Do you wish you had experienced more or fewer sexual partners?

Question

When you answer, it would be interesting to know...

If you have had few(0-5)/several(5-39) or many (40+) partners (though if you do not want to answer, naturally, you don't need to)
What stage of life you are in (young, 30something, senior)
Your gender

And finally, do you wish you had experienced fewer partners, the same number, or more.

Just to get the ball rolling. my answer is:

(many/30something/same)

And it would be delightful to hear the reasons you choose your answers.

*if you want your friends to answer, then a star will gently alert them to come and look*

Answer 1

what a question ,being a dog ,
i have to reply the more the better
at least when i was younger

too many people equate sex with love being one
so what does masturbation mean are these narcissistic (same sex)tendencies with most of the world population.

Love is one thing .in fact many things as well ,there are many forms of love ,

often if we are lucky sex and love are with the same person .
but it is NOT true in many cases

Reality is not like the fairy tales ,except for a few very lucky people ,

many partnerships continue more or less happy being faithful because a deviation would terminate the relation ship completely ,because of spoon fed mentalities.

if however the people become isolated their behavior and desires more easily surface.

My Mother who was conservative,and had a totally faithful relationship with my Father ,all through their 50 year old marriage ,later on in life admitted she liked the old Chinese system of a man taking on new wives ,WITHOUT discarding the older ones ,who were of the most importance from the top down.

Letting my Father get on with his watchemacallits,giving her more peace when old ,and having the younger wives do the cooking .cleaning and bed duties so that she could concentrate more on her interests in art.

In Many places in Europe it is acceptable for the man to have a young fluffy on the side ,

and even many women have toyboys to keep the husband from getting tired ,so it comes from both sides .From my experience these ideas came from the husbands

Although these attitudes develop with age
they are unimaginable when just married
unless you are Latin

just my opinion based on discussions with older people and experience
I am over 60 for the record,
at that age anything is welcome

But what about you ,hanging out in Womens studies ,you keep silent about you own desires ,this could be classified as literal voyeurism

But at least we know you are devious
fishing for stars in such a sneaky way .
but no more than me
,i only give stars to my best answers

oh
ha ha

Answer 2

Few (3), I'm in my mid-20's, and I wish I had more.

I, like probably most males, feel very driven to want to have sex with a lot of women. I find at least 1 out of 3 women that I see attractive. But unfortunately, I was the guy that looked like I was about 12 years old as a high school senior. So I never even tried to get any until I was 18. Then I finally got lucky with one girl. Then I met another girl and ended up being her boyfriend for a year. Then we finally broke up and I ended up getting right into another long term relationship that lasted 6 years and turned into marriage. It's not that I don't love my wife and enjoy everything the way it is now. But I'm jealous as hell of all the people that got laid in high school and of girls, especially, that get hit on for sex constantly from the time they're 14 years old.

Answer 3

Several
mid 20s
Female

Sometimes I wish I had fewer partners but only because the number of men I've been with seems high. And when I'm in my next relationship I hate being asked the dreaded question...the exact number. Even tho in the past I've lied and said lower which I think most people do anyways. Obviously if I could I would take some of those choices back but hind sight is always 20/20 right...? So I guess sometimes when I think about it I feel bad about it but in retrospect I really don't see anything wrong with being with "a lot" of guys as long as your safe about it!

Answer 4

Not telling/young(20something)/fewer

I do wish I'd had fewer partners but if I hadn't slept with who I did I wouldn't have some of the knowledge I have today. Some of what I've learned from those past experiences I'm able to share with others and help them.
The biggest realization I had is that those men I met when I was a teenager are sickos. I thought I must be so awesome because I had these older men wanting to spend their time with me. I was nothing to them and they would have never treated me with respect in the long run.
I look at the teenage girls today and see them on TV on a talk show saying how great they because older men want to sleep with them. They don't realize that they could be the most unattractive teen around and the men will still sleep with them because they are a young "piece of a--" giving it up and being pretty is only an added bonus to them.
I wish the teen girls today would find a healthier way of feeling important and getting attention like through personal achievements instead of through false motives from others.

Answer 5

I am a woman. I am forty-six, but I look very young, as if I am barely in my thirties. I grew up in those eras where it was all about "free love." I survived the "me, me, me, mine" generation (TY, Lisa), So, I have had several sexual partners.

I do not regret the numbers or wish I had experienced fewer. My only regret might be those times when I sold out on myself and my beliefs by having meaningless sex with people who were definitely not "partners." Those people with whom I know now we were not on the same wavelength about the meaning of sex.

Suffice it to say that I treasure all the lessons learned, but I wish I didn't have to learn the hard way that for some people sex is just sex, bedroom acrobatics and mindless, self-serving consumerism. "Get in, get off, get out, move on."

At the same time I am glad that all those experiences--including the mind-blowing, heart-expanding, joyful, erotic experiences I have had with true partners--has put me at this stage of my life on the path of sensual celibacy, sexual sovereignty, and freedom from sexual exploitation. I am now committed to sharing that sacred part of myself only with a partner in a relationship in which we share love, mutual respect, equality, spiritual growth, and commitment. What else can I say? You live and you learn.

Answer 6

1) Few (5) Although I do not believe in waiting until marriage I still believe that sex is a sacred act that should be between 2 people who love each other.
2) Young (20 something)
3)Female
4) I am content w/most of my partners because each one was better than the last and I was in love w/most of them. I think that being in love makes sex ok. I am now w/the man who I believe is the one and the sex w/him is the best I've ever had. I do not plan on having sex w/anyone else.
Hope this answers your question!!

Answer 7

few/30something/male

I don't seem to know if I would want more. I tend to be quite quite quite picky for a guy. I certainly could have had a lot more if I liked skanks, but I would not want that. It would have been really nice to have a few more worthwhile partners, or at least one more that I could spend the rest of my life with.

Answer 8

I have had 5-10 partners. I am a senior, Male, I wish I had more partners. Reason is I wish to havedifferent thrilling experience.

Answer 9

Many x 2
Young
Male
I wish I had fewer but higher quality. My mom was one of those people who always bought the giant jars of mayo and the huge blocks of burger beef, so I was raised to value quantity over quality, and often the former was much to the detriment of the latter. I've wasted a lot of my life trying to get girls, and 80% of those experiences I totally could have lived without. The other 20% I'd keep. :)

Answer 10

I'm 34. Had a few partners. There are two women I always had regrets about not pursuing. Other than that I wouldn't wish for more partners. /male