Lately a big sex issue has arisen between my boyfriend and I.
We have been together a year he is 32, I am 27.
He couldn't get enough of me in the past but lately my boyfriend just wants to sleep all the time and is never horny. Thing is he won't even try to get in the mood - am not used to that, every guy I have been with is fairly easy to warm up and when I am not in the mood I at least try and get in the mood.
The rejection is ruining my self esteem. On the flipside however he is clearly very comfortable with me, spends alot of time with me, always cooks me nice meals etc. We are thinking of moving in together next year but the sex thing is getting me down. I have asked him about it, he insists he's not bored but just tired all the time lately. Also he has NEVER been adventourous in bed so suggestions of spicing things up are a no no - it is very clinical to him. What can I do? I need to feel desired.
2007-11-19 22:19:22 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Aha! Sex rears its ugly head once again, I see! Sex in my view is relatively unimportant: it is only a very small part of a relationship. Be grateful for what you have - if anything further happens, look upon it as a bonus. Good luck!
2007-11-19 22:26:26 · answer #1 · answered by colonel25743 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Tired all the time" is not acceptable. He has a problem, maybe with long-term intimacy, depression or whatever. Do not move in with him unless you can resolve this issue.
It sounds like you're sexually incompatible and the blunt truth is: you can't change another person. Yes, being constantly rejected as a woman ruins your self-esteem. That he's otherwise a "nice guy" doesn't make up for the lack of sex. Don't kid yourself...if he can't be bothered to deal with this, why should you?
Do you want a lifetime without sex? Just imagine 10, 20, 30 years of going without sex. Imagine how you'll feel as a woman after all this time. I think you'll find your answer.
2007-11-19 22:32:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
A man may sexually peak in his twenties but that does not mean he abstains from it. Far from it... I am a sleeper yet would love to jump in the sack more spontaneously as well as through a romantic evening when we take the time. Complacency is easy... if he shows no motivation now, honey read the writing on the wall. You are wanting and needing attention and the fact that he is so "clinical" in the sack, you need to move on. He will not change and you need it.
2007-11-19 23:03:06 · answer #3 · answered by lazydaysranch 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are really getting ready to have a let down. You will be hitting your sexual peak in a few more years. He hit his in his late teens and early to mid twenties. Just try maybe taking a short vacation together. A new atmosphere may spark up the sex life.
2007-11-19 22:24:55 · answer #4 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just lose interest after a while. Unless you want to live with a less than satisfying sex-life, I would get out of this relationship asap.
2007-11-19 22:27:24 · answer #5 · answered by asldfkjdfj 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its just a stage it will pass,try not to demand sex,but instead seduce him...the best way to get a man is to stimulate his mind without been obvious...don't ask for sex anymore,just play along with him,tease him but don't go all the way,sooner or later he will fall for it and give you what you want.
2007-11-19 22:34:07 · answer #6 · answered by ericktravel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you put on some weight, be sexy you are a lady
2007-11-19 22:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋