I haven't been happy for years what can i do?

Answer 1

be happy

Answer 2

Firstly I am sorry to hear that you havent been happy for years, it is no easy feet to be in a position when you dont feel on top of the world, but you have to get through each day.

However, firstly I think it is best to ask yourself why you have not been happy for many years. By this i mean is there one specific reason, of perhaps many reasons why you are now and have been unhappy. If you understand this reason/these reasons first, it makes the rest so very much more easier to go through.

It is so hard to keep your head high knowing that youd rather give up and lay down, BUT it is far too easy to lay down, give up and be unhappy - and I know you dont want to take the easy route anymore right? :-)

You need to do things that make you happy, which can be either being with family or close friends who your trust. Or if this is not possible, then perhaps doing thgins that make you happy, like going for nice walks, going to the park, going on holiday, reading, writing, taking up a new hobbie, you see the list is endless. However it is easy for me to say just concentrate on the things that make you happy, because as we all know, in life it is never that easy. But taking it one day at a time, doing the little things that you know you know make you smile, and building upon them will allow you to be so very happy before you know it!

God bless you - Everything will be ok very soon, you'll see -!

Adam D

Answer 3

I know the last thing in the world you probably want to here is anything religious, so I'll instead tell you a few things I've experienced. Before I start I would like to say a few things concerning the other comments. Because you say your not happy does NOT mean you need to see a doctor. New hobbies and places are good temperary fixes, but soon enough you'll be back to the same predicament your in. What I'm saying is you need something lasting. I used to think happiness was getting money and fame, but then I watch famous people attain that and still be empty. I used to think that happiness was having someone on this earth to love, then I watch countless people I know be hurt and miss-used (including myself) by those who had once loved them. I used to think that happiness was doing everything you wanted when you wanted, but at the end of the day when I had to sit still and listen to my thoughts, I still wasn't happy or satisfied. As I've watch human kind, I've found out that in the end what people really wanted was peace. Peace with their mind, peace for the future. Sometimes we run so fast through this life trying simply to please our selves, lying in bed having everything that SHOULD make us happy, but still feeling empty. I have found that peace that passes all understanding. In the dark of the night I don't have to wrestle my demons, I talk peacefully with God and know my happiness is not based in my earthly possessions, the people around me or what I can do to make myself feel worth while. Jesus has given me a purpose in life, and a happiness that last beyond the fleeting remedies anything on this earth would proscribe.

Answer 4

You may be one of a very small percentage of the population with a certain personality type that others cannot, and will not understand. It leads to chronic, debilitating depression that defies treatment. All the cajoling in the word to "get over it" simply does not work. Trust me, I know of what I speak.

Seek a physician and don't let him/her blow you off as to how you really feel. If he/she does, seek another, and then another, until you find one who actually understands. The medical community, in general, is just as dense as the rest of the population about severe, chronic depression and doesn't have a clue. Once in a while, you'll find the gem who does.

I'm 60 and lived with this my entire life, as well as with a disorder called derealization, the feeling I am not real, nor is anything else in the universe. People think it's a joke to say that, but it's wrecked my life. Although I have an incredible sense of humor, I extract pleasure from nothing, absolutely nothing. You don't want to be this way. Seek help.

Answer 5

What most people term "happiness" is related to dopamine and suchlike levels.

Try 1-800-232-6459 http://www.family.org for a free, licensed professional counseling, with suggested resources and referrals. "Flat affect" is literally not so much "happy."

Be patient, not frustrated. The above # is worthwhile.

Also, if you have a local church, try asking there, or asking relatives. Tell your story.

If you read at all, would suggest Ann Ree Colton's "Watch Your Dreams" and "Men in White Apparel," Mark Prophet's "Climb the Highest Mountain," O. M. Aivanhov's "Man, Master of His Destiny" and "Light Is a Living Spirit," Martha Beck's "Expecting Adam," C. S. Lewis' "Testimony of Light," Dr. Huang's "When Invisible Children Sing," and Free and Wilcock's "The Reincarnation of Edgar Cayce?"..

These books are very readable and have profound insights and advice.

Try listening to http://www.klove.com radio and even http://www.coasttocoastam.com radio (click on "Affiliates" button for local stations). Also, consider taking care of a small garden, a goldfish, an indoor plant, watching less tv. All of these are small steps that can teach good lessons and raise happiness.

God bless you,

j.

Answer 6

Life is like a box of chocolates according to Forrest Gumps mom. You never know what's inside.

But now you are the one with an empty box. What do you want to fill it with. I would say laughter. Think more about the positive and do positive helpful things for yourself and for others. Find a hobby you like doing. Do something different with your life. Variety is the spice of life.

Make up your mind like Peter Banning did. And become the real Peter Pan inside you that could believe in changing the impossible when ordinary was all there was that there. Pan the little boy who could fly and never grow up. Think happy thoughts and fly.

Answer 7

Stop searching forsomething or someone to make you happy.
Go out there and do something for the greater good or for other people or for animals.
You will find it is very rewarding and the happiness you get from doing this can not be brought or found in just any place it's a personal pleasure at accomplishing something that made another feel good.

Answer 8

It's a quesrion everyone asks in life at some point or another I know I have on many occasions.

Do something out of the norm.
Not sating go jump out of an aeroplane , but something that has maybe caught your eye and made you think I haven't done that in a while or wouldn't mind giving it a try.

I recently started hill walking, I know sounds a bit anarakish, hey but I enjoy it and planning a holiday out of it next year.

Have a go at it, whatever, you could even find something that envolves the wee one.

Answer 9

I would go to a doctor and see if you can try some medicine for depression. A guy I did that, and said it changed his life radically. He's happy now!
Get a special light that is like natural light and put those bulbs in every light fixture in your home.
Listen to happy music.
One thing that helps is get out there and help others. Volunteer and once you are immersed in helping other people through their troubles, your own will diminish by comparison.
Be grateful for every little thing. Concentrate on the positive things that happen to you. If nothing did, be happy on someone else's behalf for the good things that happened to them.
Find something you can be passionate about. A subject-politics or history or computers or entymology-anything; a collection-stamps, coins, products made of duct tape-anything; a purpose-raise money for a cure for a disease, end poverty, fight crime, reduce interest rates-anything; a hobby-learn to fly, knit, make mosaics, paint, draw, write, fish, go on one day excursions, travel to exotic lands. Read-anything and everything-you'll discover through fiction and non-fiction all kinds of things that will stir your interest.
You've got a life. You can live it happily or unhappily.
Sometimes its not the circumstances you find yourself in, its all about the attitude you CHOOSE to adopt in those circumstances/despite them/because of them.... Choose to be happy, to find a reason to smile.
Finally, get a pet that has the ability to provide you with unconditional love. They'll require your care-so you'll have to get up and about to attend to them.
Clean your home, office, car. People are always happier in clean spaces. And get rid of clutter. Then the need to put stuff away, and get everything tidy won't weigh on you.
Good luck. :)

Answer 10

Form a club for people who also have not been happy for years, share your stories than try to come up with a solution on what to do. Hope to get you a great sense of usefulness and you get something back from the experience.

Answer 11

You need to make a list of things that are not making you happy and change an item on the list one at a time. For example, if you are not happy with your job, find another one or go to school.