would you?
2007-11-20 01:40:22 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Well that's up to your daughter. I was married at 18 and had a baby. I am still happily married almost 4 years down the line and expecting again. I think everybody is different.
2007-11-21 03:55:09 · answer #1 · answered by JENNIFER B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on the situation. I was already in college for 2 years by the time I was 18. Ended up marrying a wonderful guy that'd been a friend turned love and we wanted children right away. I'd grown up working hard and having a very hard life. I had money saved back in the bank, I knew the value of money, we had a house bought, our car was paid for, he was graduating with a bachellors degree in a matter of months so I was a lot more mature and settled than a lot of 18-19 year olds. I became pregnant when I was 19 and have never regretted a thing. However most 18 year olds aren't that settled. I would want my daughter to hopefully be married and able to care for her children in a mature fashion.
2007-11-20 02:10:33 · answer #2 · answered by Piparis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has the rest of her life to be an adult, I think it would be a wiser choice for her to not give birth to any children for at least the next 10 years, during which time she can go to college and try to establish a career. Over the years I have met several young girls both married and unmarried with children, ranging in age from 19 to about 30, some of them had kids before they turned 18. I'm sure there has to be some fulfillment in having children and watching them grow, but I could tell that all the young mothers that I knew, at one time or another they wish they could be doing what other girls their age do who do not have children.
I don't know where your daughter stands financially, if she has a career waiting for her or if she has lots of steaks in the freezer, but if she doesn't already realize it you should tell her that she will save arm's-length amounts of money if she does not have children, and if she does have children she can forget about anything even close to a luxury. I know everyone says that bullshi_ that money doesn't buy you happiness, that material possessions are for shallow people who do not know what true love or happiness is. But to be realistic we all enjoy having nice things, cars, clothes, ipods, shoes, even the computer you are typing and reading this on. If money doesn't buy happiness then why does everyone go to college in order to land a lucrative salary so they can buy all the things they want and don't necessarily need?
Ask your daughter : "Do you want to have to buy diapers and change them or do you want to get new shoes and go to Starbucks with your friends on Saturday night?"
2007-11-20 02:11:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well I had my daughter at 18, And although she wasnt extatic I had my mums full support all the way, I was mature about it and I am so glad that she was there for me, As now she has the most beautiful grand daughter who is now just gone 1. If she hadnt stuck by me she would have missed out on all the amazing things, her first smile, her first little tooth, her first steps, I would have hated her not to be around.
Just to add, I am a mature 19 year old, and being a mum came naturally, I get problems and I miss my old life every now and again but NOTHING compares to my girl, I would never turn back time and change things.
Also my mum had me at 18, shes only 37 now and we are like best friends.
2007-11-20 01:49:29 · answer #4 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No. I wouldn't WANT her to. I would want her to be focusing on school/college at 18 & being an 18 y/o not, a parent, but if she was to have a baby at 18 & she's being responsible about the situation (staying in school, going to college during or after the baby is born) then I would be very supportive. I'm 21 with my 1st & my parents r being very supportive. They're so excited about their 1st granddaughter.
2007-11-20 02:00:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
age is just a number but i would hope my daughter would at least live a little before having a baby, id want her to do all the things i wished id done and have some life experience. but if she did i would support her like a mother should. at 18 your classed as an adult and she would be responsibile for herself anyway so there wouldnt be anything i could do or say. im 19 now and ive wanted a baby since i was 13, so if my daughter at this age felt the same i would understand. but as long as she was mature and could provide for a baby then i would accept her decision. i dont agree with parents who disown their children for having babies young, these things happen they are the child you carried and gave birth to, just because they are bringing another life into the world doesnt mean they are worthless and should be treated like it. my parents had me young and my mums parents done that to her which i think is wrong, but my dad parents accepted it and they made me who i am today.
2007-11-20 02:07:57 · answer #6 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I wouldn't chose that for her (especially if she was still in HS) but I would try to emotionally support her and help her with the baby the best I could. Ideally I would want her to be finished with HS and college, be married, have a house, a good husband and a steady income BEFORE she had a baby but I wouldn't disown her if things didn't work out that way.
2007-11-20 16:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by ♥Ani♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it happened I would support her and help where needed but ideally no! I had my daughter when I was 18 so I know what a hard slog it is. I want her to experience the things I missed but like I said if she came home pregnant I wouldn't force her to have an abortion or anything
2007-11-20 09:48:37 · answer #8 · answered by xoclairexo 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that's what she wanted, ( i'd prefer her to be in a stable relationship ) I'm 19 24 weeks pregnant, and me and all my family are really excited and happy about it!! To be fair my partner earns good money and we can afford to have a child.
I would never try to make my daughters decisions, EVER.. It's her life. I know plenty of people who have had children 18 or even younger and managed.. I supose as well it depends on where u are from in the world, as it's different every where..
Don't make her decisions, as a pregnant wonmen of 19, i would have never forgiven my mum if she tried to make that decision for me..!!
2007-11-20 01:54:06 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa Lou <3 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Of course not! There is so much to learn...so much to see in life that you just can't see when you have a baby to look after.
I'm having my first at 29, and I'm so happy I waited. I got to spend my 20's making mistakes, enjoying life, and just being selfish in a way that I'll never be again.
In my opinion....that's the way to do it.
That said....if my daughter did have a baby at 18, I would support her 100%. It may not be ideal, but it is what it is.
2007-11-20 01:49:55 · answer #10 · answered by Elizabeth C 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋