13 and pregnant?

Question

I am thirteen and I am 5 1/2 months my friend was judging me until she found out she was pregnant also. My boyfriend says he will take full responsibility he was the one who told my mom. I know i aint getin an abortion never that. But I need help I talk to my cuzin who is 8 going on 9 months and to my sister who is 18 and no kids so I need help. Please give me advice and your point of view.

I WANT IT ALL GOOD AND BAD GIVE IT ALL!

Yes I am stayin in school and yes i do babysittin on the side and i do have some support from the fam

My Boyfriend is 13 turnin 14 in 2 weeks

Answer 1

My advice---get a plan and get it quick.

You have to make fast decisions from now on. If you have any chance of surviving past minimun wage and welfare and food stamps, it's with a plan. A thirteen year old with a baby is no different from a 27 year old woman with choices to make and bills to pay. This is pressure. And pressure without structure is a path to destruction.

You've got 4 and half months, each day of each month, to sit and write down everything you plan to do and how you're going to do it. Since you're 13, a job is going to be difficult. You need to get government benefits, help from friends, help from organizations. Write it all down. And since you have time to be on Yahoo Answers, you have time to be researching this. You seem like a bright child; do what you have to do to make this baby's life all that it can be.


And let me tell you something, a thirteen year old boy doesn't know anything about ''full responsibility." So make plans together.

Answer 2

You might want to seriously consider adoption because you are just very very young to be a mother. You have to think about what's in the best interest of your baby. You are not even old enough to take care of yourself, what kind of life can you give a little baby? I'm sure there are families out there who are financially stable and would kill to have a baby to care for and love and could give your son/daughter a good life. I had my first child when I was 19 and it was not easy and I was already an adult...so imagine how it's going to be for you at 13 or 14. You're probably not even in High school yet, you have so many things you need to do to better yourself before you are capable of being the kind of parent that your baby deserves. I hope you consider your options before you give birth because this is a little life we are talking about, and it deserves the best life it can get. I'm not judging you as a person, but you are a kid and your child needs to be raised by mature adults. You aren't even finished getting raised yourself....

Answer 3

Have you considered giving your child up for adoption? At 13, you really are still a child yourself. I'm not saying you have to do it, it's your decision, but it's at least something you should consider.

If you do decide to keep the child, I would check into any government program available. You can start getting assistance from WIC now and untill the child is school-age--it provides milk, juice and other items to you while you're pregnant and your child after that. If you don't have insurance I would check into Medicaid for prenatal/postnatal care. Eating well and keeping up with your doctor's vists are some of the best things you can do right now. Don't drink or use drugs, don't smoke and stay away from others who do. There are grants out there for young mothers to help with child care, your state's DHHR (Department of Health and Human Resources) is a good place to start. Other than that, hang in there. Stay in school!!

Good luck!

Answer 4

It happens. Everything happens for a reason!!!! Don't let anyone bring you down, and do what you want with your pride and joy. If adoption is your thing, then go for it but just make sure it's what YOU want! Where is the father of your baby? Don't feel like you NEED him to live or take care of this baby, because you DON'T need a man to tell you how to live your life. I HOPE that he will be there throughout your child's life, but don't feel like you HAVE to be with him forever. People change and eventually when you're ready you will settle down with the right man, get married, and actually try to start a family. Go to school and DON'T stop.....education and degrees are a MUST now-a-days!! You are only 13 but that's no different then someone being 18 and having a child. You will just have to babysit and do little things to make money, until you are old enough to get a job in retail or somewhere where you can make a decent amount of money. BUT the most important thing you can do is not let what anyone says get to you because if you do you will not be doing what you want, but what other people want you to do. Live your life and say screw the drama....this happened for a reason and I'm going to live with my bundle of joy. Lastly, JUST BE HAPPY HUNNY!!!! That's all you can do!!! Start looking at baby clothes, strollers, bibs, bottles, etc. It's already too late to go back......so get that plan made, get your baby supplies, and use the love and support of your family to the fullest!!!!!! You will make it......there will be some hard times......but just remember it happened for a reason!!!!! I hope the rest of your pregnany goes great and you are blessed with a beautiful, healthy baby!!!!

GOOD LUCK!!!!

Answer 5

Well...as I'm sure you were told and will be told that you are very young to be a mother. I think that it's important that you make a decision on whether you want to keep your baby or not. Most likely your boyfriend will not be there as much as you think he will. I do applaud you for not getting an abortion. Are you wanting your child to raise on your own or are you wanting to give your baby up for adoption?

I'm not exactly sure what advice you are looking for, but at your age I think you need to consider 2 things. Are you going to keep the baby and (No matter what your answer is) Is there someone you can depend upon (other than your boyfriend) to help you financially, emotionally, and physically? Babies are adorable, however they are very expensive, very needy and require a lifetime of work.

I'm sure you want the best for your baby. Maybe the best thing you can do for the baby and another family who desperately wants one is to allow the baby to be raised by someone else who can give him/her what they need. I don't know if you ever heard of "open adoption" but that might be something to consider.

I hope this helps...No matter what, Finish High School...

Good Luck

Answer 6

My advice would be set goals and a life plan out i was pregnant young also this is what me and my now husband did we both said right having a baby is a wondeful thing and we are not going to listern to all the sterotypes of what a young parent is we both finished school and he went to college he got tops marks in his class and then the college offered him a job to work there he now has a very high paying job we have a house a car a beautiful 3 year old son and another on the way we are proof that you can do it and do it well life couldnt be better and i have to say i think we would actually be worse off if we didnt have my son as he gave us the motivation we needed to do well and prove everyone wrong good luck and remember this doesnt mean the end of your life this is the start

Answer 7

its gonna be hard to raise a child at your age. of course you will need the help of family. its cliche, but a baby really is a blessing. yes you may loose some of your childhood, but if you are responsible and take care of this baby like you are supposed to, this baby will open your eyes to so many things. you will experience life in a very special way that only parents can relate to. i have a 16 month old son and i am 26. he has changed my life in such a positive way. i am such a better person because of him. i am sure if you see this baby as a blessing you will become a better person also. love this baby as much as you can, spend as time with him/her as you can, and be grateful that you have been given an opportunity to raise a child. yes you are young, but that doesn't matter. there are many other girls your age in your same situation. just make the best of it. love your little baby and you will both teach each other so much about life. don't worry about what people think of you or any of that bull crap. there is a reason for everything. just as there is a reason for your pregnancy. 10 years down the road, you will look back on your life and realize how blessed you were. i hope everything works out for you, and congratulations.

Answer 8

I think a lot of people will give you a bad review because you are young but most of us adults will never have shared the same experiance so to a certain extent cannot give you the advice you seek unless they have went through that themselves, not that many people I know were pregnant at 13 and if they were pregnant as teenagers it wasn't until they were 15 or older, I think being pregnant at 13 can be somewhat of a unique experiance with no one to turn to I suppose that is why you have turned to the internet. I do not agree with adoption or abortion though, this is your unique experiance and responsibility for you to love or loathe, however you feel you should not miss out upon it. The govt I am sure will help you out.

Answer 9

You're 13 and having a baby....you've got more things to worry about than what your friend thinks of you. No offense to you, but how do you think you're boyfriend is going to take responsibility??? Is he also 13? He can't even get a job so how is he going to help? The best thing you can do is give the baby up for adoption. You are still a baby yourself and cannot take care of yourself let alone a baby. Nevertheless, it's your and your parents decision to make. You're going to have to have help, but you don't need to be concerned with what your friends think at this point.

Answer 10

Well congratulations if this is what you want. I'm glad you ain't aborting the baby because there is always adoption. Is your mum going to help you and give you support? How old is your bf? Its good that he is sticking around but don't forget things happen and he might not always be there for you. There is alot of young mums that have babies and the bfs are all for it untill the pressure gets too much and they leave! And don't listen to the people who tell you to give up the baby because even know you are very young you are still capable of being a good mum. Just make sure you have alot of support around you and get your prenatal care! Good luck hope it all goes well for you.

Answer 11

I was 17 when I got pregnant Had her when I was 18. I am not going to lie its TOUGH but its Tough at any age but more so for you at being 13 becouse you still have school and your whole life ahead of you. My daughter is now 3 1/2 and happy and healthy. Just advice stay in school and graduate. I am glad I did. I am currently taking night classes to be a cna. good luck