I was just wondering. I was thinking about waiting and being completely shocked when I give birth. Are there any advantages to waiting? Any shock value left. If you know what the sex is, is there any harm is over planning (like only blue clothes for your boy or a pink room for your girl?)
2007-11-20 09:57:27 · 20 answers · asked by vanity planning 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
My husband and I waited until our son was born. He was our first child, and we really wanted that surprise. It was a lot of fun wondering and waiting for that moment. When our son was born, it was great to announce to everyone that we had a beautiful baby boy!
A lot of our friends made bets. There was a pool going around my office on whether I would have a boy or a girl. It made the experience even more fun.
Our baby shower was also a lot of fun. We chose bedding for the crib that was gender neutral. There is a lot to choose from. Friends and family members bought gender neutral clothing for the baby. Some even bought girl clothes, because they were positive the baby was a girl. We got a lot of great clothes for the first year that would work for a boy or a girl.
We are expecting our second child now, and we intend to find out the gender as soon as we can. This time, I would like to be prepared. If the baby is a boy, there is nothing that I need to purchase. We do need to choose another boy's name. However, if the baby is a girl, I need to get some girl clothes for when she is older.
BTW, I have known cases where the baby was thought to be one or the other based on the ultrasound, and the opposite was true.
There are not many surprises left in life. With modern technology, you can do so much. For your first child, it is very exciting waiting for that moment.
Good luck!
2007-11-20 10:15:02 · answer #1 · answered by SR 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm 41wks pregnant with my second child and I didn't find out with either of them. The benefits to me is Ultra sounds aren't a 100% right so I would much rather spend money on things that are neutral then take a chance of them saying your having one sex and then when you have the baby it's the opposite of what you thought (does happen often). Another benefit is you don't have to worry about getting your hopes up if you don't know. Because if you were told you were having a girl and you wind up having a boy some people may feel disapointed. I also like the fact of trying to guess what sex it is and doing little games with my family to see who is right. It can be very hard to wait but in the long run it makes your delivery so much more extrodinary. If you do find out though there is no such thing as over planning maybe under but not over. Hope that helps good luck and take care.
2007-11-20 18:18:21 · answer #2 · answered by Stacey G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
We waited for the surprise. And it was great. I didn't want to be told what she was I wanted to find out for my self and it was the best moment of my life. We have it on video and looking back at it is great. I thought we were a boy, I was convinced. But when I looked she was infact a little girl. A very big surprise in the end. I'm 17 weeks pregnant with 2nd and really wanted to find out, but in the end we are keeping it a surprise again. I wanted to be organized with clothes etc but in the end I know my mum and sister will be the 1st ones out there buying stuff for him/her. So I'll have something pink or blue before I leave the hospital.
2007-11-20 18:13:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does is spoil the surprise if you find out while you are still pregnant? It is still a surprise then right? I liked being able as the mommy to call people or email them and tell them what we were having. When you are the one giving birth you kind of leave that to the husband or family and I wanted to be involved. It made it even more special. Also, dint have a ton of money to spend AFTER the baby was born so it was nice to know so I could buy stuff while I was still pregnant.
2007-11-20 18:10:17 · answer #4 · answered by reba_jr 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, if you can wait, I really give you credit! My husband and I wanted to know the sex of our baby ASAP. Yes, the surprise would be great, but the agony of waiting may just about destroy you. Also, I can't imagine doing everything that most expectant couples do before the baby arrives (such as buying clothes, designing the nursery and picking a name) AFTER the baby is born! But if that's what you want to do, go for it. You'll certainly be a rare breed! Good luck and congratulations!
2007-11-21 15:11:43 · answer #5 · answered by SoBox 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wanted to wait very badly BUT I ended up choosing not to because my husband was going overseas (is gone now and will be til beg of Dec) and I told him at a restaurant the day before he left that if anything should happen to him over there I would want him to know as much as possible about our baby. He said he would be fine and he's coming back but I felt he should know. I told him it was worth my surprise being ruined. I wish we could've waited but that was my reason. So far he's ok though.
2007-11-20 21:26:36 · answer #6 · answered by Malia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I are expecting our first child. Before getting married we had talked about when we had children if we would want to know the sex of our baby. We both had agreed to wait. It had been a few years since we had discussed that so I asked him again once we found out we were expecting. He said he really wanted to let it be a surprise. I was so happy because I wanted to wait too! I still have several months to go but we are both very excited to meet and hold our little baby. BTW, its driving our family and friends nuts that they don't know... which makes me smile every time.
2007-11-20 18:27:46 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The modern world of technology have spoiled the richness of not knowing the sex of the baby. That's what makes it so much fun, guessing the sex, weight and delivery of the baby. I say, be daring and wait until your baby is born before finding out the sex. Watch all your friends and family members squirm and call you weird because it is just plain torture for them being kept in the dark. I hope its a boy or girl :)
2007-11-20 18:05:18 · answer #8 · answered by Nettajay 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, some people do wait. I'm actually torn on whether I want to find out.
There is definitely the possibility of overplanning. That's one of the reasons I might not want to find out. I don't want to find out it's a girl, and then compulsively buy a million pink things and decorate the nursery all pink and girly, and then have a boy next.
Pros and cons to both! Comes down to personal choice.
2007-11-20 18:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by That's not my name 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A co-worker of my parents he and his wife didn't find out the sex of either of their children(2 1/2 and 4) they wanted to be surprised. Now i have a friend who is expecting in March and she wanted to be surprised but her husband didn't, and she knew he would hold it over her head if the doctor gave him the slip of paper with the gender on it. I also have a cousin who's wife is expecting in April and they decided to find out.
I think more people find out now a days. For one it can help out more with choosing cloths, decorating the room you don't have to go with unisex colors. Then as someone said if you told your having a boy and it turns to be a girl. You wouldn't really be prepared for a girl, and might even be disappointed I guess being surprised you have to prepared for either which can be a good thing.
If i have a kid one day i think i will want to be surprised but i guess it just depends if the father was on the same page.
2007-11-20 18:20:33 · answer #10 · answered by Spread Peace and Love 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋