my wife is 12 weeks pregnant how can I get her to have sex with me?

Answer 1

Listen and heed the ladies on this one bud. They know from which they speak. The more support you give her, the better it will be when she IS in the mood.

Been there Done that. Been both the jerk and the loving husband, and believe me, being the loving husband works much much better!!

Answer 2

I know this is something that you are not wanting to hear, but...

"Many pregnant women find that symptoms such as fatigue, nausea, breast tenderness, and the increased need to urinate make sex too bothersome, especially during the first trimester. Generally, fatigue and nausea subside during the second trimester, and some women find that their desire for sex increases. Also, some women find that freedom from worries about contraception, combined with a renewed sense of closeness with their partner, makes sex more fulfilling. Desire generally subsides again during the third trimester as the uterus grows even larger and the reality of what's about to happen sets in.

Your partner's desire for sex is likely to increase or decrease as well. Some men feel even closer to their pregnant partner and enjoy the changes in their bodies. Others may experience decreased desire because of anxiety about the burdens of parenthood, or because of concerns about the health of both the mother and their unborn child.

Your partner may have trouble reconciling your identity as a sexual partner with your new (and increasingly visible) identity as an expectant mother. Again, remember that communication with your partner can be a great help in dealing with these issues."

This is an issue with me. I am 9 wks pg and I am normally a live wire, but lately, I don't even much feel like intimacy. I think it's more hormonal than anything, though.

Answer 3

Hahaha awwwww...... at 12 weeks I didn't quite have my libido back! Morning sickness and extreme constant fatigue suck that right out of you!! Give it time, and hopefully for the both of you this will all turn around within a couple weeks. She may even have a higher sex drive than normal once she's into the second trimester. That's what happened with me, and now I'm the one complaining that he doesn't give it up enough! lol.. Sorry for being so blunt, but let's get to the point, right?

Forgot to mention - in the first trimester for some weird reason I felt absolutely zero attraction to him and the thought of sex made me sick! Maybe that's how she is viewing you? LOL... no worries though, it's obviously just hormones out of whack, and she's obviously attracted to you to get to where she is now. BE MORE SENSITIVE!!!

Answer 4

Sounds to me like you need to ask your wife how she is feeling. A lot of first-time fathers worry that their sex life is going to take a nosedive when their wife or partner becomes pregnant. Well, that's not always true. Sex with your pregnant partner can sometimes be some of the best you'll ever have as a couple. Those hormones are raging through her like some kind of narcotic, and since you've already made a baby neither of you has to worry about birth control anymore!
Having said that, be forewarned that slam-bang-thank-you-ma'am will not cut it with your mama-to-be. If you're going to have great sex-or sex at all–at this time you're going to have to be even more tuned into her than usual. Some weird alien life force has taken over her body like a creature on the X Files, her moods are rocketing up and down, and at any given moment she may or may not care to do the funky chicken with . Bottom line? Relax, put Barry White on the CD, and take it slow.

If she turns you down, try not to take it personally. And if you notice your own interest waning, don't rush out to stock up on Viagra. This is a complicated emotional time for both of you. She's gaining weight, which is a huge issue for most women. Her mother and other family members may be calling more often to chatter and make plans. She may feel like crap in the morning but still have to go to work. At the same time, you're flipping through a Sears catalog of your own emotions. You may be scared shitless about your ability to provide for your growing new family. And as your partner starts spending more time focusing on herself and the baby, more distractions and less intimacy are normal. As a result, you may feel suddenly distanced from your mate and worry about being excluded once the baby comes. All of these issues can throw a bucket of ice water on your sex life.
A good strategy during this time is lots of flowers, candlelight dinners and baths, plenty of cuddling and foot massages-you know the drill. Compliment her on the beauty of her blossoming form. Listen to what's on her mind, and ask for a moment to share what's on yours. A policy of open dialogue can sometimes lead to openings in other areas. Now, more than ever, build the bonfire slowly before loading on the heavy lumber. Spend a little extra time on foreplay and consider including--or culminating with!--oral sex. (Be careful, however, not to blow air directly into her vagina.)

Answer 5

When I am pregnant and in my first trimest I don't even want my hubby to hold my hand. Can you blame me look at what he did to me LOL. You need to be patent and supportive if you make it too big of a deal now you may not ever get sex again. Just wait try to be romantic and caring. When she hits the 2nd trimester things should get better and she should be ready to go. But don't push her, there is a lot of changing going on that you have no clue about.

Answer 6

Your best bet is be romantic.. In any way.. She needs and wants to feel loved.. My husband wondered the same thing, but what he didnt understand was that first of all we are nervous about our baby, second we always fear about miscarriages and third we dont feel the same as we did before we got pregnant. Sex was sex than, fun and wild, now that we have motherly instincts going on we want love and nourishment, not just sex.. (Well most of the time) It would be good to try and romance her, be sweet and take it slow, if that doesnt work, TALK TO HER!!!!!!!!!!!!! Tell her your needs and ask her about hers, maybe something is bugging her..

Answer 7

Right now there is nothing you say that will make her have sex with you but all can do right now is wait, b/c i am sure she is sick and not feeling good......Just be there for her, ask her if she needs anything and when she is ready, i am sure you will know. Plus, right now is the most important time to be helping around the house and tell her she is beautiful, say nice things to her to make her feel better about herself b/c when women are pregnant they start feeling fat and unattractive, but that will all pass...just hang in there....you will do just fine...i know i have been there in her shoes before.

Answer 8

Be patient! She has something else growing inside of her now and will feel very different. Give her time to get used to the idea and if she still has morning sickness give her chance to get over that.

Make her dinner and give her a massage maybe that can get the ball rolling but dont force her into doing something she doesnt want to do.

Answer 9

That depends. Is she refusing sex because she is sick? uncomfortable? afraid? just no sex drive? Its not at all fair to your wife if you are "bugging" her to have sex with you. I have absolutely no sex drive during pregnancy, and my fiance is constantly bugging me about our sex life. He doesn't know this, but I spend a lot of time crying because he makes me feel so bad about not wanting to have sex. I've been giving in about twice a week, but its certainly not enjoyable. Give her time, she may come around.

Answer 10

Understand that she is going through a lot physically and emotionally whether it is evident or not. Just be considerate and patient, tend to her needs and show genuine concern for her. Most likely she'll come around. For me there weren't too many moments in the 9 months that I felt like doing anything but there were some times, other times I did so just because I appreciated my husband's patience and helpfulness so I thought he deserved a little something : )