If your spouse told you that their love for you was not unconditional, would your feelings be hurt?

Question

Do you love your spouse unconditionally?

Answer 1

A Mothers love is unconditional. A spouses love can change with a gust of a wind. If your child went out to find another Mom you will get over it and love your child no matter what. If your husband went out and found another wife well that would be a different story. If your child was on drugs and alcohol you would do anything to get him clean and sober and eventually if he did become clean you would allow him back in your life however if your husband was to drink and do drugs and cause a big choas you would probably get a divorce and never go back to him. See the difference?

Answer 2

What's unconditional love anyway? What if she says she hates me and wants a divorce? If I stick to my unconditional love, I should still follow her around like a puppy and hope to win her back. That's unconditional love in the sense that i put no condition on my love for her even if she leaves me. Or maybe if I loved her, I would let her go but always be waiting for her to come back. If I eventually move on, then the condition is time. A certain amount of time of separation has passed, so then I move on.

Unconditional love is something that works best in relationships where there is no splitting. Say like mother to son, or brother to brother. You'll always be family whether you like each other or not. You could be really mad at each other but still defend this person against an outside enemy because you love is unconditional. That seems more realistic to me.

Answer 3

There is no such thing as unconditional love.

All relationships have an unwritten contract of what is expected. That's why there are so many divorces, because of what people EXPECT from each other, INSTEAD of talking about these expectations first.

Example.
Women marry a man thinking she can change him.
Men marry a woman hoping she will never change.
Both are unlikely. Men and women have different needs, and in most cases neither is met.

There are , of course the lucky few who live in perpetual bliss.
Don't know any of them but I hear they exist.

Answer 4

except i offered to close the top of your question i presumed you were asking a generalised question of in spite of if or no longer love will additionally be selfless or egocentric. i might have responded that the affection i've got for my son is punctiliously selfless and unconditional yet I easily have an be responsive to-how of you would be talking approximately love between adults in a relationship. for my area in case you actual love any individual it is selfless interior the feel which you somewhat want their happiness above your guy or woman yet extremely a relationship desires the two side to take part and nurture it. If my husband cautioned me he no longer enjoyed me the relationship could no longer proceed, it is bigoted to the two occasion, each and each will could be loose to be with any individual else that loves you lower back. So i think that the easily meaning of affection is to offer and it is an advantage in case you additionally receive love from that individual, and that a relationship won't be able to proceed longterm if basically one guy or woman is doing the loving!

Answer 5

What a depressing question - because responses simply ferrets out the simple fact that the “fidelity of humanity stinks.” The lie of our wedding vows, love until death does us part... let us switch that to love while it is convenient.

Image the tragedy of your fourth child killed by your first un-purpose, naive parental responses.

In my opinion unconditional love is only a term meant for God to his children; even Jesus' dying words about being forsaken - bores true to the innate humanitarian failure to understand love - we were given the knowledge to realize evil not to be able to sustain absolutely by our own merits from it.

We all should be more concerned about forgiveness and intentions of the heart not the bitwise binary of the mechanics.

Answer 6

Yes and No.
Yes, because women are emotional beings and they (including myself) like to feel loved, cherished, even adored.
No, because I do realize that "unconditional love" means that NOTHING changes your love for a person. That would mean I could "cheat" on them, and they should still love me and stay with me if it's "unconditional". I wouldn't stay with someone "unconditionally" and I wouldn't expect them to stay with me unconditionally. Make sense?

Answer 7

I don't think I've ever met someone that had unconditional love for their spouse. That means that no matter what they do, you will still be in love with them.

I love my husband more than anything. If he beat me or had sex with someone else, I can guarantee that I would no longer feel that way about him. That means my love is not unconditional, and that's fine by me.

Answer 8

I do love my spouse unconditionally. 2d mentioned abuse or infidelity as conditions I must disagree in that if my husband did either of those things I would not be with him but I couldn't stop loving him. Love real love is a force of nature and you have as much control of it as you would a hurricane. I would be hurt if my husband said he didnt love me unconditionally, all you have to decide is did it hurt enough that now you feel you have to protect yourself by loving from a far or if your comfortable proceeding forward

Answer 9

I think unconditional only applies to the love you have for your children. The bond of parent with a child and love they have for them that is unconditional.

Answer 10

When you say love is "unconditional" what it means is that you love someone regardless of what they look like, how grumpy they are in the morning or what they do.

HOWEVER......that does NOT mean that you would allow someone you love unconditionally to treat you like crap.

For me, it would mean that if my guy cheated on me, I wouldn't be able to stop loving him, but I'd sure as HELL toss him to the curb.

Just as you love your children NO MATTER what they do doesn't mean that you have to enable them to do bad things or let them live with you when they are self (and other) destructive.

So.....I'd be hurt if my guy told me his love for me was conditional. If that's the case, you need to find out what those conditions are.