Should we get married?

Question

Me and my boyfriend have been together for a year. I KNOW that he is the one for me and vise versa. I can really be myself with him. Yes we have our fights but we both are trying to make things work! We are talking about getting married sometime next year. I'm 24 and he is 26. We are both grown and old enough to make our own decisions. His family loves me! I love them to! I feel so comfy around them. They treat me like part of the family. My family can't seem to warm up to my boyfriend. He has made some mistakes in the past but he has turned his life around 360 degrees. My family never liked any of my boyfriends. Especially my mom. Should I get married to this man knowing how my family feels about him? HELP!

Answer 1

You just said you are old enough to make your own decisions, so do it.
I can't believe people ask these questions on here like "Should we get married" or "does he love me" We know nothing of your situation and if you give any thought to some of the answers you get here like "go for it"....You are by no means old enough to make your own decisions.

Answer 2

Sweet,
You became friends with him knowing he had done some mistakes. And you have been going strong with him and also his family. So, what makes you think about Mom and family now? Has something happened to prompt you to think of this now? Listen, I appreciate it if your BF has turned 360degrees and regret the mistakes he did. But what were those mistakes? Why could not your family pardon those? Is it just their ego or is there something more? It is easy to decide this way or that way, but, please think about it all before you decide. Because finally you should not end up paying by your life. Pause a while, think about it all, assess yourself and then decide. Since you are both old enough and mature, and since you know each other well, you can get married anytime. But it would be better if you do it with the blessing of your family also. If you could take them also with your wish, it would be best. Give some time, think it over, see how you could win them over, do whatever you could and then proceed.
Take care.. And all the best.

Answer 3

At some point you have to make decisions for yourself. If I were you though, I would give it a little more time. I think that it is healthy to wait at least 2 years after you start dating to make a commitment.

In-laws are a big issue in a lot of relationships. My husband and I each have a difficult parent. We both like them but they can be hard to deal with. A lot of people are in that situation. Just know that things don't change in that area when you get married. In-laws are still difficult to deal with at times.

Answer 4

Once a guy messes up, the girls parents are done with him. Even if he shapes up, parents don't forget; and they don't easily forgive; because they love their daughter and anyone who hurts her is their enemy. If this man has truly changed, it will take time for him to win your parent's respect again. Should you decide to marry him, you'll have to do so with this in mind. If he makes you a good life, your parents will eventually forgive him. But if he messes up again, you'll hear about it for as long as your parents live!

BTW: Mothers are usually right about these things. They can see through a guy pretty quicklly. It wouldn't be a bad idea to talk with your mom and find out what she sees, before you tie the knot. You are of course grown and you can do as you like, but it won't hurt to touch bases with your mom. Talk to her on an adult level and she'll give you an adult response.

Answer 5

Your family love you and worry about you. Think about it - would you give your blessing to your little sister, if she has a man with a past?
Your boyfriend has to earn their trust. His family obviously have no issues with you - have you got the same sort of past? Probably not. So they've got nothing to worry about.
You're still young, get engaged. No one can tell if your marriage will be a mistake or not. I hope not, I hope everything comes up smelling of roses. But only time will tell.

Answer 6

I think eventually yes, but get to know him a little better. If mom/family doesn't like any of your boyfriends, it really doesn't matter because they won't like anyone. Marriage is a serious commitment, so take your time and do it right ---- don't become one of those divorce statistic. Make it last forever with the right guy.

Answer 7

You said it yourself, your both old enough to make grown up decisions. At the end of the day, got with your heart.

Answer 8

Go Ahead, because in the marriage each others interest is involved which you both have since one year, apart from it this guy, he realized his mistakes and corrected them which is appreciable. You are going to stay in his house for the life time for which understanding between you, your husband and their parents is very much required, which you are telling that there is comfortable atmosphere in your in laws house and his parents are also liking you very much. Please try to convince your parents, or ask your in laws to speak to your parents for both of your future. Parents are much worried about our future, keep this in mind and make them realize that you will be comfortable with him for your life time. I wish all success for both of you.

Answer 9

You said your adults and you make your own decisions, so what do you care what your mother thinks. Sounds kinda selfish to me. Confront your mom, get it all out in the open.

Answer 10

It is your life, so yes....marry him. My brother had a similar situation, and he ended up marrying his wife. And in the end, my parents came around. Parents just want you to be happy in the end. Follow your heart. Good Luck!