Marriage & Commitment?

Question

Why do you marry if you can't make a lifetime commitment?

while I do believe there are always reasons to end a bad marriage, I was just wondering why so many go into it with their blinders on? & then they cause more problems by adding cheating into the mix?

Answer 1

I think people marry to fast and aren't always mature enough to understand the variables at play in a marriage. It's not always easy and people are to quick to give up or they made a poor decision to start with. What's the big hurry , spend some time getting to know each other. You know what they say about , 'fools rush in' !

Answer 2

Marriage and Commitment are only as good as the two people make it. One person cannot remain married by themselves, and if their spouse decides to leave, and does not change their mind, there is little you can do about it. You can't control others, only yourself.

However, I do believe that today, people enter into 'marriage' with the idea that they can "get out" if it doesn't "work out." Not only sad, but very deceptive! They aren't really entering into marriage at all- marriage is a convenant, not a contract or legal status. But, if one does not understand what a covenant is, or the commitment you have to make to fulfill it-most likely they aren't really entering into marriage at all. In fact, I believe that many people marry legally-but very few couples are truly married.

Adultery is the only bonafide reason God allows divorce. However, most people overlook an entire book in the Bible-the book of Hosea. I think if more people read that book, they might look differently on some things. Even if they aren't Christians, a person can still see the suffering and trauma of adultery, and how compassion can heal all.

Answer 3

I wonder the same thing, I think the world would end up with single women raising kids and men all chasing after underage bimbos, if it werent for the fact that it is still seen that for single women to be alone with their kids, they must be whores out for the money and its their fault the bloke ran off.
Most guys I have talked to dont want kids and a lifetime commitment, they see it as taking money away from them. They want to use their money to pay for play stations and other toys for themselves, its women who want kids and the men think they only have them to trap men so they can steal off them and be supported for their whole lives. The guys marry to keep the woman happy so she will ignorantly be "base camp" so if they dont pull down the pub they still have a substitute mother to go home to. These may not represent everybody, but if your view is different, guys, I've not found you!
I dont think many people see it as the lifetime commitment anymore, they cheat because they dont think their partner is worth resisting the temptation and missing out on a quickie with someone else. What they dont know wont hurt them etc. No personal integrity, it has been replaced by simple greed.

Answer 4

I firmly believe that most individuals go into a marriage with the idea that this is a life time commitment. However, there are times when this is impossible. One must do all they can do to work through the issues of any relationship. However, there are things which warrant a divorce. Cheating would be at the top of my list... Even the bible says one does not need to stay in a abusive relationship... God bless****

Answer 5

Because we live in a disposable society where we expect everything to be handed to us. We have disposable cameras, computers, cars, appliances, etc. We look for the here and now and if it does not fit into our pacified little world we get rid of it. My wife and I have 2 sons and been married 23 years. We made a commitment for life. It has not been easy for sure. We have faced and overcome health issues, financial, an affair, alcohol, and other stuff. She is still an awesome lady after 23 years and I do not know of another person I would rather still have as my partner. Also, we, as a nation as a whole, have lost much of its spiritual basis for life and relationships, that is disaster when that happens.

Answer 6

I don't think people get married believing they are gonna get divorced years later or they wouldn't get married!! Most people get married for the right reasons but wrong things come along an mess it up somehow! Are you gonna forgive your husband if he cheats?Things happen that are uncontrollable so yes I married an it wasn't a lifetime commitment!! Some of us are just lucky to have that huh?

Answer 7

We mean it when we get married. But people change and a lot of people grow apart. Most people at 35 are very different than they were at 25. It's part of life. That's why some marriages succeed and others fail.

Answer 8

I have no idea why people do that. marriage is not meant to be broken. what happened to the meaning of the vows??? I personally dont believe in divorce...so it just disgusts me how easily people can get a divorce these days. people have totally thought differently about the true meaning of commitment and marriage. I think its shallow and insensitive.

Answer 9

I did marry for a lifetime commitment. He didn't. It takes 2 to keep it together.

Answer 10

It's pathetic. People on here are so quick to yell divorce. Why even get married in the first place. It's annoying to see these allegedly mature adults whining over every little thing.