I need help. His past is horrendous. He took the virginity of over 600 young women and used countless more. He had to kill two men in self defense and partially ruined two other men's lives and he doesn't feel guilty about it all. I believe he has changed. He has become a Christian and I am very devout. I am sweet, submissive, loving, etc. But he blows up about something every other day or every three days. How do recovering sociopaths (it wears off with age ) emotionally abuse, what are the signs to look for, how do I know I am being controlled, how do sociopaths control and I have asked this question before, how do I handle his past ? Are there any support groups ? He is a nice man, not a mean one, but.......its hard to explain.
2007-11-20 12:27:21 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Any experts out there on sociopathy ?
2007-11-20 12:37:51 · update #1
My expertise comes from 8 yrs married to just such a man!! Later, after the divorce, I went back to school and got an MA in Guidance and Counseling and Ed. Spc. degrees and worked with very troubled adolescents for 21 yrs as a therapist. Your # of 600 sounds exaggerated--but the rest sounds genuine. Not sure of your Q, but the only Answer is to get out of the marriage and have no contact with him. There is no such thing as a "recovering sociopath"! Empathy for others is non-existent! Either put up with it (and I hope you survive!) OR GET OUT of the marriage and relationship! Then go through a lot of therapy yourself to figure out why you'd be drawn to such a creep--to "take care of him--to "treat him"? "to show him what "real love" is? If so, you're living a fairy tale!! Good Luck, and I hope you vote for your own survival!!
2007-11-20 12:50:48 · answer #1 · answered by Martell 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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I need help. His past is horrendous. He took the virginity of over 600 young women and used countless more. He had to kill two men in self defense and partially ruined two other men's lives and he doesn't feel guilty about it all. I believe he has changed. He has become a Christian and I am...
2015-08-23 07:35:31 · answer #2 · answered by ? 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey,,,you are in the wrong relationship.
A sociopath, antisocial behavior,,,they are not capable of love. you are in a onesided relationship, one in which the sooner you depart, the lesser the damage will be to you.
There are several books out,,
The verbally abusive relationship by Patricia Evans, Why does he do that by Lundy Bancroft, and several others that will help you to understand where you are in this.
Patricia has other books but the Verbally abusive relationship is the starting one,
I do not know that recovering sociopaths exist,
they dont have the abiltiy to empathize, have compassio, this is why he has no remorse,
you cant deal wioth his past, you cant control him.
how do you know you are being controlled,
you are here asking for help,
Please get these books, one at a time,,be discreet,,,you dont want him to see them.
email me if you feel the need,,
2007-11-20 12:43:33 · answer #3 · answered by ideame 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My gf is a psychologist who handles cases like you ask about.
You are probably right that his childhood sexual abuse is a huge factor in his temperament. So, he needs to see someone who specializes in those issues.
Your past is probably not pristine either if you are hooked up with a guy like that - you might want to see someone too, and if you can both see someone together, that could help you both have a satisfying life together or at least understand what the issue sin your relationship really are.
2007-11-20 12:44:47 · answer #4 · answered by Barry C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ah bloody hell first thing first dont think ever that you have to or should or ought to be submissive and bow to his every wish and command and all that... and really it sounds like this guy needs to see a professional to help him deal with his issues since its more than you can deal with, all you can do is be there for him, let him know hes being stupid when hes being stupid, but make sure youre never in harms way, and that inclues emotionally... if you feel like youre being controlled thats not a good situation to be in, the both of you should go sit and talk to someone if you cant sit and work this out yourselves, and really he probably cant what with his issues and all. he might be a nice man but he can get mean and stupid and his past is no excuse for any wrong actions and especially towards you who have nothing to do with it, so first make sure you understand this, then talk to him about it, then you both should go talk to someone who knows what theyre talking about unlike us internet people.
2007-11-20 12:40:48 · answer #5 · answered by alt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT!!?? So let me get this straight, since he has converted to Christianity, that makes him okay? Lady get the hell out of this crazy relationship, once a sociopath always a sociopath.
2007-11-20 12:35:18 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
My advice is simple, get help now. There is something wrong and you know it. But you need to be very careful. Some people manage to cope with traumatic experiences better than others.
2007-11-20 12:36:29 · answer #7 · answered by lacey 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...you might want to try a professional...with meds.
2007-11-20 12:33:33 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋