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i was 19 & he was 23 when we got married. after two years of marriage he married another woman when i was 9 months preg. i got a divorce. me & my son stayed with my parents. my husband did not give any financial support. my husb & the other woman had a son who had cyctic fibrosis. after 10 years of marrige she left her son and my husb and ran away. my husband came to me and felt sorry for his behaviour. he divorced the other lady & we once again married. after my second coming i had a son and took care of his cystic fibrosis son. he expired last year. now my husband wants a divorce from me. he needs only my last son. he does'nt want my elder son or me. he drinks, beats & uses all filthy lang. to me & my children. it is a mental torture to all of us daily. even if i eat or sleep he scolds me for no reason. often he asks me to go out of the house. If i divorce my husb do my children & i have a share in his property? pl. adv. i need my children.
2007-11-20 15:00:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
go and see a lawyer ........... you are intitled to 75% because of the children which children are his? all of them?. he has to pay maintinance for any child that is his
2007-11-20 15:12:12 · answer #1 · answered by jess 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
it depends where you live. Your kids, if they are his biological kids, they will get something out of the whole situation as long as you take it through court. You since you weren't married that long, even tho you have a long past, you may not be entitiled to very much. You have to find everything out, get an attorney (if possible) and you say that he is abusive, you will need to prove that to a judge as well. if you are willing call the police if something happens, if its not something huge you will at least have something to show the police were called, but don't just do it for every little thing. I sounds like your trying to find an easy way out, but you want to make sure your kids stay with you. If you are that desperate try to get him arrested for domestic violence and child abuse, this will put a restraining order against him, and then when you go to divorce him, that will be a huge point against him. I don't know what you mean as far as property, but i would ask for child support, and if you have been relyin on him you could ask for spousal support, but that wont be granted if you have a job that you can support yourself with. Good luck.. consult an attorney. call around to divorce attorneys and get a free consultation. that will also give you an idea of there price as well.
2007-11-20 23:12:02 · answer #2 · answered by jellybean91404 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a very delicate matter. You need to seek out some counselling. You need to ring a women;s shelter and speak to an abuse counsellor there. She will know what to advise you to do. None of your children should be around this man. He wouldnt have a hope in hell of getting custody of any of his children. You would have to get something out of what hes put you through. You have to start a diary and document everything he says and does. You need to contact the Police and tell them what he is doing. You can ask them not to contact your husband, just record it for legal purposes. You need as much evidence of the abuse as you possibly can get. Instead of worrying about the financial side, worry about yours and your children's safety. That comes first. Once you and your children are safe, then seek out some legal advice. If you go into a womens shelter, they have counsellors who will help, they have solicitors associated with the refuge who can also give you legal advice, and they also help you to find alternative accommodation. They dont leave it at that. Once they find you alternative accommodation they will have an outreach program that enables you to have ongoing support. Do yourself and your children a favour......get out now before he kills his whole family. Dont tell him what you are doing or planning to do, do it secretly and get some support. You should also pack an emergency bag with yout bank account details, some cash and anything you will need if you have to get out of there in a hurry. Make sure you keep the diary hidden and write everything down. Maybe contact a good friend who will be able to keep your secret and also give you the support you need. Financially you will be fine, but if you stay your health may not be fine. Dont stay....get out first, then divorce your husband. What an abuser says and what he does sometimes can be two different things. Take care.
Why do you think his ex wife ran away? Why didnt she just divorce him instead of running? My guess is because of the abuse and her fear.
2007-11-20 23:15:23 · answer #3 · answered by rightio 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, move out now and find somewheres to stay whether it be a friend or a family member. File for divorce and let the judge make a visitation schedule for himto see the kids. And you can request it to be supervised due to his mouth and not being able to keep his hands to himself. Good Luck
2007-11-20 23:05:45 · answer #4 · answered by mysticbaby420 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask an attorney this question. Do not seek legal advise on here.
Then go to an Al-anon meeting. Once there, find a sponsor, follow her suggestions, and work the steps.
A better life for you and your children will happen if you do the work.
2007-11-20 23:04:43 · answer #5 · answered by box of rain 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Each State has different laws for the community property of a marriage.
You will need to find out the law in your State.
In my State .. all of his property would be community property .. with the exception of anything the husband may ever inherit himself from someone else.
Your husband's property & your property would be equal in my State ... 50 - 50 division.
2007-11-20 23:11:33 · answer #6 · answered by Tara 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a really good attorney and get proof of the misuse and abuse - photos of bruises, go to doctor to verify injuries, etc.
It is likely the court will give you the house since you have a child together and support.
Joy to you!
2007-11-20 23:05:37 · answer #7 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure I really understand the question, but if you get divorced odds are you will get custody of the kids and he will get visitations. And that's really all the more you will have to deal with him when the divorce is over.
2007-11-20 23:12:07 · answer #8 · answered by KC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes..get a good lawyer and take him for everything you can ..he just used you ..but then again you let him..please don't let your children grow up in that environment ..it's has a devastating affect on there life's and there future..GL
2007-11-20 23:08:10 · answer #9 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you will get half of everything as long as you didnt sign a pre nup. get to a lawyer soon. if he chooses to stay in the house he will have to pay you half the value.
2007-11-20 23:05:32 · answer #10 · answered by marilynfsmgm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Of course. Get a good lawyer.
2007-11-21 21:35:31 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋