Do you forgive and forget easily or take revenge?

Answer 1

well, forgive and forget are totally different.
I will forgive someone easily. Not forgiving is just harming yourself, not the person who did you wrong.
I will try to never forget the wrong tho. You are doomed to repeat what is forgotten. If I forget the mistreatment, it is likely to be repeated.

revenge is for the weak. I dont' take revenge because it is again just as harmful if not more harmful to myself.

Answer 2

If you do not forget then the forgiveness from within has not taken place. It is said by some old folks that Your prayer is granted as per your intensity of forgiveness. Here , most say that they have a 100% capacity to forgive ; If such was the case all would have become GOD. because god can only forgive. EXAMPLE : it is morning ; while jogging you happen to stumble against a small stone or pebble, but later by the time you reach home you forget the incident easily as if it has never happened there is no thoughts of forgiveness. Here doer & the forgiver is both the self. our every action generates energy which interacts with the aura of our soul. Without the thought of forgiveness if you forget incidents which are unpleasant or which are really hard to forget . this will take you to a plane where you will be forgiven always & your prayer will be attended by the lord himself. - god bless you

Answer 3

I think forgive and forget. I don't let a lot of things bother me. Taking revenge is gonna make everything worse, but only the ones with a good heart can forgive and forget. And I try to do that. i try my best to forgive !

Answer 4

I have learnt to forgive and forget for a very selfish reason, because I do not wish to be born again in human form to either take revenge or be a person against whom the revenge is sought to be taken by someone else. I know it is a futile attempt but at least I have taken a small step in the right direction.

Answer 5

In time, I may learn to forgive. But it also depends on the gravity of the matter. Some things cannot be forgiven.

Forget is an impossible task because humans are blessed with the power of memory and unless it is tampered with, there is no way, I can forget. And even if time does heal all wounds, the scars will always remain.

Revenge is only human's nature. So yes. I am a vindictive person. People should not view revenge as evil. If there is no vengeance in this world, people will be more evil because there is no fear of retribution.

Answer 6

Forgive 43%
Forget 14%
Revenge 43%

Answer 7

Good question. It makes me think of a story I heard (please forgive me if bore you :-D)

Well, a teacher took a glass of water one day and showed it to his pupils. He asked then how heavy they throught it was. Lots of answers came flooding in, but the general consensos was about 250g (lets say).

Ok, so he holds the glass up in the air and askes the students what they think will happen. They all around, thinking, well, nothing! After two minutes he was still holding up the glass, and he asked the students what they thought his arm was feeling. They were all like, "Well tired, what do you expect?" So he holds it up for five minutes, and by this time his arm is shaking cause its so tired. So he again asks the students what they think his arm is feeling, and again everyone said it was probably tired and sore.

So the teacher, putting his now numb arm down, asks them, how they think he would have fealt if he had continued to hold his arm like that for another hour? Another day? A week? The answers all varied in levels of pain, numbness and discomfort. Then he asked a very starteling question. He asked then if the weight of the glass had changed. Everyone said no, it had stayed the same. So they weight hadn't changed, but the teacher had made himself tired by holding the glass in the air.

Now, not forgiving is like that. You have a problem (that is the weight of the glass). Now you can either forgive and move on (like putting the glass down) or you can hold it there, making it feel worse and worse with every passing minute, for no reason other than pride. Holding the glass is like holding a grudge: it takes up energy, makes you tired and unhappy. Its also volentery.

So in the end the story helps me remember that its way easier to forgive and forget than to hold a grudge, or take revenge. :-)

Answer 8

I forgive easily.
I don't forget easily.
I never take revenge.

There are people that really were mean to me in the past. I was furious and mad at them. Time has passed by and my feelings are at ease. I have prayed for them, but I can't exactly say I forgot what they did to me. Sometimes I remember what I felt at that time, and I still can feel the pain. I ask God "help me forgive them, cause I don't know if I can and touch their hearts, God, so that they realize how mean they were to me". That's how far I can get with my forgiveness. I humbly admit that forgiveness sometimes is a long process. It is not so easy and I would be hypocrite if I say "I forgive them". That wouldn't be honest.

We will see... I am still working on that. I know that if I don't really forgive them and that means love those people again, I will return with them in next life, but that's OK. That's the price I will have to pay.

Peace!

Answer 9

Depends on what the person has done.
I do not forget, nor do I seek revenge.

Forgiveness, well I don't think I fully forgive someone, because I see way too many people trying to lie their way back into peoples' god books.

I can be civil, but I remember how people have wronged me. I do not usually forgive, forget or seek revenge. I do believe in karma though.

In the words of JFK: Forgive your enemies, but do not ever forget their names.

Answer 10

Good Friend:
I hope you will accept my confession on this subject because I know that I carry darkness in my heart due to two events in my life. I also know that I must find a way to release this so it does not represent a scar on my soul when my life is over. The first situation resulted in my father's death and even though it has been forty years I can not forget or truly forgive those responsible. The second event destroyed my successful business, imperiled my family and led to my "Dark Night of the Soul" (Saint John of the Cross). I should point out the upside to this one. The second event I described created such palpable darkness that, when God choose to grant me his grace, I was totally transformed by the love I felt from God and for God. I still can't forget the pain and loss I experienced.