When the one who you are madly in love with dies unexpectedly, how do you deal with every day life again?

Question

I just can't seem to do it.

Answer 1

You just remember your life is yet to be lived and live it for all it's worth

Answer 2

Mooooooooooooooooooo, someday you'll walk in the sunshine, you'll smile everyday. This I promise you with all my heart.
This is a very hard time of year for folks like you and me too, although it's been awhile for me. I remember the pain and how sometimes it even hurt to breathe.
Maybe instead of working so much you might find a group of people such as a hospice support group. I was in a widow's group for like 3 months and it helped to share the pain.
I was about to answer your message when I saw this question and I have been sitting w it for ten minutes. I don't have any brilliant answers except to tell you to be around people as much as possible. And I don't mean work. You hate work.
I found that every time someone came over or I got out of the house and went to a movie or anything the agony subsided for awhile. Time is the healer you know. It hasn't been that long, Katie, you don't have to do or deal w anything. Nobody is asking you to be brave.
You are beginning to write a new story. There is something that you are supposed to be--and someday you'll find it.
Your Rainbow Connection.

Answer 3

I'm sorry this happened. Maybe you should stop expecting yourself to deal with life again, for awhile. Allow yourself to be sad. There's nothing wrong with that.

Then, begin to remember all the joy, and begin to do new things, things you couldn't do before. Keep your eyes open to the beauty of the world.

And remember that even though your treasure, the object of your love, has tragically gone away, the love is still within you, and always will be.

Answer 4

Go out and do everything you used to do before. Meet up with your friends again etc...
I knew someone whose boyfriend died (while they were engaged). She was devastated and was basically mourning him for about 2-3 weeks and I never saw her during that time, but after about a month she was quite normal and back to her usual self.

Answer 5

Nothing can take away the pain, only time can dull it.
Remember the good times, and hear the echo of your loved ones voice in your heart. No one can ever take that away from you. You will always have memories to help cheer you up.

Answer 6

I can't speak from experience, and I hope to never be able to, but I believe time is the only real way to heal as you go through the normal DABDA stages of grief (Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance). If my wife died, I would think of my son, who would need for me pull through for him. If my son died, I don't know if my wife or I would make it.

Answer 7

It is very difficult, but you take baby steps. You try to focus on two-three good things each day. You take care of yourself. You seek out other people. If possible, find someone that you can talk about the departed one with. You can do it. I did.

Answer 8

One day at a time...love will come again

Answer 9

Whoever Mrs. Feetie is I am sure she knows she is loved. Keep it up and say it more than once a day if you feel like it.

Answer 10

Slowly.