i am goin to keep the child i have told my mum and she is here to help. i am 3 months. what wood u do in my siteuance
2007-11-20 01:23:28 · 57 answers · asked by katie 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I would make sure for certain that you can give the child the best life you can, and that he/she will be happy, and come on guys give the girl a break, like she said, shes THIRTEEN sheesh! Some people I swear only come on here to criticise. You people should sort it out, shes still a kid herself. Leave her alone, she asked for advice, not for you lot to have a go at her.
My friend had a baby at 13, we were at school together and she left to bring up her child, she is now 20 and a fantastic mum, who is also back in college, doing what she missed, shes very happy with her life and wouldnt change anything, its people like you lot that make them look bad. You know NOTHING.
2007-11-20 01:27:11 · answer #1 · answered by Dark Angel 2 · 18⤊ 6⤋
miss* can't spell either by th way... (than not then....)
You have to know what YOU want. to start with, I wasn't having sex at 13 (lol) but there you are, 3 months pregnant. I don't think you should go through the pregnancy just to give the baby for adoption. I think you need to think carefully about what the implications this pregnancy will have for the rest of your life. Your life isn't over BUT pregnancy is only a fantastic experience when you are mentally ready, with no worry about whether or not you are doing the right thing...Wait until you are in your 20's, in love with someone and the experience will be great. At 13, it will be a very stressful and not rewarding time and you'll always feel like this child half belongs to your mum...
2007-11-20 06:14:52 · answer #2 · answered by kittymiffyetcie 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
If you are in fact pregnant I feel very bad for you and for the baby. Your body is still growing and developing. What the heck are you doing having sex anyhow? What about the father? I haven't heard anyone mention him and his family and how they may feel about this. They have as much right as you and your mum. If you can't spell I assume you have trouble reading too. Will you be able to read a bedtime story or teach your child how to read? Are you going to be the one to get up every 3 hours to change a diaper, breast feed (can you even say that without giggling like a little girl) and what will you do when the baby gets an ear infection and screams for hours at a time? Stay in school!!!! You obviously need it! It is my opinion that you should give the baby up for adoption and get some HELP! Not from mum. From a psychologist! You need meds.
2007-11-20 01:46:55 · answer #3 · answered by In love with 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
How can you bring up a child when you're only a child yourself?
You should be concentrating on getting a good education (your spelling is atrocious, hope you understand that word), and only think of having a baby when you're mature enough to cope - preferably in a stable (married?) relationship.
I seriously hope this question is a fake because if it isn't, you have seriously screwed up your life.
Having a baby isn't like having a puppy you know. It's a full time commitment for at least 18 years.
2007-11-20 03:08:31 · answer #4 · answered by chip2001 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
A girl in my class is pregnant (she's 15) and she gets all sorts of flack from the entire school, so be prepared for it. People don't normally take teenage pregnancy's well.
Also, having a child is a big task, it's not gonna be a walk in the park. Baby's cost a lot, they cry a lot, the poop a lot. It's gonna take up ALL your time, but the best thing you can do is stay in education and give the child the best future you can. You'll have to say goodbye to your social life, because believe me, you mum will not appreciate having a baby dumped on her all the time. Your mum is their to HELP not take over.
Well good luck for the future and I hope everything turns out okay x.x
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2007-11-20 01:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by MegSTAR 3 · 2⤊ 3⤋
i understand peoples views of you still being very young but i respect your decision a lot as not many girls your age could take on this reponsibility. when i was your age i felt like i was a lot older and though i knew it all. im now 19 and realise how wrong i was. if i had a baby at your age i know i wouldnt have coped because i was still a child myself (and i wanted a baby since i was 11). but if you are mature enough to have sex then you are mature enough to accept the consequences. it was just meant to be and it will make you a better person in the end. accept everyones support as its going to be a tough ride, but itll be worth it in the end. you can do it if you are dedicated enough, but be prepared for hard work as its not easy. i wish you all the best.
2007-11-20 02:19:44 · answer #6 · answered by * Mummy to 2 Girls * 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
i would probably done the same has you only if i was sure and i had my families support behind me, this is going to be very hard for you wether you are 13 or 30, it is not a easy thing to do i just hope you realise that your life is going to be so much different from now on, and do me one thing, once baby is born go on the pill and try not to be one of these mothers that lets the grandparent do all the hard work,your mum will be there to guide you and that is great but dont take her for granted and you should do well all the best and good luck
2007-11-20 01:56:48 · answer #7 · answered by babycakes11 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Honey I don't know your situation. Can you still go to school, will someone take care of your baby with love and patience whenever you're not around, and what about the daddy? Adoption is always better if the child is likely to face a life of tears and heartbreak. You have to consider your situation as it really is.
2007-11-20 01:32:57 · answer #8 · answered by Margie K 2 · 7⤊ 0⤋
well its illegal for you to have had sex in the first place. its a form of rape if youre not old enough to give your consent. you have to be at least 16 to be having sex. your body isnt going to cope with pregnancy well. also, how can your mum offer help if you're in care? also, you shouldnt be smoking anything at your age, and defo shouldnt be self-harming. your poor child is gonna be so messed up. i think you should give it up for adoption so you can get on with your life. in 6 months time youll regret your decision. youll also need some sort of income to pay for things. you wont get it all for free. you cant claim any benefits for you or your child until youre 16. i think you were stupid enough to get yourself into this situation, so you can sort it out yourself without any of our help.
2007-11-22 00:30:36 · answer #9 · answered by lolcat <3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's going to be very tough for you but I hope you don't use it as an excuse to let your life and education go down the drain. You've got your mothers support which is fantastic so I hope you decide to be the best mother you can, finish your schooling and make the most of the situation you are in.
Best of luck with everything now and in the future. xx
2007-11-20 07:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
I am glad you are keeping your child. Remember though that babies are not toys. This is a big responsibility.
Try not to worry. Take this one day at a time. With the right support, babies really are not that expensive.
Find your local care clinic; try this: http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp
Consider home school for the next few years.
Consider a home birth (with an experienced midwife.)
Plan to breastfeed; it is the perfect first infant food and is free!
2007-11-20 02:19:11 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋