Why are most middle-aged women so rude and brash?

Question

A lot moreso than younger and elderly women.

I think the world will be a better place when the boomers die out.

Answer 1

Because we are old enough to know we don't have to put up your with BS. We don't have forever left and its really rude of you to expect us to spend what time we have solving your problems. I do not suffer fools kindly. I intend to fully be this way when I'm in the home chasing the old guys from my wheel chair.

As for beauty fading apparently not enough - I am really tired of the damn 25 year olds hitting on me at the bar. I let them know in no uncertain terms what chance they have (NONE).

Menopause means I don't have to put up with the bloating 10 days out of every month.

Answer 2

Regardless of age, women are like that. I'm a middle aged woman now but throughout my life, I've had to work with all different ages. People in my age group when I was younger were just as rude and condescending as the older people. I've also found very helpful and friendly people of all ages. As another poster suggested, maybe you should respond by telling them that their words and actions are professionally inappropriate and just generally unnecessary.

Answer 3

I'm in my later 40's and I've really noticed my older friends change, in their 50's. I call that the entitled generation, it's all about them. Not putting up with **** is one thing and isn't an excuse for cruelty and nastiness. Especially if there is no **** even going on. I would even say some of them become downright narcissistic. Someone needs to do everything for them...they don't 'like' doing anything. I've been asked to drive an hour one way to help them do something like hang a picture because they don't like hammers anymore. I've been noticing this for many years as I have friends in that age group. It could be menopause but most are kind of there by then. Maybe it's what their mothers did or they were taught but I've been wondering about it myself. I just start avoiding them when it starts.

Answer 4

A woman s shelf life runs out at age 35 or so and they live a few years in denial. Once it finally hits them that men don t want them anymore, they become angry and bitter. They can no longer have men shower them with attention and pay their every whim. The men their own age are out chasing and getting 25 year olds. Men get better with age, women do not. All those men women rejected in their 20 s are now going out with their daughters. The only men chasing after the over the hill old bags are very young guys who see them as an easy lay, nothing more. Heck, when I was 21 I was banging a 40 year old on a regular basis just because she was an easy lay and she wasn t fat. I could care less about her. More and more men are choosing not to get married nowadays because there is no reason to and the likelihood of divorce and financial ruin is too high. Women are very desperate nowadays because they depend on men to take care of them. It s finally dawning on them that equality is not all it s cracked up to be and feminism has failed them and left them on their own with men rejecting serious relationships with them. They have created a situation where there is absolutely no benefit for men to get married but every reason not to, not the least of which is losing everything they own and financial ruin for at least 15 years. More and more middle aged women are single and alone and the men don t want them. Oh sure, there are exceptions to every rule and I m sure women will post messages on here telling us all how beautiful they are and how men are still after them in their 40 s, blah blah blah. There are exceptions to every rule but there are very few true Sophia Loren s out there. The majority of women look like crap at 40 while men get better and better. I m 54 and banging more 20 something year old women than ever. It s amazing to me. I don t even look twice at women below 35. Do you think I would want a serious relationship with a woman my age? Are you kidding me? I m too busy having fun with young, hot chicks. That s why women are bitter, rude, and angry. They hit the wall.

Answer 5

I think it happens when they're surrounded by condescending chauvinists (male and female). The B****hit meter has expired and the tolerance level has dropped WAY down!
Women of a certain age come into their own; their boundaries are healthy and are able to be open and honest about how they want to be treated.
I am now 48. I still look good for my age, I dress well and take care of myself. At a seminar recently, I was given a kit with stationery, etc to use for an upcoming training course. We were asked to write some information down, and I reached into my bag to pull out my pen. The male facilitator came over, reached into my kit, pulled out the pen, took the lid off and handed me the pen, looking piteously at me as if I was useless.
I firmly but politely informed him that I would prefer to use my own pen, thank you! He looked shocked, but I am still seething! What annoyed me was that he has had the same job for 32 years in the same industry. My working background is interesting, varied and I have been involved in careers that some people only dream about. It will be an interesting training session, because I will not tolerate that kind of attitude.
We no longer have respect for other human beings, and the whole concept of the "wise elder" has vanished. It's a youthful beauty culture now and if one doesn't fit into that category, then they are misfits. Perhaps "middle-aged" women are rebelling against this?
What are your thoughts on this?

Answer 6

First of all, you're generalizing. That's a no-no. I have met plenty of middle-aged women who are very nice.

Anyway...if there IS any truth to what you are saying, it is probably for a couple of reasons:
-This is when life might be the hardest. They are still working and their kids are in high school or college.
-Youthful beauty is fading, and this frustrates them (As women become elderly, they accept this). It's unfortunate that our society still places such a high value on female beauty, or these women wouldn't have to go through this.
-Perhaps...menopause? I am sure you will get a lot of answers like this, but I think this is probably a really tough thing to go through.
-Doubt. They are wondering if the path they have chosen in life is the right one, but they know they are too old to do much to change it now.
-Product of a particular generation. Middle-aged women may have grown up in a time when that behavior was the norm.

Answer 7

It must be the neighborhood you live in. All the middle-aged women I know are funny, articulated, compassionate, tuned into what is going on in the world, polite and respectful...in other words a far cry from rude and brash.

Answer 8

I'm a 48 year old woman and .....I hear ya! God, I hate being around most women my age. They are the most uppity, dull, rude creatures around . Not all, but most of em that I know. They all need to ask Santa for the heavy duty stick pullers for their hineys this year. I think alot of em are so worried about missing their Botox appointments, that they forget everything else, like human decency. I may be headed toward that menopausal path , but I didn't forget what it was like to be young. I like being my age actually. The kids are grown and out, so hubby can walk around naked...a plus for me! I get to be gramma...love it. I have more money...just got new boobs..Yeah! So, ladies in that midlife way, and you know who I'm talkin' about...LIGHTEN UP!!!!!!! (Did I tell em?..ha.)

Answer 9

Contrary to popular belief, people's personalities don't change that much when they get older. A grumpy middle-aged woman was probably just as grumpy when she was younger. You just didn't notice.

Answer 10

Because middle-aged persons are less likely to 'suffer fools gladly' and we have the life experience you are lacking. This is completely independent of gender. We know many things you have yet to learn; we've actually 'been there'.

ps: elderly people of both genders can be very cranky. Hang out at a nursing home for awhile.

Answer 11

Why are most young men so rude and brash?

A lot more so than middle-aged and elderly men.