There are soo many of us that have a chance to do stuff that we (by societys rules) shouldn't do. But sometimes you have the opportunity to do it and no one else will know. Like the soldier (male) in Iraq who is away fighting for freedom and of course loves his family but is sleeping with another soldier (female)while away. Or the Army wife who is sleeping with another man while her husband is away. If you play your cards right you will never get caught. And how would the wife EVER find out about that being as it's happening 3000 miles away?
So do u do things and say "o well he's not around"?
This is just a fun ? don't get all serious.
2007-11-20 08:05:59 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I was in the AF for 20 years.
IM or email me for my answer as I am sure I would offend someone with it.
2007-11-20 08:11:22 · answer #1 · answered by old-softy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh but these secrets come out and go around. It may take a while. I know, because I was in the Army. You may think the cards are getting played right...but then emotional attachments happen, command gets involved, pictures get out, videos get out, pregnancies happen,
trust me...cards will never be played right. No matter how much you get horny and lonely, it's not worth losing that person you love and married. I've seen families destroyed. Email me if you want 10 true stories. I know more than 10 if you want more.
2007-11-20 08:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could say that it is OK. Or you can say that it is not. When it comes down to it, it is an individuals choice. Personally, I have been outright asked to have sex with a woman who lives 1200 miles away from me, while I was up visiting friends(her being one), I was tempted and sometimes regret that I did not do it (her). However, after coming home to my wife of 16 years, I sleep well, knowing that I was able to remain faithful in this instance.
If I were a service man I would have to guess that I may stray due to the stress of war and not knowing if I was going to get to go home someday. So if, it happened either way I would understand. Fun question to ponder, thanks.
2007-11-20 08:12:40 · answer #3 · answered by Yoda 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that that kind of stuff will always come back and bite you in the butt. I live by the creed "what goes around comes around" and I truly believe in karma. So, no, if I was married to a soldier and I started cheating on him because he was gone I would feel guilty because I would know, going into the marriage, that there would be a chance of him going overseas. It's just a sorry excuse to get away with stupid things.
2007-11-20 08:10:24 · answer #4 · answered by Electric Dazeys 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All of this harkens back to each individual persons values and how they feel about the actions. I agree that there are times where we could ALL do things and get away with them. Some of us would be fine with it and not have any crisis of conscience afterwards. Others of us would do it and feel so guilty that we would tell on ourselves. Then the rest of us wouldn't do it in the first place, but always keep it in the back of our minds and wonder "what if." And for those of you who read this and say that they would never wonder about it ever again....you are the ones who do that the most.
2007-11-20 08:21:15 · answer #5 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
With some stuff I'm so "out of sight out of mind". But when it comes to the vowels I said to my husband in front of our friends and family, then the answer is NO!! Even if the other person never found out, I would know and have to live with that for the rest of my life. I couldn't do that to my husband, or our family.
2007-11-20 08:15:18 · answer #6 · answered by Crystal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If a person takes their vows seriously, have morals for themselves and trust in God they wouldn't do something as low as cheat on their mate under any circumstances. Cheaters always get caught because either the person they cheating with or the person cheating starts to catch feelings and ruins everything. What a person does in the dark will come to light!!!
2007-11-20 08:11:09 · answer #7 · answered by KSR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it always comes out, one still has to live with what they did the guilt will get u eventually. even if the spouse doesn't know they will be able to feel it and they will know by the other persons change in behavior. it may seem like fun when your doing it, but once caught the marriage will never be the same.
2007-11-20 11:59:29 · answer #8 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like you're looking for an excuse to maybe do it your self.?( The out of sight out of mind thing) What ever happened to TRUST. If you truly love somebody this subject should NEVER even be in your mind. No this is NOT a cute OR funny thing to"suppose"
2007-11-20 08:11:36 · answer #9 · answered by gone! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. We are all at a LIVE, active crime scene, where each gathering has aspects of rout or riot, and seditious conspiracy, and conspiracy to interagency fraud, DURING ILLEGAL WARS. Anyone who keeps on with OOSOOM deserves to move back to Mexico, or somewhere else OOS.
Meanwhile, to get to IRAQ, borders defined by Churchill, before he was PM, US crooks had to illegally compete with bin Laden, who WANTED to remove Saddam, so your cheater wouldn't get with his freak, and shoot up the place with DEPLETED URANIUM and all kindsa punky spooge-media, and bomb Baghdad from the air a couple more times.
So your ho-ho-homeboy needs some paper for him and his. It is called D I V O R C E, Tammy, whynot? He deserves to get busted back to PRIVATE, and his officers deserve one round from the finest Chinese revolver, so divorce will save you fifty cents, when the Chinese bankers have to ask WHY they fund your fat power deals and interest hikes, for foreign energy profiteers, DURING SEVERAL YEARS OF WAR.
And why do YOU think that means any kids get a campus? ONLINE, for your school, is whattup. Your jerk is a JERK, and his Generals KNOW the mission is unfunded, yet persist, having incited combat, for profit, ONLY.
UBL's boys didn't even get a car bomb in, till 1993. If your hubby was HONEST, he'd doink AND fight for free, and if he were a Muzzie, he could marry, severally. But he is a crook.
2007-11-20 08:10:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No never! I have a commitment to the person I love and i took vows. I am not one who cheats or does anything that will cause us problems. I stay faithful and true!
2007-11-20 08:12:37 · answer #11 · answered by bbygrl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋