2007-11-20 06:23:19 · 24 answers · asked by mommy of 2 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
technically I should have gone back to work after my twins were born, but that would mean putting them into daycare. and come on.. 2 newborns in daycare all day everyday would take my entire paycheck anyway! so we decided for me to stay home and raise our kids since we would have been losing my income anyway~ I just got really lucky!
2007-11-20 06:28:13 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I love my job (I teach high school), but when I first started back my daughter was 6 months old and I hated every moment I was away from her! I even tried to convince my husband to let us sell our house so that I could stay home. It took about 3 months for me to start actually enjoying my job again, and while I still missed her during the day, I found that because I was working I was able to pay for a house-keeper, and a gardener, and special activities that allowed for whatever time I am home with her to be quality time where I can focus purely on her (rather than cleaning and laundry).
Now my daughter is 2 and I'm expecting another one. I'm very happy that I kept my job because of the freedom we have to do great things together when I am home. I am also blessed to be done with work every day by 2:00, which helps tremendously.
Good luck!
2007-11-20 14:44:15 · answer #2 · answered by Aubrey and Braeden's Mommy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had to go back to work when my son was 8 weeks old. It was one of the hardest things I have ever had to do. For the first week he was in daycare I called everyday sometimes twice a day. But after a while you get used to it. You gotta do what ya gotta do! We all know that it bothers us far more than it will ever bother our babies. Just think...our children are learning how to "play well with others" at an early age. If I could be a stay at home mom I definately would. I agree with "k" about the going back to work if you don't have to. Why would you have a child and not take care of it if you could?
2007-11-20 14:41:53 · answer #3 · answered by mom737 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I started back at six weeks, but I honestly enjoy the "break" of taking care of a newborn, I am lucky though because my husband stays home with our daughter and I don't work too far away, so I go home and see her at lunchtime and then when I get home. It is nice not to have to feed and diaper for a couple hours a day :- ) ...but when I get home at 5:00, my husband immediately hands her over and says "see ya" :- ) so I know how much work taking care of a baby all day is! I feel like I get the "Best" of everything. I get to see her smiling face when she wakes up in the morning and kiss her goodbye and then I play with her on my lunch hour and then she has usually had a bottle when I get home and so again I just get the playtime in and I give her a bath and put her to bed. I don't feel like I miss out on anything that happens in her life AND I get a break too :- ) I enjoy the adult conversation.
2007-11-20 15:25:23 · answer #4 · answered by ataman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went back to work 2 weeks after both my babies were born..I did not want to but I had no choice! I have come to learn that Ilove spending time with my kids but going to work gives me "my time" Even though Im working I still feel like I have some freedom..I know every parent is different and some can no bare to be away from their kids for 2 minutes! But I tried the stay at home mom thing for 5 weeks when we were able to do so and it did not work for me. I give praise to all the mothers who stay at home with their kids and stay sane! I wish I was able to do it.Have a good holiday!
2007-11-20 14:40:51 · answer #5 · answered by Momma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I fully intended to return to work after a 6 month maternity leave. I ended up stretching it out to almost 5 years. If you want to stay home longer with your baby and you can find a way to make it work, do it. Your baby won't be a baby for very long.
2007-11-20 14:28:04 · answer #6 · answered by daa 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My daughter was 10 weeks old when I had to return to work. We started taking her to the baby sitters the week before so we could all adjust, I bawled my eyes out the night before, I cried so hard, it was awful. I hated coming back to work. I put pictures of her all over my office and I look at them all day, they make me smile, but I'm sad that I can't be home with her. I wish we could afford for me to stay home with her, but I want to provide for her the best we can, so that means we need 2 incomes to pay the bills and be able to put away money for her in a savings account and also for her college fund. It's hard, but a lot of Moms have to do it. Bringing your baby to a day care or private sitter or even a family member just means that your baby will make new friends and bond with more people who will love him/her as well. I think I am refreshed and even more grateful when I get home after working all day and see my smiling little baby girl :)
2007-11-20 14:45:10 · answer #7 · answered by jatay 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Get a different job and just work weekends. Or see if you could come in for 10 hours 4 days a week? Or figure out how much it would actually cost for you to stay home? You wouldn't have to pay for day care, commuting, work wardrobe, there's plenty of things you can cut. I have had jobs evenings and weekends so we have enough money. Then my husband has had time with my daughter just the two of them.
2007-11-20 14:38:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes yes and yes again. I so understand how that feels. It was hard because i felt like i had so much financial responsibility BUT after calculating all the expenses of working outside the home with cost of daycare etc.....it has actually worked out fine. I have been home for 3 months now and I love providing for my family in the home. So, sit down and calculate all the expenses gas, food, daycare, work clothes etc... you'll be suprised. Hope this helps.
2007-11-20 14:28:27 · answer #9 · answered by tinadougj 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I did hate going back to work, but I like also knowing that I can provide for my son and that I am showing him that a woman can hold a career and be a great mother. I would love to be a SAHM but that's not financially wise for us at the moment. Also, I've also been an ambitious and goal-oriented person so staying at home would get me antsy.
2007-11-20 14:35:06 · answer #10 · answered by Astragalo 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I HATED going back to work. I went back when my daughter was 11 weeks old. I hate it. I work 32 hours a week and i could kill to be a stay at home mom. I am so envious of mom who can stay at home and don't understand moms who choose to work when they don't have to. Anyways that's how I feel. My daughter is now almost 14 weeks.
2007-11-20 14:30:26 · answer #11 · answered by k 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋