I h8t my parents?

Question

My mom is always causing trouble in my house she looses the plot over anyting. she doesnt know when to stop fighting and always brings other ppl into it...what do i do pls help

Answer 1

It's normal to feel that way towards your parents at some point in your life. Was your mom always like this? Was she ever happy? Is she just feeling overly stresssed from work or the burden of a houseful of messy people who don't chip in?Sometimes, a woman goes through some difficult phases in life, like menopause, and it affects her moods in a serious way. She also might have some emotional problems that can be helped with medication and therapy. Or, she might have issues with your dad or other people and just takes it out on anyone at home.

Talk to your father, aunt, uncle or even school counselor.

If you don't want to turn to others, you'll have to endure. My suggestion is to keep a low profile and don't do anything to trigger her outburts. That's what I did when my mom went through depression and menopause. She screamed at us all the time, cried over nothing, and slept a lot. It was hard because we never knew how she would be feeling at any given moment and my dad just worked all the time to get away from it.

I became a very obedient girl and did what I was told and tried not to argue. This helped a lot because then she couldn't complain or get mad because she did all the work. In fact, we did all the housework and cooking. I used to have occasional feelings of hate toward her because of the things she did or said. She didn't really "cause trouble" but in her anger and frustration, she said really hurtful things that affect me to this day--and she hit us, too. My sisters and I got involved with school activities (sports, band, cheerleading)that helped get us out of the house. I also read and wrote, listened to music, studied. She never complained if I said I was studying.

Soon enough, I grew up, got a job, went to college and had a life outside the house. She got much better as she got older. I love her and we have a good relationship now.

Good luck.

Answer 2

The best thing to do is tell her how her behavior is affecting you, and that ur not happy. It's also possible that she's not happy and just doesnt know how to deal - which could explain why she is always asking for outside help. I had alot of similar problems growing up and communication is the key, i never talked to my parents, stayed mad and even left to avoid the situation. Looking back now I see the problems my mom was dealing with and she just didnt know how to handle them at the time and no one else she could count on for support! Hope this helps....

Answer 3

Some people just really never grow up and never let go of what caused them pain so they always cause bigger problems because of all that anger they got bottled up. I would suggest to just stay away, maybe go to your room or outside. Have you tried just maybe doing some sports to keep you from going insane? I'm serious, that is something that will cause hate in you and the cycle will go on, you will have anger bottled up and let it out with those who don't deserve it.
Get your mind away from it when you're there with music, just play your headphones really loud or go outside.
Go places do something to stay away until you're able to leave and go back just to visit.
Believe me, being there and done that, it doesn't get any better. Sorry.

Answer 4

This sounds like what my daughter would have said about me in her teenage years.

The things that bothered me seemed unimportant to her, but when something was important to her, she couldn't understand why it seemed unimportant to me.

The fact is you are in different places in your life. Does all the work and responsibility for the house fall on your mom? Is everybody else taking a turn making dinner, doing the dishes, helping with the laundry or any of the othe hundreds of things it takes to keep the house going??

You may not be able to understand the stress she is under trying to keep house and home and family together, and she cannot understand the stresses you are under in your life.

You both need to agree that life is tough and start looking to see what you can do to make the other's life a little better.

Do unto others...

Answer 5

My friend has the EXACT same problem. I feel sorry for both of ya. Is you mom a drinker, smoker or take drugs?? This could be the problem. There is really no way to stop it. If you try to talk to her than she might get mad or sad. If you tell the police your mom might get even more mad! I would hit the rode and drive. (if you have your license..i don't) Maybe tell your dad or a friends parents. They will try and if they don't......e-mail or Im me.....
~maddie

Answer 6

i would tell you to sit down and have a serious talk with her. let her know how you feel w/o yelling at her as hard as it might be.
but here's a better idea:
record a argument that you know she will remember and one day when shes not in an angry mood talk to her about it like you know she just got heated and didn't mean the stuff she said get her to agree with you and them say 'this is how bad all that stuff you DIDN'T MEAN hurt' and play the tape.
she has to be soulless not to really regret it then.
let her know thats not the only time that shes done it and let her know that you will help her change
and above all, LOVE HER.

Answer 7

I would definitely consider telling your mom exactly how you feel. If you have friends or other relatives you may want to consider talking to them. You should definitely make sure other people know how you feel and know the things going on that you don't like with your mom.

Jacob
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Answer 8

An undeserving dad or mum. One who beats a little one or shall we their new husband or boyfriend beat the little one. A dad or mum who will purchase herself an luxurious fashion designer purse at the same time her youngsters put on moment hand cloths. A dad or mum who does no longer care approximately her youngsters schooling or wellbeing akin to social lifestyles and maintains her youngsters out of institution and calls it homeschooling them at the same time she sits on her pc all day and performs video games after which yells on the youngsters for no longer getting schoolwork performed (a little one has the proper to a correct schooling). A dad or mum who makes use of little one aid cash for her possess delight akin to a excursion fund for herself and her husband at the same time once more the children do with out. A dad or mum who's on a vegan nutrition and refuses to permit the youngsters have nutritious meat quite simply on account that she does not love it and the children seem light always. A dad or mum who does not blank apartment however makes the children do it at the same time she sits. A dad or mum who leaves younger youngsters at dwelling to take care of a child at the same time her and her husband pass on a pleasure experience. A dad or mum who knowingly maintains her kids clear of the opposite dad or mum simply out of spite (kids are entitled to grasp each mothers and fathers). A dad or mum who has adopted by way of with sucide makes an attempt (no less than two or extra) and has certainly not had medication for it, akin to overdosing on drugs (she is a risk to herself and youngsters).These are a few matters which might be neglecting a little one. I am definite you realize what bodily abuse is. Hitting a little one within the face, punching a little one, beating a little one with a belt on account that she or he has ADHD and acts out and the dad or mum would possibly not use cure for the quandary. Burning a little one with a cigarette. I can pass on and on however that is simply to mention a couple of.

Answer 9

Ignore her till you turn 18 or move out, try to be active outside of your home as much as possible and don't let her bring you into it. It really flusters people when you don't react to them trying to start a fight because thats what they want.
Good luck!

Answer 10

Wait till it's time to go to college, take out a loan and go live in a dorm somewhere far away. Until then, there's not much you can do.