My boyfriend and I have been having a lot of problems lately, and no matter how many times I talk to him, cry to him about it, he doesn't seem to listen. I know I should probably end it, because it's pretty much dead already, but I love him so much. I don't think that I would be able to go through with it, anyway. I'm so lonely without him. I could be surrounded by a million friends but if he's not there, I feel so sad and alone. I don't think I can handle it, and what makes it worse is I think that he could. So, I want to know what you think about it. I know it's stupid, but I'm sad.. and lost.. What should I do? Should I give up? Everyone's telling me to follow my heart, but the only thing my heart wants is to be with him.. But if it's really causing me this much pain, should I continue?
2007-11-20 10:09:58 · 24 answers · asked by Wren 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
It's kind of hard to put this all in here, but basically he completely blows me off ALL the time for his friends, and everyone sees that but him. I tried to tell him, but he said he doesn't think he does.
Last night, he told me I was crazy and too jealous because of that. Last year he blew off his friends to be with me at least sometimes, and kept trying to convince me to do the same for him, but now that I am he isn't, and I'm too clingy, apparently. He joined one of my classes to be with me and now he won't spend time with me because his friends joined too. He said he wants "bro's time" or whatever, space. He told me he's got other things going on besides me, and that he tries to make me happy but he can't do everything. I don't think I'm crazy, I listen to him and what he wants, I think he should listen to what I think is wrong.
But I'm starting to think this is un-fixable. But, I'll be honest, I don't know what I will do if we break up. I'm dependent on him, he's my best friend.
2007-11-21 04:12:52 · update #1
Well Sweetie! You are being too possessive, too as you say clingy! I suggest you gather all your strength together and do exactly what he is doing! Pretend to be having fun with your friends when he is not around. When you are with him, don’t pester him to be with you all the time. Make him believe that you are cool with him spending time with his friends and hint that you are having a great time as well! Throw in another guys name pretty often when you talk about the fun you are having! Once he feels that he may lose you I assure you that he will on his own start spending more time with you!!!
2007-11-21 07:02:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
It probably is un-fixable, if that's how you feel. I know how hard it is to accept the end to a relationship with someone that you love, no matter how badly you want it to work. I wouldn't say that you should listen to your heart because that's really not the best thing for you. I think that you should do what you know in your head is right and that you should listen to your close friends and family because they'll have your best interest in mind. Saying good bye is almost never easy, but sometimes it just needs to be said.
2007-11-21 14:36:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you do sound like you may be a bit to clingy. Boys/men don't like it when a female cling or depend to much on them. It pushes them away. Start having and enjoying a life without him no matter how hard that may be. Once you start becoming less dependent on him he will notice the difference and come around or maybe he just don't want to be with you anymore. If that is the case I know how hard it will be to live your life without him. Been there, done that. But believe me you will get over him. Your happiness is important and if you are not happy with him you may as well be unhappy without him. I know right now it does not seem possible to be happy without him or even with someone else. But believe me, one day you will look back on this time in your life and laugh while telling your kids and grandkids all about it.
2007-11-21 14:39:31 · answer #3 · answered by Thumper 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you know the answer, yourself.
There is nothing I can say that will make things better.
There is a saying love is blind.
You love this Guy, who cares nothing about you?
So find some one ells.
Well loss is pain and if you have feelings for some one, to loose them would be like loosing part of you.
But some times is the best thing to do, so you have frost bite in your foot, cut it off or die.
2007-11-21 14:54:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Um, yeah how old are you?
I'd drop him with a quickness. You sound like you deserve better. He shouldn't treat you like that. He sounds like a jerk, or maybe he doesn't know better. What you're dealing with is a soul tie. I'd end it now before it gets worse. Try building stronger healthier relationships with your chick friends. But yeah, I'd really seriously consider droppng him. If you feel the pain your heart is hurting and that is a way of it telling you to let go.
2007-11-21 14:42:50 · answer #5 · answered by Kitkat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should dump the lame ***. Obviosly if hes not changing he is never going to change. EVen though you may be in pain right now, things will get better, they always do. Seriously, if you really wantto be happy you wouldnt need someone like that who blows you off. His friends are more important to him right now and maybe hes just not ready for a serious relationship, How long have youb een dating??
2007-11-21 14:35:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hon, i hate to tell you this, but it does kinda sound like the relationship has taken a turn for the worse....you need to move on the best you can. it will not be easy, something like this never is, but it would be the right thing to do. you have done everything you can to get him to notice how you are feeling, but yet he still won't pay attention to you or your feelings. it sounds like he has lost interest and is just with you b/c it's an old habit. you don't deserve it....life is way too short to live unhappy. and stop brushing off your friends to be with him, start going out with them and start brushing him off ....he may see what it's like to have someone do that. it's just a thought
2007-11-21 14:38:08 · answer #7 · answered by Latino Heat 4ever 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
hey a guy i loved ended it in an email on mothers day. let me tell you! i cried everynight just talk to my mom or sister. i was a lump. it was horrible and i know what its like we were barely talking and when we did it was...empty. take my advice and end it because it would just get harder. if he really loves you he'd try harder to make you happy and he'd make it a #1 priority to do that. if you do end it, he could see what a **** he was. at that point, you have to tell him he had his chance. i think you should just let it go and leave it. let things play out like they will. fate knows what its doing.
good luck, hope this helps. need anything email me
edit: i know its hard to read a lot of these answers, but it gets easier. promise
2007-11-21 14:43:55 · answer #8 · answered by Silly Jilli :) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it may seem extremely difficult at first but i personally think that you should end it. Do not waste your time on someone who does not feel the same about you. I can garentee you will find someone new eventually that you will love and they will love you and treat you good in return. Think of all the fun your missing out on with your friends because of him. Its not worth it.
2007-11-21 14:35:52 · answer #9 · answered by Baylee M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you and how long have you known this guy? If you are younger than 21 I would suggest you hang out with friends and just have fun for a while....dont rush things and you will find someone else.
2007-11-21 14:35:12 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋