What do women want in a husband or man?

Question

I have been married for 15 years but now separated for a month now from wife. She decided to leave the house and was not happy. Ladies only. What do women want in a husband in a man? I did all the cooking, majority of cleaning and laundry for most of the 15 years, can't remember the last time she cook me a meal. I also went to school to make a better life and finished and still did all the cooking and cleaning when I got home. It just felt that it was not good enough. I also make a good living. I am able to keep the house, have nice car, and provide for my daughther. We did not have sex life, she would never kiss me on mouth or hug me, have not slept in the same bed since my daughter was born, she would always sleep with my daughter. I know I am not perfect, but do women want these things in men or not. Right now, I just focus on myself and my daughter try figure out what I want in life. I want to figure this out with god and for myself. I do workout 4 days a week.

The problem with sex part, that she never wanted to have it with me. I would try, but never felt wanted by her. I am very sexual person, just never felt appericiated or wanted myself.

As for what she wants, she just tells me she does not know, she just not happy with herself. Right now, I am just giving her space and I need to figure what I want do or I want to continue living like this. I just want someone to love me someday, but that up to god. I will continue to put my faith in god and let him lead the way. I have to strong for my daughter and myself. Thanks all you for advice.

I do try to communicate but she never lets me now what she wants or her feelings. She tells me she does not like the romantic stuff, she just never opens up. She does not trust me with her feelings, she has had affair the past and emotional and physical.

Answer 1

If all you say is true its seems to be her. She is incomplete and seeking for something. Did you ever ask her why? Has it ever been the marriage that you want it to be. I do all of these things and more for my wife and we are extremely happy. When my wife acts a certain way it is usually not me. Its work, school, or family members. We do have disagreements but, we don't go to sleep with them. Be all the man and father you can be for your daughter. Be prayerful. Seek God's will. If you want to stay with your wife, you have to find out what are her problems, her worries, her cares, her insecurities. Everything and anything that makes her uncomfortable or unhappy and fix it or comfort her in the situation. You will not be able to fix everything. She needs some Jesus. Try to get some counseling from a pastor. Make sure you do all you can.

Answer 2

It appears as if you provided above and beyond all the basics. But I noticed that after fifteen years of marriage, you seemed to have let the most vital part of the relationship deteriorate. Romance. As a wife, I know that it it easy to get wrapped up in the mundane household chores. In fact, it seems like I often live the same day over and over. But as a Woman, I also know that I yearn to be swept away from the daily grind. Men seem to mistake chores and bringing home a paycheck as taking care of their women when all we really want is the kids in their own beds, a maid, and time with our man in a romantic environment so that we are relaxed enough to enjoy the sex.. (and the kissing too). Hope this helps.

Answer 3

Women want a lot of things mostly understanding and a man they can trust. I'm sorry but what did your wife do while you were doing the schooling working cooking and cleaning? Did she have a job? Why was she too busy to do any of these things? It's good to hear there are men out there that actually help out with the household chores but did she do any of them? Maybe it's not you at all maybe it's her.

Answer 4

Wow, you're a superman; cooking, cleaning, laundry, working; Sounds like there was nothing you could have done to make her happy or for her to be closer & more loving to you. I am sorry for that. The word affair comes to mind also. I don't know what she was thinking or doing. But I can tell you that I am 100% positive that if you are the way you say you are, you shouldn't be single for long. You're a keeper. You have no problems. You are more than what we're looking for.

Answer 5

Know this it really doesn't sound like it was you but, her. You are right no one is perfect. I think you might have did to much trying to keep peace in your family and even if you didn't do all those things it would have turned out the same.
For me and my husband...I just want him for him not to do all the cooing cleaning....I love the fact that he goes to work everyday to provide for his family and, is happy when he comes home. We are best friends and depend on each other to be there when the other is down or upset or just needs a hug.
We communicate and, still try to go out on dates every now and again. We have understanding with each other......good luck

Answer 6

Woman needs husband who is like a father to her in time of distress or failures to give advises. She needs a husband who is like a friend to her who always made her laugh and play often times.
She needs a husband to her family to be a good provider to all her needs and her family.
She needs a husband to be her lover so he can invite her into a date at all times even on or not anniversaries.
She needs a husband who treat her like a lady. A husband who knows how to appreciate her, She does not need a husband who insults or use criticism against her.
She needs a husband who gives respect and understanding, and freedom. A freedom to do something without the presence of hudsband such as hang-out with old friends to refresh our mind mentally and physically from work stresses or houseworks.

Answer 7

I am pretty sure they are both husbands for gays, and both wives for lesbians. This is because you do not need 1 husband and 1 wife in a relationship, because no matter what sex they are attracted to, the name for a married woman is wife and the name for a married man is husband. hope i helped

Answer 8

all women have different needs from a guy and in a relationship. i know that i want a guy to make me feel like he always wants me. someone that is devoted to me and shows interest in me, always. someone who is caring and very kind. responsible.
someone that is my friend and lover. what i mean by that is, i want the goofy things and joking around like friends do. but i want the spontaneous sex life, as well.
you're doing everything you can do. it may be that something else is going on in her head and she just can not get away from it. maybe she feels like she is missing out on something? maybe she feels like she didn't do something she has always wanted to and the marriage is trapping her from it. maybe she feels like she needs something new and refreshing.
if she started sleeping away from you right after your daughter was born, then maybe she was hit by depression from giving birth.
all women are different. the only, and best, thing you can do is try harder to communicate with her. find out what exactly is going on in her mind. she's the only one that can work this out with you. just let her know that she can discuss anything with you.
hope i got my point across~

Answer 9

If I was available i'd marry you myself. You sound fantastic! It probably isn't you..it sounds like she has a problem..and in that case there is not much you can do other than what you already are doing....keep doing what you are doing and don't doubt yourself...you have everything it takes. She is out to lunch..and will probably beat her chest in lamentation when/and if you ever give up on her fickle as#

Answer 10

i would say that in addition to the things you mentioned a woman wants to feel wanted by her man. she wants him to ask her for sex. i would say no sex contributed to the separation. if you are willing to give her sex then i would talk with her and tell her you would like to give the relationship another chance. if she is the one who doesn't want sex i don't know what to say. but i would ask her why she doesn't. and if she left you for another reason, i would ask her what SHE wants from you because there are general things most of us want, but we are all individual and all have different needs.