I mean seriously! I'm 17 and that's old enough to pick out my own clothes but she's trying to make me wear this velvet blue dress that looks like it was made for a 5 year old on Thanksgiving! I really don't want to wear it and I'm actually tempted to "accidently" wash it with a sock so it can be messed up. What would you do?
2007-11-20 04:21:43 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Do you think that she picked it out for you thinking you would like it? Can you return or exchange it?
If you think that she didn't mean any harm, you should talk with her about your taste in clothes, and tell her that you will be happy to shop for yourself. Or if she is shopping with her money, maybe she would rather you go together.
I would suggest that if you can't get out of wearing the dress this time, try to be nice and get her to agree that she won't go buy you anything without talking to you first. Explain that you don't want to be ungrateful (remember SHE bought it) but that you want to express yourself by wearing clothes you really like.
2007-11-20 04:29:59 · answer #1 · answered by teresa 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Do not ruin the dress - that will make your mom angry and then she won't want to listen to you. You're 17, and your mom still picks out your clothes? Time to stop! Let her know that in a year or less you will be 18 and considered an adult, it is time she begins to treat you like one. Go out and buy a stylish (yet conservative, it is Thanksgiving after all) outfit that you like, and maybe even buy a small present for your mom while you're out there to let her know you were thinking of her.
2007-11-20 12:28:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly what you mean, my family is very formal, so at all holidays and that sort of thing I'm expected to wear very fancy and rather uncomfortable dress that my mum tries to pick out, even though I'm nearly 16. Just calmly try to explain to your mother that you don't particularly like the dress, and suggest that maybe you two could go out together and pick out a new one that both of you like. Or compromise, and agree to wear the dress for pictures but take it off afterwards. I hope things work out for you, good luck with your mum =]
2007-11-20 15:06:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to balance your need for independence with respect for your mother.
Tell your mother you will wear it if she really thinks that's important. However, remind her that you're 17. You will be going to college soon, and you think you are a good judge of style. Ask her if you and her can decide on something mutually acceptable.
A few bets: I bet you're correct in your evaluation of the dress. I also bet that your mother bought that dress with certain expectation that have never been fulfilled. And I bet that no matter how childish the style of the dress, that you would still look amazingly beautifull in it. Finally, I bet that if you wear it, you will receive a ton of complements.
2007-11-20 13:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Dr. D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you really need to talk to her about this. you are right, you are 17 and old enough to pick out what you are going to wear. at this age clothes make a statement of who you are. surely there is something else that you will actually wear, and that will fit into moms taste as well. i am guessing there is a reason she wants you to wear it, maybe family, church function,... what ever it is, show her other options from your closet,or even her's. i mean come on, she has to like the stuff in her closet. i'm sure they are not your taste, but something has to be better.
2007-11-20 12:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by old bitty 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Wear it for Thanksgiving and then put it in the charity box. Take it from me. It's a small thing and it will hurt your mother a much longer time not to wear it than the few hours you are humiliated in it. 10 years from now, you won't even remember it. Your mother will remember it for years.
Thousands of bridesmaids across the country wear absolutely hideous creations chosen by the bride. They wear it and toss it afterwards. The bride is happy.
2007-11-20 12:27:16 · answer #6 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 5⤊ 2⤋
Just tell her. 17 is a way too old for your mommy to be picking out your clothing, especially if you hate it so much. Be honest with her though, don't try to ruin the dress yourself.
2007-11-20 12:25:57 · answer #7 · answered by N and A's Momma 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Your still her little girl. Respect your mom. You will feel better. Its not a big deal anyway. What do you want to wear, something more mature? Why grow up so fast?
2007-11-20 12:30:23 · answer #8 · answered by Neil 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
U should try to talk 2 her about it without hurting her feelings. She should be understanding and listen to your opinion. Only talk 2 her about it if she's in a good mood.
2007-11-20 12:25:44 · answer #9 · answered by Runner 09 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I would personaly tell my mom it doesn't fit! It is a simple easy way to get out of it! If your mom doesn't believe u then give the dress a make over by cutting and trimming the way u like it! That way it won't be as ugly!
2007-11-20 12:27:45 · answer #10 · answered by Iz L 1 · 1⤊ 3⤋