Would you sign a Prenup. agreement b4 you married?

Question

You are going to Law School, he's working as a cable installer...never went or plans to go to college. Each person's family has $ yet his might have a little more.

He say's...If I buy a house when we are married and then we break up I'll give you what *I* feel is FAIR.I feel if you want to sign a Prenup on what you had b4 the marriage then that'd be fine but when getting stuff together during the marriage I feel both of us should get 1/2 if we were to split.

Any tips?What do you feel?Yes,why? No,why?

I'll sign his because I love him and I don't see us breaking up but you never know now days.

Answer 1

I'd only sign if the terms were agreeable to both of us.

The pre nup is an indication of how he views what is fair and equitable during the marriage. If it were 50/50 as you feel, then I would see this as an equal partnership. The way your fiance views the pre nup and marriage is that there is no partnership, he is the dominant partner and will make the final decision.

Answer 2

Yes. I don't think it's a matter of trust. I believe it's a matter of both husband and wife maintaining sovereignty over their own income. Two people can work together paying bills and expenses while maintaining separate accounts. It's much less messy if both husband and wife have listed their separate assets and decided who gets what if the marriage doesn't work out. Stuff happens. People grow apart. There's no shame in a getting a prenup. It also protects the inheritance of the children that the spouses have from a previous relationship or marriage. Edit- I should add that contrary to popular belief there are just as many professional females that stand to lose out from not getting a prenup as there are men. Would gigolos exist otherwise? male

Answer 3

Yes I would sign a prenup with the clear understanding that it only applies to assets you each had prior to married .Assets acquired during the marriage even those acquire using holdings from assets controlled by either spouse prior to the marriage should become shared assets.
I choose to think of marriage from a historic biblical point of reference. as such marriage was approached from both future spouses with a lifetime death do us part commitment. If a man chose a wife he was committed to support her for life even if sent her back to her family for any reason unless he could prove her unfaithfulness which could cost her her life. subsequently there where very few divorces.
Marriage is a covenant agreement that you make before witness and God to be honored for a life time which makes so special. Now the world's concept of marriage has become nothing more than a promise to keep if you feel like. But not so with God. Strong character, integrity, long lasting sustainable love, faithfulness and commitment are the kinds of things that i would most worry about in a marriage not who gets to keep what when we break up. Any thing less will almost always guarantee you will someday breakup.

Answer 4

I'm married and I would have never signed a prenup! Why bc I feel like if someone really loves u, then why does money matter so much? That's something u are going to have to decide for yourself. Anything gained in a marriage though is equally belongs to both parties involved. No man will ever give what he thinks is right if you split bc, they will be pi$$ed off! Think about it.......It's like you are already planning for a divorce!

Answer 5

Hi hunnie... To begin with Congratulations on your upcoming marriage.... Please dont stress to much over this subject... You are in love and he is in love ... Focus on the now .... Otherwise you both use up so much energy you will only see the negative.... Enjoy each other and the wonderment of your new life together and all it brings!
If you chose to have a pre nup; then my advice would be to ensure it is safe and fair for you both.. IE: what you have prior to the marriage is yours and what is attained during the marriage is equally shared .... And the doesnt include the dog!
Please just really enjoy each other... dont worry about the future because it can change in a blink!!! Therefore ensure you BOTH have Wills and they are executed by an impartial person of good stead... Remember a Will pre marriage will be null & void post marriage...
Please enjoy today.. Tomorrow is for the wisest of all !!
Best of Luck
Shez : )

Answer 6

Well, there are so many lawyers that lawyers don't make that much money anyways.

I would sign a prenup if I had assets I wanted to protect, mine or my entitlement to his, but since I don't, what's the point? Things earned in our relationship are already split. we live together everything we own and earn is 'ours', that's how I think a couple should live and if a couple lives this way, divorce should be something that protects the lower earning spouse. Meaning, he should sign it only if he is protecting his right to your potential earnings in the event of divorce if you do end up making more money than him.

Answer 7

I would not sign one, even if it meant I would lose alot of stuff or money in the end... for richer or poorer is the vow... 'til death do you part... that's the vow... signing a pre-nup is like totally going against the vows... I'd rather go into the marraige w/ 100 percent trust that the other person will keep the vows too... w/o trust, you don't have marraige... it's like saying, "something might happen one day"... it's like saying, you think your spouse may change...

Answer 8

I wouldn't sign one ever, for any reason. To me it's like saying you don't expect the marriage to last and I need a way to screw my spouse out of what is rightfully theirs.

Answer 9

not a chance in hell. if we we're talking about old money, i'd think about it but, not when it comes to future earnings. that fact that we'll give you what "he" feels is fair,in the event of divorce, is a huge red flag.

Answer 10

thats a tough one..I married my husband not really knowing how much money he really had, and it turns out he had alot, and I had absolutely nothing to show for myself, no college a crap job, and he had his house mostly paid off already( he was 28 when I met him, I was 21) and he had a good job,
so if he asked me to sign one, I would, knowing that if we ever did break up, there is no way I could say anything was mine...we have two kids now, and I am a stay at home mom, so even still now six years into our marriage, I have not contributed anything financially, so I would never ever ask him for the house, or even my crappy van I drive.
I could understand why he would like to protect his earnings and his house that he paid for.
but every marriage is different, so good luck to you