She has been known to steal from peoples houses so I feel really uncofortable with her being in my house. I also have 3 young children so I have enough on my hands. She comes for about 3 hours every day so it is getting a bit much and she always come when my husband is at work. Me and my husband have been trying to think of a nice way to tell her to stop coming round. Can anyone please help me!! Thank you x
2007-11-20 03:04:23 · 11 answers · asked by Katrina E 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She has a job round the corner from my house. She comes for an hour at dinner time then she comes after work for a few hours till her mum picks her up.
2007-11-20 03:15:59 · update #1
I would like to thank you all for your time, to answer my question. You have been a great help!!
2007-11-20 03:23:26 · update #2
Tell her she's been ex-communicated!
2007-11-20 03:06:58 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not just ask her the next time she is there if she is planning on coming the next day....if she says yes, say .... I have enjoyed our talk today, but I have some things I need to take care of tomorrow and I just won't have time to visit with you, why don't we plan to do this again on....(then name a day about 5 days away). If she doesn't get the message, or demures by saying she will help you or she won't get in the way etc.. ....just repeat your statement. That is called the broken record tactic.
Eventually she will notice that you are making the same point again and again, and she will have no choice but to give in. I don't know what her personality is, but if she gets angry or confused, just tell her you are sorry but the day you have mentioned will be more convenient.
2007-11-20 11:28:45 · answer #2 · answered by ScSpec 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is usually not polite to drop by unannounced. It is within your rights, it is expected, and it is common decency and respect for one to call first, before visiting. If she drops by unannounced, don't bother to answer the door. Next time she has contact with you and complains about this, tell her that it is okay for her to visit, but that you only ask that she call first, to make sure it is okay - otherwise, you might not be home, or sleeping, or busy, or unable or unwilling to receive any visitors at that particular time. When she calls you to get approval in advance, tell her that now is not an opportune time, but please call again some other time. Also, if you have caller ID, then you can screen your calls, and, knowing it is her, simply fail to answer the phone. With these tactics, it won't be very long until she gets the message that you and your family are in control of when visitors will be welcomed and permitted entry (including her). When this happens, you will regain control of your life, your home, and your sanity. By the way, if she doesn't like it, then it's tough toenails! She can DEAL WITH IT! End of story.
2007-11-20 11:19:41 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's never an easy way to tell someone to not come around so much. But being straightforward while still being tactful is usually the best bet. You could try saying something like, "We like seeing you, but our schedule is getting increasingly busy, how about coming over on one or two days out of the week?" Then proceed to tell her what days are good FOR YOU. Or how about " We like when you come over, but (your day of choice) is much better for visiting. Do you think you could make it on that day?"
The point is to try to not upset her, and be as polite and even apologetic as possible, because people with a history of stealing tend to steal from people they don't like. It's not brown-nosing, consider it insurance for you and your family's home. Good luck!!!!
2007-11-20 11:22:06 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welll the way I see it is this can work out in your advantage.
If she wants to come over, cool, just casually start to ask her to help you with stuff lol, cleaning, the kids, laundry. Whatever you can think of. For those 3 hours you now have a personal assistant. She'll either stop coming over as much, or she will make your life much easier. win/win
2007-11-20 11:17:58 · answer #5 · answered by linda 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When she comes round leave her with the Kids, after a while she will stop coming round
2013-12-01 08:20:07 · answer #6 · answered by Frederic_LeGreat 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree u should tell her u have W A Y 2-much on ur hands && she`s a lil 2-old 2-be handin around?
wait does this girl even have a job?
2007-11-20 11:12:45 · answer #7 · answered by Anti Twilight [X] 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to her mom if she still lives at home. But if she steals things, don't worry about being nice, because obviously she doesn't.
2007-11-20 11:07:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her that you have your hands full with 3 kids already and that you don't need her to come over everyday and add to your stress
2007-11-20 11:07:48 · answer #9 · answered by hello. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand why you need to have a "nice" way to tell her to stop.
She's being a pest, you need to be straightforward, not "nice"
2007-11-20 11:08:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just tell her your too busy to have company everyday like that~ if that doesnt work~ lock your doors~ there is no law saying you have to answer it
2007-11-20 11:08:14 · answer #11 · answered by Marine Girl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋