I lost a little girl this past February. I can't describe my emotional state, but there was enough strife for me to switch from Reserve to Active Duty Army, and move across the county. I came with a mindset to deploy, b/c there's no question in whether this Iraq is going to fade away.
I had no plans to fall in love with a guy. But I did. He truly wants a family, and shares my grief of lossing a child. He wants me to deploy (b/c he's deployed, and he knows the importance of it in our career.) But he also wants to start a family (and marriage, of course.) So, we're having to settle for a few things. We're constantly going back and forth over what it is that we want to do. Have a baby? Don't have a baby?
Emotionally, I am so torn. Everything seems like a pregnancy symptom. I can't seem to get a hold on what I really should be focusing on now: my future deployment or my personal future...
2007-11-20 06:44:16 · 4 answers · asked by Adrina P 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
Thank you for your service. Please thank your future hubby for us all as well.
Those who serve are such true patriots. God bless you.
I don't have any advice on your actual question...sorry! But you will be a wonderful mother!
2007-11-20 07:41:49 · answer #1 · answered by 0 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would recommend for you to deploy and when you get back then have children. I'm sure you are young and waiting is fine. Don't you get more benefits once you have been deployed and come back. Won't that be better for you and your future child. I'm sorry for your loss. Also, this gives you some time to build your relationship with this guy.
2007-11-20 06:47:38 · answer #2 · answered by Precious 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand what you are going through. My husband is deploying next summer and we're debating whether or not we should ttc now or wait until he returns, anyway, since you're both active I would wait, I bet you're young and another year or two wouldn't hurt.
Once you get back you'll be more settled and have guaranteed time together.....
Good Luck
2007-11-20 11:39:54 · answer #3 · answered by babeegrwnup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are obsessing too much about this. Deploy and serve your time and then you will be much better prepared (emotionally and financially) to start a family. Best wishes!
2007-11-20 07:08:50 · answer #4 · answered by tfled23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋