My hubby and I have been having probs! We have 3 kids together! Lately he's been talkin about divorce! He says he's been thinkin of gettin one with me! I am not sure what to say or think about this! Should I suggest marriage counceling? He rarely ever talks to me! He's more worried about his best friends (a girl) problems with her and her hubby rather than gettin ours taken care of! I am not sure what to think i am sooo confused about all this? Is my marriage over already? Why would he say this sooo close to the holidays?
CONFUSED & HURT!
2007-11-20 15:08:47 · 18 answers · asked by woohooo 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He rarely ever talks to me! He's more worried about his best friends (a girl) problems with her and her hubby rather than getting ours taken care of...You said it right there...He is in love with this woman and she is having problems and he is ready to jump ship with you. There is something going on there that needs to be addressed. I would say marriage counseling but, I am not sure you wouldn't be wasting your time cause it wont work if it is one sided......so sorry
2007-11-20 15:14:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well, what have or haven't you been doing to make him feel the way is? How old are the two of you? I'd hope, with three kids, that you are a little older than what I think you might be. Was his best friend a girl prior to your marriage? If so, then you really can't assume he is cheating with her. No, your marriage is not over. Both of you have to find something within yourselves that makes both of you want the marriage to work. Yes, it would be devastating around the holidays. You can suggest marriage counseling, but he has to be open to the idea and not feel as if he is being forced into it. If you want to save your marriage, then tread lightly. Pick a mood and stick with it. In other words, don't flop back and forth between hurt and angry. It will only make matters worse.
2007-11-20 15:19:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-17 14:06:31 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think I've seen enough Cheaters episodes to think that he's cheating on you - and probably w/this girl. You might want to think about hiring an investigator to make sure, though. If he's cheating..then I'm a firm believer that once a cheater, always a cheater and maybe divorce is the best thing to do....Gotta think about the kids. My husband's dad cheated on his mom (and probably still does cheat), but his parents have never divorced. My husband is the youngest of 4 and because his parents are still together, he's grown up seeing how hateful they are to eachother and I promise you, it does affect the kids A LOT.
2007-11-20 15:16:07 · answer #4 · answered by curious78 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love this man and I think you do then seek counciling before it's too late. Your marriage isn't over unless you and him give up on it. Does he have any desire to save the marriage? Near the holidays isn't exactly the prime time to tell someone that your thinking of divorce. Maybe he is caught up in the drama of his friends marriage that is having problems.
2007-11-20 15:13:40 · answer #5 · answered by MommieT 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Look, this man is talking to you about how he is feeling; you need to talk with him about this. Why he is feeling this way? You say he rarely talks to you; well, how about taking his hand, sitting down with him, look into his eyes and give him a 'safe place' to freely talk about his feelings. Don't blame or judge him; just allow him to open up to you; then you can converse with him, not in anger, but in care and concern for your marriage together. Many people will just blurt out things, it is time you find out what lies beneath the words; what is going on. Think he needs to stay away from this 'so-called' friend of his and start talking and listening to what you have to say and how you feel.
2007-11-20 15:33:31 · answer #6 · answered by pussycat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People get really crazy around the holidays, don't they? My husband's ex left him the day before Thanksgiving and today we found out that someone my husband works with killed himself last night. People get really weird and I don't know why. Perhaps it's just impact.
If I were you I would be a bit concerned about his concerns about this other woman. If you want to try to make it work, I think you should try counseling. You really should do everything you can so if it doesn't work out, you won't be to blame.
2007-11-20 15:15:03 · answer #7 · answered by KC 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should still offer to get councelling with him and its up to him to out in effort to help salvage your marriage.
why is he so interested in helping out his friend? is ther e anything going on between the 2 of them???
there is never a good time to say that you want a divorce, holiday time or not, it will still be the last thing you want to hear.
just see if you can get him toopen up and if you think there still is hope for the 2 of you, then i wish you all the luck in the world.
i hope everything works out for you!!!!!
2007-11-20 15:26:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am so sorry you are going through this. it sounds like the problem is that he will not talk with you. i would tell him i want to be able to talk together and work things out. for example my husband and i have tea time at night after the kids are in bed and we talk about what is on our minds: wants, hopes, dreams, concerns. we try to be as positive as possible, also honest and respectful. letting the other person finish what they are saying before responding. and doing it calmly without getting angry. i sure hope the two of you can work things out.
2007-11-20 15:17:13 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want your marriage to work - then try everything possible to make it work.
You will never regret trying. And .. you will also know that you tried everything possible to save your marriage.
If nothing works .. then you may have your answer about your marriage.
See if you can get him into counseling. Also .. simply & sweetly .. one day, ask him to listen to your feelings. And also ask him how he feels about everything.
It seems that you definitely do not have his attention .. but that happens in marriages. He probably knows thinks that you will always be there for him .. and he may take you for granted somewhat.
Just try-try-try. If nothing that you do works .. then you will have to really think about it .. and make other choices.
2007-11-20 15:25:16 · answer #10 · answered by Tara 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋