My husband is freaky and I am not. What am I supposed to do?

Question

Please only saved or married people answer.

He's into porn and the things that go on in porn. He always wants to put me in weird positions and smack my butt and stuff.

Answer 1

Well the worse thing you could do is make him feel like some weirdo freak sinner for having a more than average sexual appetite. Marriage is about give and take. As long as he's not being disrespectful (like peeing on you) then you should accomodate him sometimes. Some nights it can be your way and some nights his way. He can always find somebody else to give him the kind of loving he likes. You may even have to watch a lil porn so you can see what he likes and perform it for him. I assume you're saved so you need to know there are no limits on sex between married people. If you are planning to spend the rest of your lives together you better learn how to make each other happy at all costs. I don't know how old you are but maybe it's a phase he'll grow out of. Either way, you need to keep your man happy so he'll do the same for you. if he's any good.

Answer 2

Well whats freaky mean to you, and whats it mean when you speak of your husband?
First off, you dont have to do anything you dont wanna, just because your married doesnt mean you dont have a say in things-your equal. And maybe hes a good guy like that, I hope so.
However, On the other hand, men want saturday nite naughty girl then come sunday, sweet proper wife.
I think it may help men not to stray like an ole tom cat, to be able get their passion, freakiness what ever you wanna call it out, with their wife, because you know their pigs!

But there are lines that I believe can be crossed, and thats up to you to decide.
But if you can, its nice if you can fill all your husbands desires, because I dont care how much he loves you, he might think about getting it somewhere else. Maybe hes the kinda guy who would only think about it and would NEVER get that kind of attention some where else. But imagine how happy he would be if the one he loves would atleast try to get into it, only on birthdays and anniversies and if you wanna throw in some holidays that might make him really happy and at the end of the year santa just might bring you something very shiny...lol
Girl it all comes down to is, do what you want and just try to compromise.

Answer 3

Try to be open...try things. Experimenting isn't all bad.

You're married to the man, so be comfortable in trying new things.

Push your limits. Take things slow, talk through it and you'll be ok. You may end up liking it!

What things does he want to do? What is your definition of "Freaky"?

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New positions can be fun, a harmful smack of your butt can be erotic and watching porn during can be a turn on. I wouldn't consider any of those 'freaky'. That's just mildly erotic.

My suggestion to you is stop worrying about what you're doing with him, he IS your husband and no one else will ever know what goes on behind your closed door except ya'll. Relax and let it happen...you'll probably start enjoying it once you let go of the worry. Spicing things up between the sheets is very healthy for your relationship.

Answer 4

By "freaky" do you mean his interests in the bedroom are a lot more adventurous than yours?
If so, then you need to think about what limits you want to place upon intimate activity. When in the midst of intimacy, be clear about your limits.

I am much more "freaky" than my partner, however she makes it clear when she feels as though we are reaching beyond her comfort zone. I dial it back a little, and things seem to go OK.

Some of us have the tendency of being overzealous. Not everyone appreciates that, and I am sure you will find he will be understanding.

You may or may not want to try expanding your horizons in small steps. If you are deriving enjoyment, then wonderful. If not, like most things in a relationship, communication is key.

I appreciate strong communication, and I believe most people do. People are not offended by honesty, and when we care about someone, we want to make sure they are sharing enjoyment.

All the best, and Enjoy!

Answer 5

Anything relating to sexual behaviour between a married couple is 'normal', providing both feel comfortable with it. Perhaps your husband is curious and just wants to experiment; having done so, he may decide that it's not really so great after all. If, however, you've obliged him a few times and still hate what you're doing, then stop. Sex should be pleasurable, not an ordeal. You two need to have a good talk about your fantasies and expectations - his and yours!

Answer 6

Both my husband and I are pretty freaky. But my husband is freakier than me. We set a rule, we never do anything either one isn't comfortable with. And if one of us asks and the other says they're not comfortable with it, the other one doesn't get to be upset.
Your sex life can be a great thing and you shouldn't have to worry about doing things you don't want or hurting the other person's feelings when you say no!
You should talk to your husband, and find a middle ground. Find some things you're still comfortable with, but don't compromise yourself!

Answer 7

There is always a place in the middle where both of you can be happy. You both need to sit down and set some limits and ground rules. You might open up a little, and he might tone things down. Sex is not only about swinging from the chandeliers, it's about intimacy. Try concentrating on that.

Answer 8

Men think of sex on an average every 7 seconds. What may seem freaky to you he thinks is norm.

As long as it does not humiliate or is painful to you consider submitting to his will. Who knows you may actually enjoy it if you keep an open mind. If you don't hopefully he will be the man of God he is called to be and tone it down.

Eph.5:23

Answer 9

I am not sure what freaky means to you so it is hard to comment. Everyone views things differently, so if you are very conservative his behavior may seem odd, but to others it would seem normal...
If he is asking for you to do things you are uncomfortable with, but you are married, you might want to consider loosening up some. Very little between husband and wife is off limits if (and I do mean if) both people think it is enjoyable. This goes for Christians too. If, he wants you to do things that you feel are harmful or degrading, discuss your misgivings with him. You have to develop mutual respect for each other's desires.

Answer 10

Just try it, freaky can be soooo fun and do let him smack your butt!! Just be open minded and know that this stuff turns him on. Just ask him to be "a little tame" until you get used to it