What does a lonely virgin do on thanksgiving? dont want to hate happy people!!!?

Question

I am a 34 yr old prof of math who is still a virgin. Yeah that pretty much sums it all up. Every day I go home to my lonely house.. i bought myself a house that was beyond my means and beyond my needs just because i have always wanted to live in a spacious house. Its getting close to thanksgiving and everyone seems to be preparing for a special time. I fee left out of life. And I hate myself on memorial day, labor day, luther king day and on july 4th. not to mention the end of the year. This year I want to live through thanksgiving, unlike previous years when i watched dvds (I do not watch news or tv shows withing a one day radius of holidays, to shut otu holiday content). This year I dont want to hate people who are happy, but i cant help myself. (PS: I am an atheist and therefore I know i'm not gay. )

Answer 1

Do you not have a family? And what does being a virgin have to do with being lonely?
Do you have a job? YOu should make friends there. Then invite those friends over.
DO SOMETHING
you have to reach out to other people... you can't always expect them to come to you.

Answer 2

Honey I don't see what your religious views or your sexual orientation has to do with Turkey day. Just reverse your age and you have me; a 43 year old asexual virgin whose mother when she was alive that is scared the living ____ out of me about sex! Even though I have 2 of the very best friends that I girl could ask for I'm alone on the holidays too. I suggest that you get whatever you use as comfort food and oink out on Thursday! I don't know if you have any biological family that you are close to or not even though it seems that you don't, guess what neither do I! I am making deviled eggs, a pumpkin pie and getting something from IHOP aaaaaaaaaaand watching the Dallas Cowboy/Jets game and am going to route the 'boys to victory! For a math teacher you are lousy at adding up the facts...you are depressed so find a shrink get some meds and therapy and find ways of making yourself happy...it can be done I should know I have spent so many thanksgivings and x-mases alone it's not funny. But I find ways of making the best of it and I end up enjoying myself.

Answer 3

Find a place to volunteer your time this Thanksgiving. Is there a place in your area that serves dinner to the needy? Maybe you can help cook or serve. Even though you're atheist, you don't need to rule out church-sponsored events.

If that's not your style...are there any projects that need to be done around the house that you've been putting off? Keeping busy can help take your mind off the fact that the holiday season is here.

That's all I've got for ya.

Answer 4

That's awesome that you are still pure. Not many people can say that. :)
I'm sorry yo will be alone on Thanksgiving. So will I. My husband is a Firefighter and is held on because of the Santa Ana Winds.So my three kids and I will be making paper plate people and eat sandwiches.
Instead of being alone, would you consider serving in a Soup Kitchen. The Salvation Army is always looking for help.
I hope you have a wonderful day and find something positive and uplifting to do.
Have a nice day.

Answer 5

1) Praise God that you still have the gift of virginity to give when you do find the right one! Just think of how meaningfull it will be when you can tell her "you are my first, my only."

2) Volunteer at a mission. Nothing helps us see past our own problems like helping others, especially those that have it worse. This kind of behavior is also impressive to the opposite sex. Maybe you'll even meet someone there.

3) Get out there. Easier said than done, I know. But find places where you are liable to meet people with similar interests and values. And don't sell yourself short. I would find being a professor of math and a virgin both to be big turn-ons myself.

Have a happy Thanksgiving anyway!

Answer 6

An unhappy atheist go figure. I guess you have to ask yourself Why would people want to be around me, what can I do different. Seems like you shut people out and now you want to change but what are you doing to change yourself? Apparently you don't have many close friends because if they truly cared they would open their homes up to you. Take a look at yourself and decide what you need to do to change yourself. Just don't kill yourself.. and no offense you might be gay otherwise you wouldn't have thrown in that comment, maybe accepting your sexuality will make you happy, classic closet case from what your saying here..

Answer 7

Your atheism has nothing to do with this--and what would that have to do with knowing you're not gay? If you are that lonely, you need to look at how you treat people. It's a cliche, but to have friends, you need to be a friend. Don't you have friends who would invite you to share a holiday with them? If not, why not? You talk about hating people who are happy--you should reserve hate for truly evil people.
Take a look at yourself and make some changes. You're all by yourself for a reason, and it's not anyone's fault but your own.

Answer 8

I am a mid-30s Virgin myself. I suffer from extreme social shyness, mixed in with a bit of Autism but I thank God for every wonderful day I get to experience. I too find Thanksgiving days lonely but I want to truly pick myself up from my bootstraps and see what I can do to move on. Moving on: What else can one do when they feel down?

Good luck to you sir.

Answer 9

I would meet women at church but you are an atheist.

You have a negative attitude and obviously, aren't making enough of an effort to get out there and meet people.

I want to see a pic of you. I want to see if there is any tips I can give you on your physical appearance.

Also, tell us what the last conversation was you had with a woman, when was it, where was it?

Answer 10

It sounds like your up the creek without a paddle,your over the falls without a barrel,you have multiplied your possessions,but reduced your values. You whine to much,love too seldom,and hate too often,you've been all the way to the top of your ladder,but have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. I guess it's pretty hard being atheist and not believing in anything.