I am married to a woman who is insanely jealous. I knew she was before I married her. if she sees me even speaking to someone, it's a problem.She puts on acts in front of others as if she is the kindest person in the world but at home it's a different story. I don't use my phone, don't go anywhere, don't hang out, all because I don't want any problems. I don't love her as a wife, and I told her that but it doesn't matter. I pay all the bills, cook, clean, but she tells everyone that feels she's being used. Got any advice on this one?
2007-11-20 08:12:12 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Let me add, we tried counseling BUT remember what i said how she manipulates people by making them think she so great. She's good at it, she even had me thinking I was treating her bad....And the "vow thing" is something I hold treasure too. Seeing that i made it to God and everything
2007-11-20 08:24:13 · update #1
I was in a relationship like that too at one point. I began to feel very resentful and angry. I used to lie to my friends that I was sick, anything in order not to reveal how truly trapped I was. I finally realized, and it took awhile, that I had lost myself. I had lost who I really was. I quit doing the things I loved, alienated people who loved me. I started to re-evaluate what love truly was. Did he love me or did he love the version of me he was able to manipulate me into being? I wasn't myself so how could he say he loved ME? I decided to get my life back. I got back into my old hobbies, had girl's night out. I had a good time. He didn't like it and eventually it ended. I ended up with someone who loves who I am. He encourages me in everything that I do. He keeps our kids so I can get to my dance classes, he even illustrates my children's books. I'm not telling you to divorce your wife. I am telling you to go be happy. Be yourself, if she truly loves you she will see that and if she truly loves YOU then she will be happy with you. If not, then maybe you will find someone who wants you to grow and share your life, not dominate it. I wish you alot of happiness, however it comes. Good luck!
2007-11-20 08:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by Tink 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We learn from our mistakes, and that's what life is all about. I think you need to at least have a break from each other see how you get on, on your own. I think you would be alot happier. This isn't working, and know one deserves to be treated the way you are there's no love or trust there. So whats the point?? I can see you want a quiet life but you deserve a happy one. Go to a hotel or a friend or family for a few days work things out in your head try not to think about the hassle you will be going back to. You have to be strong. We all make mistakes.
2007-11-20 09:29:40 · answer #2 · answered by alan w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you knew she was jealous before you married her, why did you go through with it? Don't let her control your life. You have every right to have friends...guys AND girls. And she should be paying some of the bills, doing some of the cooking, and some of the cleaning because marriage is teamwork.
2007-11-20 08:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by Leah 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My question is why did you marry her, and how long has it been this way? You say you don't love her as a wife and have told her so......that was a blow to her self esteem if she cares about you. It may have lead to the extreme jealousy, she is afraid you will eventually find someone else and rightly so. That doesn't excuse her extreme reactions but it explains them. I don't know what advice you are hoping for, it sounds as if you need to rethink your relationship or seek counseling to straighten things out.
2007-11-20 08:23:16 · answer #4 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe shes has some 'ghosts' in her closet from a prev. time where she was done wrong and its like a serious problem to her now...like cheated on before and has it in her head all men cheat..or something from her childhood...it only takes one man to break a girls world apart for her to go crazy....maybe take her to someone to talk w/ . or u could try and talk to her bout it...good luck..
2007-11-20 08:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you say you don't love her then why are you bothering? If you're not in love, find someone who you are in love with. Life is about happiness so go seek what makes you happy!
2007-11-20 08:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cool story bro.
2016-05-24 08:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage counselor. ASAP!
If you are not cheating and doing all of the other stuff you listed, she certainly does not appreciate what she has.
Good luck......Finn.
2007-11-20 08:16:54 · answer #8 · answered by Finn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋