Did anyone else here have their first baby while in college? If so what year were you when you got pregnant? ALSO, has anyone here only stayed home with their baby for the first 3 months, and then had to have a nanny, or daycare ? I will have to do that and I feel like I am going to feel so guilty and that my child won't know that I am the mommy!!
2007-11-20 11:33:43 · 11 answers · asked by jenn a 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
I only got to stay home for the first 6 weeks with my daughter. She definitely new who I was and still likes me more than anyone, daddy, gram, aunt, etc. We were fortunate enough to use family members for daycare. Don't worry, just spend as much time with her as you can.
2007-11-20 11:58:55 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I did. We were married and I guess I was in my second semester Sophomore year. It worked out great!
As soon as I reached the 4th month of pregnancy, I signed him up for the on-campus daycare...and he did well there. In this way, he had a placement in the infant room. I went back to school when he was 4 months old.
I did my homework and studying at the library....I used the daycare and college as a job. I had all my classes early in the day and spent the rest of the day in the library so I could study leaving each day to collect him at 4:00 pm. I was on the Dean's List each semester- with a Minor in Biology and a Major in Early Childhood Education and Education Pre-K- 12th grades. When I was home- it was all baby time- no homework, only baby business.
Did he forget? Not at all. We still have an amazing bond and he is my best little buddy at 11 years of age. I had the support of my husband and we were married then too. I went back to college after leaving Social Work.
You can do this!
Good luck!
2007-11-20 11:46:01 · answer #2 · answered by NY_Attitude 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in my second year of college. I am taking a break from college to work. I did stay home with my baby till he was 3 months old, then he is in a small daycare now while I work part time. He will know who mommy is.
2007-11-20 12:20:50 · answer #3 · answered by RearFace@18mo. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he/she is only going to daycare during the day and is going to be with you in the afternoon and evening then of course he/she will know who you are. I was worried about the same thing with my children but I waited 8 months before resuming college. My first was 8 months when I started, I took a year off for my second pregnancy ahd he was 9 months when I went back. Don't worry your baby will know who you are.
2007-11-20 11:40:37 · answer #4 · answered by Violet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my first child during my undergraduate college years and my third child while I was getting my graduate degree. I was able to stay home for about a year with my first child, but with my second, I was back in classes in less than three months. My daughter definitely knew who I was when I would pick her up from the babysitter. Although she was OK with the babysitter, she was always happiest with me. Do not feel guilty because you are separating from your child. The sacrifices that you make now will benefit her in the end. Congratulations on staying in school.
2007-11-20 11:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anna3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to motherhood! Believe me, this is just the beginning of your feelings of guilt. But guilt is just a sign that you are concerned about your baby's well being and that is normal. Your baby will NOT forget you. Unfortunately, a lot of people have to use daycares/nannies (myself included) and you will feel bad about it (I cried the first time), but just think about the benefits of a daycare. Your child will benefit from interacting with other children and will begin learning letters, shapes, colors, etc. I wasn't in college when I had my children, but I work a 24 hour shift and know about feeling guilty. I try to spend all the time I can with them when I'm off, and they are normal, well adjusted kids who love me just as much as I love them!
2007-11-20 12:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A baby always knows who their mommy is. You are continuing your education so you can provide a better life for your child. You have nothing to feel guilty about! I would feel more guilty about sitting and collecting Welfare when I was able-bodied.
2007-11-20 11:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ryan's mom 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You'll always be the mommy as you will be there a great percentage of the time and make all the decisions regarding your child's life. It will work out, you'll see it'll be fine.
2007-11-20 11:42:34 · answer #8 · answered by carol p 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The child will know you are Mommy. you bond with her all the time and that bond is begun to be deeply established by 3 months.
2007-11-20 11:41:48 · answer #9 · answered by Nora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, many of us moms have to do this these days. It seems to work out ok.
I was lucky with my two girls and my mom took care of them when they were tiny and later they went to daycare.
2007-11-20 11:39:28 · answer #10 · answered by Kimberly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋