I found out Saturday that my ex has a friend living with her now. This friend is a drug addict and an alcoholic and has been on the wagon many many times. They also are Bipolar and I don't know if they take their medication but they weren't on it the last time I saw them and they were very manic. She threw this person out after being with them for only a week because this person drove her crazy. I doubt this person has changed in three months. Do you think this will last with them living together or will my ex eventually get tired of this person and throw them out again? It didn't work the first time. I'm just worried about her. She seems to be desperate around the Holidays and she needs someone there to do for her, yard work etc. so I'm guessing that's why they are there. I can't talk to her because she's pissed at me so we aren't speaking. When this person leaves I'm sure she'll start talking to me again. It's the case of I have my friend I don't need you kind of thing.
2007-11-19 23:51:10 · 11 answers · asked by Patrick 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If this person is your Ex....then why do you care? Get on with your life and stop worrying about something that's not under your ability to control. It seems like your ex isn't concerned about you. So why give her the satisfaction that if things don't work out with her new goofy roommate that all she has to do is call you and your friends again like nothing happened. Ex's are Ex's for a reason. Move on!
2007-11-20 00:03:53 · answer #1 · answered by Hosedragger46 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
They might change. I know two people who are still together, my ex and their not an ex, and they've been together for eight years now, despite the difficulties. I guess the challenges of mania without meds are more exciting than other challenges in life. To each their own. You know desperation for other people is part of it sometimes, since you seem to know about bipolar disorder and its often accompanying diagnosis of borderline personality disorder. You should try to apologize for whatever you said or did that made her angry just so you can still somewhat be her friend again, if you care so much. I mean it. Of course, I don't know if you guys were friends first, then loves, so maybe it's different if you were just loves. Try if you wish.
2007-11-20 07:58:32 · answer #2 · answered by dumbuglyweirdo 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Patrick,
I appreciate your concern for your ex. That is something nice and rare to see these days. Good. Having said that, the best thing your could do now is to just be on the stand by and be ready to supprt her if she needs any. If you are in good talking terms, you could drop a line when she is sober or alone that she should not end in trouble. But, she may abuse you or hurt you. Your good heart may be able to take it though. If you still love her and wnat to be with her, go ahead and extend your hand. Give her confidence to work things back between you and her. And give her all the time to build back. Or else, just be on the standby and be ready to help her when she needs. You are good, but, not everyone may appreciate that. And it could lead to hurts. Try not to get hurt.
Take care..
2007-11-20 08:11:38 · answer #3 · answered by doer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
exes are called exes for a reason. you can care about her but do it from afar. you stepping in will only make it worse on how you two are with one another. if she only needs you when no one is there, why put yourself through that. cut your ties and let her live her life the way she chooses to.
2007-11-20 08:50:19 · answer #4 · answered by jstagirl1969 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear, i appreciate your feelings for your Ex, but due to your ego, you are unable to express them to her. I strongly recommend you that speak to her frankly and if required to cool her, say an apology to her, because you want to be with her for the life time. The relationship are built on mutual understanding, cooperation and adjustment. I wish all success in making your relationship with your Ex.
2007-11-20 08:08:56 · answer #5 · answered by sriram_rahi 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If shes thrown him out before shes most likley to do it again try talking to her and telling her your sorry at least that way you can still be in the picture and now whats going on.
2007-11-20 07:55:28 · answer #6 · answered by niknak 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She's your ex for a reason, stay out of it and get on with your own life.
2007-11-20 08:01:42 · answer #7 · answered by cooter726 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Loneliness can make people behave foolishly. You can only hope things will work out for her and that you can be there for her when they don't.
2007-11-20 08:03:44 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
if you ex has custody of your kids get a lawyer and get custody of them now... other than that, just don't speak to the ex anymore...
2007-11-20 08:05:08 · answer #9 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't worry. She may dump him and hook up with someone else that's just like him or worse.
2007-11-20 07:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋