuse and worse. Wounds and bruises heal but it takes years, for the harm inflicted by verbal abuse, to heal.
Talk to another adult you trust: school counselor, a trusted friends parent, a social worker......anyone! Please!
They can help you leave this horrible situation. You do not deserve to be abused in ANY FORM. I know you feel you have to respect your mother, but, honey, if she is doing what you say, you need to protect yourself above all else.
I lived with an abusive mother, so I speak from experience. It took years of counseling until I was finally able to stand up to her and tell her she was wrong. When I asked her why she treated us like she did, her answer, "You kids deserved everything you got." CHILDREN DO NOT DESERVE SUCH HARM, physical or verbal. I have chosen to not allow her toxic behavior back into my life.
Don't just jump into a live-in relationship with your boyfriend.....that isn't what you need right now, either.
GET OUT!
GET HELP!
GET HAPPY!
Once you are out of this situation, learn how to be a good parent before you try to be one yourself. It isn't easy, but you have to become a responsible adult first so you can break the cycle of abuse. Learn to take responsibility for your own adult life, thoughts, and deeds. Do this with a good counselor. Then, after a while, you will be able to go on with your life. Once you are out, make up your mind that you will not allow your mother, or anyone, to take away your personal power and don't give away your personal power either.
Good Luck

Answer 3

I went through the same thing until I got married at 19. I tried every thing I could to make her proud of me, but it didn't work. I cleaned and cooked, got good grades, and even got a job after school to buy her things. I found out later in life that it was not my fault. It was hers. I blamed my self for years. Don't blame your self, because there is nothing you can do about it. When you graduate form high school, and are not going to collage, and decide not to live with your boy friend, get a job, and get your own place. My mother was the same until she died. Don't let it mess up your life. It is not your fault.

Answer 4

First of all sounds to me you have a wonderful b/f, but second of all , you don't ever have to accept the abuse that your mother is dishing out to you, there are school councilors that can help with this kind of thing, if you are to afraid to go tell someone about what is going on, then just go straight to the police, sounds to me there is so much more going on, and the police will put you in a safe house away from her until things are investigated, hang in there, there is a rainbow behind every cloud.

Answer 5

Tell her she is a bad mother.Tell her she has made you feel terrible about yourself to the point that you wish you had not been born.When she apologizes, tell her to save it because as soon as she gets mad again she will say the same things all over just to hurt you.Tell her she needs to learn to control her tongue.
Also remind her that when you are 18 you are leaving and you probably wont have any more contact with her ,so the state will have to pick out her rest home.

Answer 6

Sometimes I wonder why God gave Children to Women that do not deserve to be called Mother. Have you tried to have a talk with your Mother, and asking her what it is that bothers her what you do, if so, to please tell you so you would be able to change for her satisfaction. I know that when a Parent likes to be in control of her siblings, the ones who suffer are the kids, so, if I were you I would move out of the House, why torture yourself, in hearing how she back-mouth's you. Why on Earth doesn't she appreciate the Daughter she has, so for your own peace of mind move out and do not look back, one of this days your Mom is going to realize the mistake she made when she was mean to you, but by then it will be too late for remorse. I have 7 kids all Married and with Family of their own, I love all of them a lot, and i remember when one by one they started getting Married and flying the Coup, as they say, when one by one moved out of my House it was like part of my Heart went with them. I do not understand why some Mothers do not appreciate the family God in his infinite wisdom, bestowed upon them, it hurts me to no end when I read some questions some readers post about the mean-es some Mothers Possess. I care and wish you the best.

Answer 7

You know one day when she is not mad... you should set down with her and say hey look Mom we need to talk! Tell her how you feel and ask her why she treats you this way! If she gets mad... have your bags packed and tell her that you are moving out!! (she cant stop you, your 18) stay with your boyfriend if you have to for a while (but finish school no matter what!!) YOUR MOM NEEDS HELP!!!!

Answer 8

Graduation is not too far away if you could wait that long bit if it was me I would move out. Your boyfriend is very sweet so if you can't deal with it stay with him for a while and see how it goes. Things will get better soon. Good Luck

Answer 9

If you are over 18, move out. Simple. You no longer have to stay there just because you are still in high school.

Answer 10

As your boyfriend says, hang in there a little while longer and continue to save up for an apartment. Remember, good things happen to good people.

Answer 11

he's right. move out. have an apartment on your own. i think you're a very responsible person so you'll survive. you dont need a mom who doesnt appreciate you or treat you right.

you go girl!