i broke up with my fiance two days ago simply because he didnt seem to care about me anymore , he never called and never planned out with me and whenever i called him he used to talk like if im some one who is disturbing him , i dont want to know if he had another woman or not !
now i feel sick , i miss him so much and i want him to call me , send me a message and tell me that his life is empty without me ( sure he wont , even when we were together he didnt send a message !) i also cant sleep :( the phone is right under my pillow and whenever I hear the message tone i jump up and guess what , ORANGE had another news ! Grrr
I just want to know how you people deal with it , you are in love , the person feels like if you'r a pain in their butts so you just leave them :( what activities do you do ? how do you get on in your lives?
2007-11-20 05:32:16 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Always difficult thing.
I feel for you. You expect when things get that far along, they are more permanent, but better to end things now than after marriage.
Best thing to do, IMO, is to find other things to do. Don't sit around waiting for the phone to ring. Get out with friends, find new hobbies, keep busy. Easier said than done, I know, but that's what you have to do eventually, so the sooner, the better.
2007-11-20 08:15:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, you need to sit yourself down and see if you did anything to contribute to his lack of affections for you. It sounds as if you were trying to push for a wedding date and he was not actively responding? I know how you feel, currently me and my husband are not speaking either, he lives in another state, him and I just recently got married, he is supposed to move out with me soon, but now he and I are not speaking. I wish he would call too. I feel you need to see if your feelings have validation or are you just assuming he does not care anymore. When men get comfortable in a relationship they do not feel the need to try as hard as they did in the beginning. And they leave all the plans for the wedding up to the girl. It is just not their thing to do. If you find you have been too needy, pull back a bit, let him miss you, and I am sure he will. He will call, you will see, in fact I am sure of it. In the mean time keep busy so the time does not drag. When he calls you, just come out and tell him how you feel. Tell him you need him to show more interest. I hope all goes well for you!
2007-11-20 06:54:54 · answer #2 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This has happened to me a couple times. One time I felt that I was getting the brush off (he was seeing someone else) and the next time I was dumped by email. Both were shocks, both times I cried a bit, and then went "Wait, he doesn't know what he's missing out on! Too bad for him!" Then I made myself a nice dinner. Just remember, you're better than that. Don't wait by the phone. Go on with life. Life's too short for a jerk.
2007-11-20 08:23:13 · answer #3 · answered by chefgrille 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm going through a similar issue. I went out with my girlfriend for 4 years and I'm deeply in love with her. Everytime my phone rings I hope to see her name, everytime I get on the internet I hope to see her there, etc. The only thing that gets my mind off her for even a few hours is going out with friends and I had another girl I was talking to for awhile, but it wasn't the same at all. If you truely love him like I love my X, it's going to be a really tough road. About the not eating thing, I'm going through the same thing. Try to force yourself to eat something because it's terrble for your body not to eat.
I really hope you can get past this, e-mail me if you need someone to vent to I know that helps a lot too.
Good luck!
2007-11-20 05:42:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It is a tough thing to adjust to. Just do what you can to get through each day. Read, get out of the house. I know your feeling very overhelmed with sadness and all that comes with it.
As far as getting no sleep, sleep when you can. The more you stress your body with lack of sleep, the longer it will take for you to get yourself together! Don't forget to eat! Good luck there.
2007-11-20 05:40:05 · answer #5 · answered by michael w 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
properly i conflict by an identical subject too. that's complicated worry sleeping, lacking the telephone calls, the messages and so on. i'm attempting to pour myself into artwork, reading at domicile in the evenings, and cleansing my rattling domicile (bout time). In my case I are conscious of it is the ultimate subject for the two one human beings, she is plenty youthful than me, it had no destiny. So stay helpful and energetic. Peace.
2016-11-12 05:02:44 · answer #6 · answered by colbert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sorry your going through this. i went through a devastating break up in which the guy i was in love with used me, cheated on me, and tried to sleep with all of my friends (some of whom did sleep with him...some friends they were!). everytime i would pull away from him or start to see someone else he would lure me back into his trap. the second i gave in to him..he was ignoring me again and back to chasing other women.
eventually i had enough and got some self esteem. although not a day went by that i didnt think of him i forced myself to ignore him and cut off all contact. i was miserable for a long time.
long story short...a friend ended up hooking me up on a date with an old friend from school. we hit it off and now i am happily married to the best man in the world.
if you would have told me this 7 years ago..i would have said no way..i'll never love again!!
it'll be tough but you'll move on. force yourself to go out with friends. i know it sounds cliche but take this time to spoil yourself. enjoy going out and dating new men ( notice i said "dating" not "sleeping with" lol). eventually one day you'll wake up and realize that its been a while since the ex has crossed your mind and you'll happily move on.
2007-11-20 06:30:29 · answer #7 · answered by Heather 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i find someone for a meaningless one night stand. over and over until the hurt goes away.
2007-11-20 08:17:43 · answer #8 · answered by old-softy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it wasn't by asking the same question 3 times over....I can tell you that.
2007-11-20 05:38:31 · answer #9 · answered by Sean 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋