I am going to be buying a horse hopefully sometime in December (the vet check is in December so hopefully sometime after that). Then in April my mom and I are going to CA for my grandma's 90th birthday party. My sister will be staying home with my dad, and she said she'll go up occasionally to ride my horse while I'm gone. She has ridden before, but isn't that experienced of a rider.
She doesn't know her leg commands, how to put on a saddle, or how to put on a bridle. I am trying to tell her that if she wants to ride my horse, Star, while I'm gone, that she's going to need to lean her leg commands and how to tack up a horse both western AND english.
Star is a dressage horse and you need leg commands to control her. She'll listen to hand commands, but won't listen to it when you want her to stop.
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2007-11-20 02:33:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pets ➔ Horses
My sister rode Star before but only for one time around the ring, then jumped off of her and switched back to the horse she was riding before (an App/Belgian cross...who is bombproof and good with beginners). She had a hard time controling Star when she rode her for that short time, and I'm worried both abotu her safety and Star's safety.
My sister isn't going to be the only one going to ride her while I'm gone, I do have another friend that will be riding her also, but my sister will be probably riding her the most.
How can I explain to my sister that she needs to learn those things before she can ride Star? I've explained the whole thing to her and she just rolled her eyes and walked away.
Star is a really fast horse and can get out of hand if you don't know how to control her.
Thanks in advance!
2007-11-20 02:36:13 · update #1
I do have time to teach her the leg commands and such, but the problem is, whenever I'm at the barn, she can't go either due to school or church (she teachest Sunday school to some little 1st graders).
Star is more of an intermediate/advance horse that can throw a fit if you don't know how to control her. I've already explained to her several times that I fear for both their safety, but she still insists that she's going to go and ride Star whether I like it or not (and she will...I know she will). I've told my parents that until my sister knows how to ride she can't ride Star, but I doubt they'll have her take lessons.
I do have lots of friends that would be happy to come up and either ride Star or lundge her around, and plus I can let the barn owner use her for occasional lessons to get excersize, but I know my sis will come up at least once a week to ride :-p
2007-11-20 02:50:58 · update #2
@gurlhorse
I guess she doesn't really need to be ridden while I'm gone, but she was horrible when I first started riding her (manner and attitude wise) and I don't want her to fall back on all that I taught her.
I have sat down with my parents and explained, but they just don't "get it". My sister is the type of person who would canter on a horse even though she knows that horse bucks when he canters. She's always trying to ride horses that I, personally, don't think she's ready for. She's taken some lessons a long time ago, but never really rode a trouble horse, all the horses she rode were well behaved.
2007-11-20 14:42:20 · update #3
Tell her what u just said..but if she wont listen then just flat out say, "if ur not going to learn how to ride properly than u cant ride my horse". It may get her to think about learning.
2007-11-20 02:39:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Can you put off sale/delivery of the horse until you get back from Grandma's house? That way the people you are buying the horse from can legally say "don't ride that horse until you can prove you know what you're doing."
You could lease the horse until after you get back from Grandma's - that way you - and only you - have the legal right to ride him.
Otherwise, it will be up to your parents to order Sis to stay off the horse.
But there sounds like there's more to this story than you're sharing. I'd urge your family to get some counseling as to why there is favoritism - and what to do about it.
2007-11-20 14:32:25 · answer #2 · answered by Barbara B 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she won't listen there is not much you can do about it. If your parents will let her ride then I suppose she will ride, but she won't have a good time. Your horse won't respond, and likely after Star throws a fit, your sister won't ride again. Sometimes people need to make up their own minds, sounds like your sister may need to see how uncontrollable your horse will be for her before she decides not to climb into the saddle again.
Good Luck.
2007-11-20 12:24:49 · answer #3 · answered by dressage.rider 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have anytime to teach her any of this? If you think she needs a teacher, tell her that you do not feel she is expierenced enough and if she wants to ride your horse while you are gone, then she better get some lesson before. If she doesn't do that, then tell her that you are uncomfortable with her riding your horse while you are gone. You don't want her to get hurt because she can't control the horse or you don't want the horse hurt.
2007-11-20 10:45:34 · answer #4 · answered by blueroan2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lock the barn, stall, or whatever and only give the barn manager the key. Your sister has poor judgement and is a rank idiot. Someone is bound to get hurt, either her, the horse, or God forbid, someone else or someone else's horse. A lawsuit could get ugly, not to say expensive, too.
You can always ask the barn manager to be the "bad guy" in this situation. He/she can say that, for liability reasons, only a VERY experienced rider can ride this horse; one designated by you, and she's not on the list. Put it in writing if you have to.
2007-11-22 15:28:24 · answer #5 · answered by boogeywoogy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she's not prepared to ride the horse before you leave, do not let her ride. That is an accident just waiting to happen. You can't force her to take lessons if she isn't interested. I suggest having somebody else exercise your horse while you're gone and having your sister just go and check up on the horse.
2007-11-20 10:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by fireflyy_101 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either tell your sister, very bluntly, if she doesn't know how to ride Star, she will get hurt. Don't say you probably will, you should always prepare for the worst, and she should learn how to control her.
If she still refuses to lessons, ask a friend or instructor to come out when she goes out to ride.
2007-11-20 14:56:02 · answer #7 · answered by lj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Either way, her or 'star' is going to get hurt.
I would never in a million years let my sister on a advance/experienced dressage horse. But my sister would have the curtosy to understand she wouldnt be ready for it.
Simply tell your parents. Shes going to get hurt, have the barn owner explain everything.
But i think whats going to happen is Shes going to get hurt, or your going to have tons of vet bills. Its a unsafe situation and your parents shouldnt be letting this happen nor should you. Tell the barn owner.
2007-11-20 12:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Frankly, I wouldn't be encouraging her then. It is up to your sister really. If she wants to learn she will.
I for one would not want such a novice up on what appears to be clearly, not a beginners horse. It isn't fair to the horse, and I only see future problems cropping up. Not to mention the safety issues.
LOL It's like letting someone who has not yet gotten their drivers license drive a bus.
2007-11-20 15:31:26 · answer #9 · answered by Tira A 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
try to tell her to take lessons again but if she acts the same then tell her that she is not allowed to ride star ever again espeicially while you are gone. Then make sure to tell at least two people who are routinely at your barn or your dad that under no circumstances is your sister to ride star, and ask your friend if they can ride or lunge star more often.
2007-11-20 10:44:27 · answer #10 · answered by Hersheyluva 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋