please can you give me your opinion NOW?

Question

so iv got this mate and a few moths ago he strangled me we got over it but he has threatened me a few times since
he has also told me he isnt afraid 2 kill someone. in the past few months we have had huge arguments and then been like best mates again. he also likes to mess with ppls heads and has addmitted this 2 me. he can b the nicest person u cud eva meet and then turn crazy.
he likes 2 manipulate ppl. i told him yestarday i wanted nothing 2 do with him and he wouldnt take it. he said id neva win aganst him
i just wana get rid and haave him outa my life
how do i do this? and has he got something mentaly wrong with him
thanks

dont wori i dnt live with him thank god
we r in skl and he is in 1 of my lessons

i kno this sounds silly but is it reali that serious?
omg

i have spoken 2 a teacher and im lucky 2 have alot of great mates
i just cant take this seriously

Answer 1

take him to counsilling before he does something regretable! it sounds serious!

Answer 2

Are there battered women's shelters where you live? If not, could someone in your family, or perhaps a good friend, give you a safe place to stay? Best it is somewhere he doesn't know about, so he can't come and make trouble for the people who helped you.

The problem with these kinds of relationships is that women feel it is noble to forgive, and men take advantage of that fact. They are both getting something out of the relationship, but it certainly is not equal. His promises to reform have proved to be useless in the past, even if he sounds sincere. Indeed, he may BE sincere, but he lacks the sort of self-control it would take for him to really change.

You need to protect yourself first. Then you need to get a good lawyer. Get a restraining order, get your property out of the house, and go live somewhere he doesn't know about. If you can get him into a mental hospital to get some help, do it through third parties. It's better if you simply do not let him know where you are. Your lawyer can act as go-between, or his paralegal, or someone from the shelter, if there is one.

Good luck!

Answer 3

He does sound like a sociopath or possible someone who needs medication. You do not want to be around anyone who might strangle you at any moment. I think it is time for you to "discovery a very boring hobby". Join a group that plays chess or something else he could not stand to do - then be adamant about how fabulous it is and stick with the people eho do this until he finds another friend to hang out with. The GPS or chess or sudoku club might be boring for a while, but you will also meet some other people and most imporantly you will lose his interest in you. Or join a quilting club - something he would have no interest in and something that has no violent angle in it. Something done in groups so they will ease him out if he acts up in an attempt to draw you away from it. Be firm about your devotion to this new "passion" and he will eventually wander off on his own. After that you can do something else, just avoid him and any activity he might enjoy.

Answer 4

When is it going to sink in, he is gone. he is not going to talk to you in school, not in you drama lesson because Mr Shaw is there and not at break Coz i will be there. if he is stupid enough to try and talk to you then you just tell him to get a life and walk off. he can't really contact you out of school and if he is even more stupid enough to do that then we will just have to brother your brothers on him. simple as that. he is gone. I don't think he will do anything like that but if he does then i seriously think you should consider going to the police. you don't necessarily need to get him put in jail coz as it was a few months ago they might to be able to do much but you can try and get a restraining order.

now be a good friend and as i have been there for you for the last few day and i am leaving a message on this, give me best answer lol

Answer 5

Sounds like he has a personality disorder. There's no point trying to discuss anything with him. Just run, be strong and don't let him intimidate you. Make it a priority t get him out of your life. Sound like you may need to get a restraining order so get advice from a solicitor but do not delay. Do it first thing in the morning. Good luck.

Answer 6

You really need to tell your parents and a member of staff at school!
Your teacher has to keep whatever you say in the strictest confidence!
They will be able to monitor this boy's behaviour and assess what is making him behave this way!
There are several reasons for someone to behave like this, such as drugs, a cry for attention, trying to get their own way and as you've said, some type of mental illness!
Try not to provoke him, but also try to avoid being with him, especially alone!
I hope this helps!

Answer 7

You must take this seriously. Never let anyone strangle you. That is horrible. You need to love yourself. Letting this happen shows you have don't care about yourself. You need to. If you let this happen it will escalade into something very bad. You can end up in the hospital or worse, dead. He seems to have a personality disorder and needs help, FAST! If you know his parents please do him a favor and notify them of his bizarre actions. Tell them your worried about his safety, your safety, and the safety of others. Hopefully they will take him to a specailist to get help. He may hate you for this but think of the potential lives and your own you will be saving. He is not normal and you have the ability to prevent something very bad from happenening. Toxic people like that are not good to have in your life

Answer 8

You need to get a restraining order and be very careful. People today are crazy and they mean what they say. Change your numbers and always let someone know your every move. Try not to go out alone unless you really have to. Pray and have faith in God, he is the only one that can deal with your mate.

Answer 9

Yes there is something wrong with him. He's a psychopath - A person with an antisocial personality disorder, manifested in aggressive, perverted, criminal, or amoral behavior without empathy or remorse.
He obviously has no remorse if he continues to treat you badly. You need to get away and if at all possible seek out help from authorities to make sure he stays away.
I know it's hard, but it's for your own safety.

Answer 10

This guy is dangerous. You're smart to stay well away from him. I would definately tell your parents about this, or a trusted adult to which you can confide. Then, go to your school counselor and let them know that this guy makes you uncomfortable. He needs counseling before he really hurts somebody, if he hasn't already.

People who like to mess with other people's heads are no fun to hang out with, especially if you think he'd actually follow through with killing someone, and it sounds to me like you think he could.

If you or the school can't get him to leave you alone, see if your parents would switch you to a different school. And maybe someone should tell his parents about this...

Either way, stay away from him.

Good luck.

Answer 11

Stop returning his calls, emails, IMs, etc. Just act like they are not there. If you see him in person be nothing but cordial and don't engage him in conversation. Please take care of yourself--I used to work at the prosecutor's office and have seen too many times that people haven't taken these situations seriously. If he continues to contact you don't be afraid to contact the police in your area for a restraining order. Good luck.