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Last night I got into a fight with my 18 year old daughter. Im a single parent, I have 5 kids. The other kids are in school, my daughter has graduated high school. She was supposed to start college last semester, but didn't get the paper work done in time, so she is going next semester. She had a job, an internship that ended. She would be looking for a job but is waiting for her ID card and Social Security card to come in the mail. When I came home last ngiiht, I asked her about how that is going, and I advised her that if she is not working or going to school.. she really needs to be helping out around the house instead of rotting ont he sofa on the internet all day long. I just moved a week and a half ago, and there are boxes everywhere. Instead of just agreeing, or saying yes.. she had to talk to back. When she talks back, nothing that she says makes sense or even has to do with what we are talking about.

2007-11-20 04:49:37 · 2 answers · asked by Melissa J 2 in Family & Relationships Other - Family & Relationships

All I asked of her was that since she is 18, and living rent free.. I pay for her food, shelter, trips, hygiene supplies.. everything.. just to wash the dishes or cook something. She got an attitude with me and said she does not want to clean all day. Well I dont really want to WORK all day.. but i have to. She sits ont he internet all day.. that I pay for.. and COMPLAINS because there is no cable.. and hwo she is BORED all day. Well I say welcome to the world. I wish I had that much free time.. Id be getting ahead. I told her to leave and she refused. I just can't take it, when I trya nd tell her ANYTHING that is right.. she cannot get it.. because rather than LISTEN, she prefers to run her mouth and come up with ridiculous excuses or say things that make no sense whatso ever. Suggestions??

2007-11-20 06:41:19 · update #1

oh and by the way.. she throws it in my face at all the things that I couldnt do for her.. the things I couldnt buy for her. So she says " well you never did ANYTHING for me". By ANYTHING.. she means the designer thigns and extras that she wanted. She doesnt stop to thing being a single mother being laid off at one point and not getting any child support.. how I struggled just to pay rent and provide food.. but I always kept her safe, warm and fed. I think she is ungrateful.

2007-11-20 06:43:16 · update #2

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Sounds to me like she is spoiled and ungrateful.
I'd tell her to put up (without cable, without anything "to do") or shut up. And by shut up, I mean ask her to leave. I don't know if it's an option, but maybe you could arrange for another family member to offer her shelter for a while to see how she likes the alternative.
If she's not acting right, I'd pack up her things and set them on the front lawn and tell her to go away. When she asks about it, just let her know: Since she's able-bodied and rudely refuses to work, she's dead weight in your household. You don't have the time, energy nor the extra money to support her lazy @** and fight with her day in and day out.
If that doesn't work, I'd start taking away her luxuries. If you are paying for her car, her insurance or her gas, stop immediately. After walking or taking public transportation, she'll appreciate the money it takes to have an auto.
And one piece of advice - my mother always says, "A person cannot get on stage if they don't have an audience". If she back-talks and instigates a conflict, ignore her. She'd feel fairly stupid fighting with herself.
I hope things work out for you...hang in there - you're in my prayers!

2007-11-20 07:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by YSIC 7 · 0 0

'Im kind of in this same boat . I mean I only had once child and never had help either (GOD bless you doing it with 5 , girl ! ) . My son just turned 18 and is now in alternative high school since he was behind in credits as I said he HAS to graduate from high school and at LEAST get his diploma. He's always been a pretty good kid. He works and has done great there (has had 2 raises in less than 2 years). Ok sorry I'll stop lol. BUT yes when I sat him down to talk to him about SAVING money and working more hours since he's barly in school now , he kind of got snippy and said he wants to have fun in his life. He's kinda got an attitude lately and I'm trying to get him to be more motivated aboult his future. I'm sorry you are going thru this. I know it's easier said than done to say 'kick her out'. But sounds like you did SUCH a good job you made it 'look' easy! That's what I tell myself :) Your daughter will have no idea how hard it is untill she is out on her own . Plus you have other kids to provide for. If you pay for her phone or anything I would stop. I know it's hard as you want to be able to reach her etc. Plus I know you don't want to just leave her messes cuz then you ALL have to live in a messy house :( I get it. I would tell her she has to start paying towards rent/bills as well . Good luck to you...I think this will just be rough till she actually FEELS the pain of real life :( and GOOD JOB MOM !

2014-10-27 12:55:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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