After in a breakup though my fiancé has told me that he still loves me and will keep in contact..it was just because he was stuck in between the choice of his son with me..,should I hang around waiting for his miraculous returning or should I return all that he’s bought for me,with the engagement ring?
2007-11-20 13:22:43 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
They were gifts to you and you are entitled to keep them. As for waiting around it is totally up to you. There should have never been a choice between his son and you! You should have all been together ,you supporting him as being a responsible parent and him supporting you as being the caring Step-mother to be. Hope this all works out, Best of luck.
2007-11-20 13:28:30 · answer #1 · answered by Karen S 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Timaira, let me tell you something about us me sweetie. If a man wants to be with you, the choice of his son, a meteor or nothing else will stop him from continuing to be with you. He has found another woman sweetheart! The reason he told you all that stuff is because he wanted to let you down easy. And the reason he told you that he'll keep in contact is because he wants you to wait by the phone for his call so he can keep the door open for a booty call "for old times sake." My advice to you Timaira is to return the engagement ring and all the useless trinkets that he bought for you (cards, stuff animals, and the like). Now if he bought you outfits, keep those! If he bought you a necklace, keep that! If he bought you a car, keep that. But return the other things.
2007-11-20 21:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by Glenn Johnson 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whatever happens between you and him, do not return the things he gave you as gifts. They are yours to keep and he has no right to ever ask for them back anytime in the future. The exception might be the ring. I don't know your situation fully. If you can't stand looking at the things he gave you then I would throw them away rather than returning them. I did that once & I felt like I was being immature. I said I'd never do that again. Now I give things away if I don't want them.
2007-11-20 23:01:06 · answer #3 · answered by jognmiles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is totally up to you :~) How do you feel, are you willing to wait for A guy who has A choice of his 'son with you' :~)
That didn't make much sense. Why would you return the stuff he gave you, it's yours, he gave it to you, I'd say keep it!
The engagement ring is A personal thing that you need to decide about :~) Will it come in handy later...?
He's supposed to come back in, how long? What if he does come back and the ring is gone, what would he say...?
Does it truly matter...???
2007-11-20 21:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by shastacat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is exactly why I never recommend a woman to marry a divorced guy with children - you will always be the "third wheel" behind the kids, etc. He should stay married until his kids are grown.
You deserve better, only the ring needs to be returned unless you already bought your wedding dress, rented the church, reception site, etc.
Gifts he gave you may be kept, but if he demands them back, I'd give them to avoid trouble.
Hope you find someone without the ex, kids, chaos, and baggage that goes with it.
Joy to you!!!!
2007-11-20 21:37:30 · answer #5 · answered by frillyfroofroo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If something was a gift to you, it remains yours.
The engagement ring, because of its expense, may be something to consider returning... that would be a good ending to the relationship... and a nice way to say "it is over for good and don't let the door hit you in the fanny on the way out."
That, or course is entirely up to you. If he was a real nasty twit, you may opt to sell it on eBay instead.
Any of his own personal junk needs to be removed by by him by a certain date or it will go to a homeless shelter.
2007-11-20 21:45:33 · answer #6 · answered by revsuzanne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not going to marry you, legally you have to return his stuff, even the ring. So save all the legal mombo jumbo that could come up and maybe down the road you could get it back!
2007-11-20 21:31:01 · answer #7 · answered by Needtoknow 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just box them up honey.its tough seeing things around of a partner.I personally think hes gonna be back as i've discussed with you before. Just get them in a box and store them away for the time being.Just pop ur engagement ring away in your jewellery box also.Just for now......
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2007-11-21 03:46:43 · answer #8 · answered by kaeylarae 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would send every thing back and find some one else. His son is going to come first be for any thing in his life. As it should be. If you wait it might be very long.
2007-11-20 21:30:53 · answer #9 · answered by patches 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Return his **** and say see ya later if he wanted it to work he would have found a way
was that his son or you??? or his son with you?
2007-11-20 21:47:42 · answer #10 · answered by Myra N 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋