For the older generation, do you believe the sanctaty of marriage, or divorce?

Question

ok ok i deserved that one

o cmon... whats with the bad conintation with the term old, i mean the people that could have been married for... lets say 15yrs+

Answer 1

I don't know what gen. your looking for? I'm in my 40's

Yes I do believe in the sanctuary of marriage and I also believe ppl. should slow down and get to know each other well before marrying anyone. I have told my own kidz " you have to be right with yourself b4 you can be right with someone else" get your sh!t together before worrying about bring another person into your life of marriage.

I think ppl. jump into marriage and into divorce like their playing a video game if they don't like the outcome start over.

Are some divorces needed YES I'm an Investigator for an atty. But there are those who have no real reason for a divorce except they don't like the game anymore, some as soon as 1 month.

Live together, and not in mom's basement, struggle if you still love each other after a year your ready for marriage

Hope this helps

Answer 2

I do believe in the sanctity of marriage. People should take some time and learn about each other before you marry. I don't think you should jump into a marriage thinking "if it doesn't work out, I'll just get a divorce". Marriage takes effort from both parties. That being said, sometimes things don't work out no matter how hard you try.

Known my hubby 20+years-married 15; can't believe I answered a question for the older generation! lol

Answer 3

Don't forget YOU too will be considered in the older generation someday lol ..

Just inside we don't fee old and age is just a number ..

But it would be more respectful if you ask say "older and wiser generation" .. "those married for a long perioed of time" .. "those married over 19 yrs" .. etc ..

It's all in the presentation friend = )

As to answer your question, one doesn't marry to divorce .. so those who all were married of course (right then) believe in the sanctity of marriage or they would have just lived together ..

We personally have our faith and God in our marriage and see the destruction divorce does to children (through the kids friends, we have 3 teens now).

We did not have children to just divorce and destory them .. so it's not been easy at times, overall it's been a quick 23 yrs, that's for sure ..

Answer 4

I'm 34 going on 35. How old is considered to meet your approval for the "older generation"?

Yes I believe but have not been successful in either of my marriages. I believe in what one poster here said about "being right with yourself first". I think one MUST be happy with themselves completely and totally before they can commit to another. Without it, a marriage will most likely fail today.

I have always been a very happy person but in each of my marriages I failed to recognize that my partners were not BEFORE marrying them. I have only myself to blame.

I do believe however that marriage is easily entered into and divorce easily happens today. I really think the laws should change on how marriage and divorce are handled today. While I think most people probably get married with the right intentions of making it work, it doesn't for reasons they aren't able to see for themselves.

If you can't see the forest before the trees yet, don't get married.

Good Luck.

Answer 5

I believe the older values are now scene as out dated and old fashioned, which is a shame. Going into a marriage with the view of a life long commitment starts you off on a different footing than if you feel you can just get out when it gets tough. It is tough being married as you start out as two people but over time you become one. A new wine is nice but a matured one is so much better, I think it is the same with marriage,it really does get better with age.

Answer 6

Who are you calling old?!?! LOL

I believe in the sanctity of marriage. It's nothing that should be entered into lightly or without full consideration. I personally feel that it's way to easy for people to get married! But once you make a commitment to your partner, you should make every effort to keep your marriage alive. This takes constant work.

I also believe that there are times when divorce is appropriate. No one, male or female, should have to live with emotional or physical abuse, infidelity, etc... But getting a divorce "just because" someone is tired of that person, or doesn't want that person any more, or found another person...... That's unconscionable.

Answer 7

I'm not sure what you're definition of "the older generation" is....I'm 46 and dating (soon to be engaged to) a man who is 58. We are both divorced, regretfully, as we both believe highly in marriage. Divorce isn't a first option but sometimes it is necessary.

Answer 8

I believe that people give up way to easily on their marriages. We are a "disposable" society. If we don't like something or something "better" comes along, we throw what we have away and chase the new. Sad really. I think if you have tried everything to save your marriage and you are still miserable, then yes get a divorce.

Answer 9

I think people get married too young and think love is somewhat of given instead of something that is rare and needs to be striven for. Sticking it out does have its merits, but life is too short to be miserable.

Answer 10

How about an older generation who can spell "sanctity"?