my 2week old wants to be held to sleep?

Question

The past couple of days he falls asleep in my arms and a minute after I lay him in his bassinette he starts crying. Last night me and my husband just let him sleep with us we were so tired I know I'm not supposed to sleep with him in our bed, I don't want to do it again. What can I do, I'm a new mom?

Answer 1

He's only 2 weeks old. He's been in your tummy for 9 months and use to your voice etc. At this age you can't spoil him. Hold him when ever you can he will grow up so fast and in no time he will be walking around and not need you as much. Cuddle him while you can. I did this with my daughter until she was 3-4 months old. Then I would put her down awake so she could get use to putting her self to sleep. I didn't have any real problems getting her use to it. Good luck

Answer 2

My little guy didn't really want to be held all the time. My problem was that I didn't want to put him down. You can't spoil a newborn with too much love. For those that say to let him cry, think about how you would feel if you were in a new place, had no idea about anything that was going on, and were totally left alone. I've had some people say, "Crying is good for his lungs." Yeah. Just like bleeding is good for the veins. Every time you answer his needs, he learns to trust you more, and eventually the crying will lessen. Do look into getting a sling. The baby stays close to you and feels your movements, but you will have your hands free to do any household chores you might feel up to doing. Another option is to cosleep. I have a cosleeper that attaches to the bedframe. This way he is on a separate sleep surface, but I can still reach out and touch him so he doesn't feel so alone. Once again, this will help instill trust and bonding, which leads to a happier baby.

Answer 3

Your two week old is NORMAL and your response to his needs is NORMAL.

Remember that just 2 short weeks ago he was inside you. He could hear/smell/taste/see/feel you every second of every day. Now, when he can't sense you, it's unsettling to him. Imagine waking up to find that your leg was missing. That's what it's like to him right now when you aren't there. He doesn't understand yet that the two of you are separate beings OR that you still exhist when he can't sense you. It is NORMAL and HEALTHY for him to want constant contact with you right now.

As long as you follow safe cosleeping guidelines, there is nothing wrong with you bringing him into your bed. I'll put a link below about safe cosleeping. Basically, keep soft bedding away from the baby. Don't cosleep if you are taking medications that may impare you (including OTC meds that might make you sleep deeply, etc.).

If you want to try putting him in the bassinett, have Dad warm it up for you with a warm rice sock or a heating pad while baby is falling asleep in your arms and then remove it before you put baby down. Maybe if the sheets aren't so cold he'll stay asleep better. Also, swaddle him well and lower your body down close to the mattress before you lay him down so the transfer is seamless. (We used to say our son couldn't "feel gravity" when you would put him down or he would wake up.)

Answer 4

Awww....... Enjoy that if your not too over tired. I have a 6mth old and he's sleeping in my arms now. I love it ,trust me it won't last long. There is nothing wrong with having the baby sleep with you at all. Mine dose when I need to sleep.If your worried about rolling on the baby; you can buy a cradle bed made especially for your bed. Not expensive it light weight and small just the right size for protecting the newbie.Remember the baby is used to the sound of your heart beating as it was in you for 9 mths.This is a soothing sound that your little remembers and will cling to for comfort. You can also try a wind up alarm clock wrapped in a warm blankie ( REMEMBER to not set the alarm on or it will startle the babe). Mother of 2 boys.Enjoy, Enjoy and sleep when your baby sleeps. Lot's of luck.

Answer 5

You are a first time mommy aren't you?
YES! You can sleep with him. Will he eventually want to sleep alone? YES!

Our 11 year old has autism and slept with us until he was 2.5 years of age. We began to transition him out when he was 2.

Studies show cosleeping:
-SIDS
-babies sleep longer
--mom and ababy are more rested
-baby adjusts sleep pattern to mom- I have noticed this with our baby who now sleeps with us.

Is cosleeping bad? Heck no! Our 15 month old has never had a night alone. Ever. She does not even own a crib. We figured that we bought a really nice one for her brother and it became the ultimate cat bed- so we opted for no crib for her and pocketed that money.

Here are some links:
http://www.attachmentparenting.org/artbenefitscosleep.shtml
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/7/T071000.asp
http://www.naturalchild.org/guest/tami_breazeale.html

I warn you- you will catch it all from family and friends who do not support so- either do not tell them or ignore it- I do both.

Good luck!

Answer 6

There is nothing 'wrong' with sleeping with your child. Go to an Asian culture, or another country where making a baby sleep in a crib is unheard of. That is not wrong. It is only our clutural preference as our culture fosters indepdence, whereas other co-sleeping cultures foster the group over individual. Neither is 'wrong' or 'right'.

Try swaddling him. That does wonders. Also I would lean into the crib and hug her and sing and rock her.... while she was laying down. I slowly distanced... first I just hugged her and sang. Than I got to the point where I could just touch her forhead and sing. Within 2 weeks I just had to poke my head in the door and sing a little bit and whe would quiet down immediatley.

Congraulations on the little one!:)

Answer 7

He has been used to being nice and warm and bundle up in your belly and when you lay him down he can sense that.I think it is fine to co-sleep,some people dont,but only you can make that decision.It like breast feeding and formula feeding,everyone has there own opinion and only you can decide what you want to do with your baby.You can buy things to keep your baby safe on the bed so you dont roll onto him.He is still very young and he needs to feel your warmth and love.Just sit back and give him all the love,warmth and attention he needs right now.Good luck. :)

Answer 8

My son was the same way. He slept with us until he was about 2 months old when we started putting him in the bassinet and it worked just fine. I think it was that he needed to comfort after spending nine months in the womb. it should be fine to slowly ween him out of that. Like during the day have him sleep in the bassinet and slowly he will sleep in it at night.

Answer 9

You CAN sleep with him in your bed if you want to!
My son was the same way for about 6 weeks. Most babies are. He was inside you until a couple weeks ago. Before, his main job was to sleep. But now that he's becoming more aware of himself, he realizes that Mommy's not holding him. If you don't want him to sleep in your bed, swaddle him tightly then feed him and hold him for 15 minutes before you even consider putting him down.

Answer 10

He CAN sleep in your family bed. There is Absolutely no reason not to!

Family bed or co-sleeping is a common practice. It builds the babies independence slowly, rather than going from in the womb to down the hall. This way the baby can hear you breath and snore and feel your skin and heartbeat. It is all very soothing to an infant.

I co-slept with both of my children.... there is nothing wrong with it.

There are rules though.

No drinking (even a little bit), no drugs (even cold-medicines can make you groggy) and no leaving baby unattended.

there are plenty of "apparatuses" you can buy to lay the baby in, but I just laid mine in the crook of my arm, next to my breast ( I was breastfeeding at the time) and tucked his little toes up toward my belly.

Did I mention my side of the bed went up against the wall at the time..... I evened out the space with baby blankets under his butt and we slept so good.