2007-11-20 06:44:19 · 29 answers · asked by Kirsty P 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
PS. Just a quick thank you to all those that have answered already. You are all very sweet and kind and have cheered me a little already xxxx
2007-11-20 07:00:44 · update #1
I understand sweetie! Its one of the worst things to experience, especially since you have to deal with AF and even worse when you really think its your month! Hang in there, it will happen! Baby dust!!!!
2007-11-20 07:12:47 · answer #1 · answered by Kristen 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depression does not help with fertility! You need some good fantasy scenes. These can be really fun and something to plan - basically it is a two-person party! Getting farther from reality helps.
OK, you are cast away together on a desert island! You will need sun tan lotion, sun glasses, turn the thermostat up, play some "wave" sound effects, and put some towels on the floor.
No? OK, you are caught in a blizzard while climbing Mount Everest. You will need your sleeping bags, all your down clothing and snow pants and gloves, Vaseline (for frost bite) and turn down the thermostat. (Or move onto the deck or balcony after dark).
No? OK, you are sinking on the Titanic - you need to turn the fish tank filter to high or move the mood fountain closer to the bed, you wear a long dress and heels, he wears a tux, you must get everything you want for the evening onto the bed in two minutes and jump into bed and stay there until you are finished..or need to use the facilities. If something falls off the bed, you cannot use it. Bring an open bottle of wine.
No? OK, you are in the scene from "From Here to Eternity" - so roll up the carpet but don't sweep the wood floor. Get into your swim suits and put on soundtrack music - try Backdraft or StarWars. Be sure to roll around a lot. Bring bottled water.
No? Well, I'm out of ideas for now. Be creative - be about the atmosphere - be about other positions. Be about 2 hours at least!
2007-11-20 14:59:26 · answer #2 · answered by Amy R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
TTC means Trying To Conceive.
It is depressing. I would love to tell you that it gets easier, but I don't think it does. I'm sorry. It's just so disappointing, and the more you want a baby the more your period is going to upset you.
I will say that while it is depressing every month, some months are easier than others. I cry for some, and for some I just sigh. I think that what you have going on outside of your period makes a difference. Like, if I get my period while my husband and I are away for the weekend, it's not as bad as when I'm sitting in my bedroom scrutinizing my BBT chart.
The best remedy is support and Ice Cream. When I get upset I call a friend or my mom. None of them know that I'm TTC, but just being around them helps take my mind off of it.
2007-11-20 14:51:12 · answer #3 · answered by dandylion129 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. My husband and I have been trying for 4 months now. I chart my cycles and am very in tune with my body, so just don't know what more I can do. I would love to say that it gets "better" but for me it doesn't seem to. To me, the worse I feel about not being pregnant, the more I am reassured that this is completely what I want. It is also a little reassuring to see my husband get disappointed with the - HPT because it shows me that it is what he really wants, too. It's awful to go through....but at the same time, when it does happen, we will be THAT much more thankful and excited. We will not be one of those parents that take their children for granted. :-) Good LUCK!
2007-11-20 15:20:32 · answer #4 · answered by ChiroGirl102 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some months are better than others, but there is always a bit of depression when the realization that it's been another unsuccessful month.
The trick is to understand that these feelings are natural and let them happen. Don't try to tell yourself, "I shouldn't be upset about this," because it doesn't help any. Learn the things that make you happy and when/if you realize that it isn't your month (again), go and do the thing(s) that make you happy. Have dinner with your friends, go for drinks, have a quiet evening at home with your hubby, whatever makes you happy. And then think about all the fun baby-making you and hubby will get to do next month!!
These are the things that I try to do. It helps me.
2007-11-20 14:55:54 · answer #5 · answered by TwinMommy 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people experience the let-down when they are trying to conceive and not succeeding. It took us almost 2 years with our second baby, due in Feb. If you've been trying for a long time, then you might want to see a fertility expert. It's easiest to test the man's sperm count and motility, so probably start there. It could just be timing. With some luck, love and patience, you'll probably get there. Don't stress about it, because it won't help, and can actually hinder the process.
Good luck!
2007-11-20 14:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by ima_super_geek 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes i found it so hard to start off with for the first few months after i had a miscarriage and i started to get really depressed but then something just clicked inside of me and i thought it will happen when its suppose to and now it doesnt bother me i just have fun and i know it will happen when the time is right. Also its really important to relax and not stress about it because that can be a factor with not conceiving
2007-11-20 18:46:07 · answer #7 · answered by My two beautiful girls 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told that i would not be able to concieve as i had an ulcerated womb. We never used contraception in all the time we were together .Then one night out of sheer desperation ,after sex, i tried something different. After sex i lay with my legs raised up high,for about ten minutes .Im not saying it will work ,but it worked for me, the next month i was pregnant.Inow have 3 children and 2 grandsons.Anything is worth a try, good luck.
2007-11-20 15:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by pamelaworth 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If anything, it gets harder. I've been trying for 8 months since my miscarriage and every month is worse because you start thinking of everything that could be wrong, and i'm even getting to the point where i think it will never happen. Everyone tells me not to worry because that just makes it harder to conceive, but as more months pass the more worried i get. Good luck and i hope you will be lucky soon.
2007-11-20 16:45:04 · answer #9 · answered by Janey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i am in the same boat, so i'm not going to tell you to be patient. it is very depressing, but you are not alone. i do wish you the best of luck. i just recently started taking geritol complete. i don't know exactly how, but it is suppossed to help with fertility. maybe it is just a stupid old wife's tale, but for 8 dollars a bottle, i'm giving it a try. if i do get a bfp this month, i will let everyone know that it worked! good luck to you and everone else on here who is ttc!
2007-11-20 14:52:00 · answer #10 · answered by Tyler's mommy & 2 on the way 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is VERY depressing, but do what u have to do, all the tests, u and your hubby and then, if everything is ok physically, relax and it will come. I've been ttc for about 17 months and nothing has happened so far. I've done all the tests and now all I have to do is forget about it and it will come. Hang on and don't be sad.... Lots of baby dust to you ~~~****~~~~~****~~~~ my friend. Good luck and God bless!!! lol
2007-11-21 05:11:41 · answer #11 · answered by ode 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋